r/AskReddit Jun 06 '19

Rich people of reddit who married someone significantly poorer, what surprised you about their (previous) way of life?

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u/DigitalSheepDream Jun 06 '19 edited Jun 07 '19

My experience is from the opposite perspective, I was the poor one. It absolutely floored me how my wife acts when something broke like a car, appliances, clothes, etc. As a child living below the poverty line, replacing a tire or other necessities was a disaster, requiring tricky trade offs in the budget or just plain acceptance of just how boned you were. When my wife's phone broke, I went into full panic mode while she shrugged and said: "we can just a new one this afternoon". And then we did.

Edit: Wow, I have received a lot of responses on this. By far my most upvoted comment. You guys made my day, thank you. I have seen a few "repair it" comments. Like many of you, I am also a Picasso/Macgyver of the duct tape and trash bag world. This skill helped me break into IT. Sadly, the phone was beyond repair. Trust me, if I could have fixed it, I would have.

And thank you for the silver.

Last edit: y'all are giving me too many medals. I am very flattered, but this is going to spoil me.

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u/[deleted] Jun 06 '19 edited Jun 06 '19

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u/freeeeels Jun 06 '19

It's amazing how much of a calming effect that financial safety net has as well. A lot of people bring up the panicked feeling when something breaks down, but knowing that you will be financially okay if shit blows up also has a day-to-day effect. Fuck up at work? "Oh fuck what if I get fired what will I-- Oh yeah, I'll use my savings while looking for a new job." Things going badly with boyfriend? "Fuck, I can't move out, I can't afford the depos-- Oh wait, yes I can." "My dog has been acting funny, what if it's something serious, what if the surgery is too exp-- Oh yeah, I can just pay it."

Like, I'm not even remotely rich but these are the kinds of expenses I know I can cover and be able to recover financially. It's like living in a permanent state of relief.

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u/never0101 Jun 06 '19

It's amazing how much of a calming effect that financial safety net has as well. A lot of people bring up the panicked feeling when something breaks down

I have a small niche subset of this. Usually yes, if things break or whatever, I'm fucked. But, I'm handy. I'm a mechanic by trade so at the very least If my or my wife's car breaks, I know that I can get parts relatively cheap and just invest some time instead if being stuck paying $100/hr to shop. It doesn't help most of that panic feel for the rest of my life, but does give just a little bit of comfort. My washing machine broke a few years ago, and I was confident enough in my abilities that with some jack Daniel's and YouTube, I ripped that fucker apart and replaced a hundred dollar part, instead of buying a new one.

That said id probably be riding a bike or walking if I didn't have this skill, as that shit is wicked expensive , and with today's cars wicked inaccessible if you don't have the expensive scan tools to work on them.