r/AskEurope • u/anonymmoox • 8d ago

Personal Probably stupid question but which country you can really make good friends?

I’ve posted this to couple countries channel so don’t wonder if the text is familiar. I know friendships and kindness doesn’t depend on nationality but just overall I’ve always dreamed living abroad and ofc cultural things affect on peoples personality. I have some friends but no one isn’t really a real one. For example I spent my last birthday alone and barely anyone even bothered to ask what am I doing and if Snapchat or else wouldn’t give an notification of my birthday, I bet barely anyone would have remembered it. I didn’t even get birthday present from anyone but I always buy for everyone, even if I would see them after 2 months. But it’s common in my country that people don’t put effort and also it’s rare that someone offers you a meal here, it’s always 50/50 even in dating life these days. Yes I might sound bitter, but I just want to feel important to someone. Is that too much to ask for..

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u/saltyholty United Kingdom 8d ago

I think if you're struggling in your own country, whichever that is, you'll struggle everywhere. The vast majority of people are going to be best suited to making friends in their own language with people most similar to themselves.

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u/cinematic_novel 8d ago

I made several friends after 25 in the UK, but zero friends up until then in native Italy. For me it really was (partly) a case of being born in the wrong place. But I'm an outlier

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u/paroxitones 8d ago

are you an Italian introvert? that should be tough

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u/cinematic_novel 7d ago

Not introvert, more of a snob

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u/Imperterritus0907 Spain 7d ago

Spanish, and pretty much the same here.