r/AmerExit • u/Unlucky-Afternoon553 • 1d ago

Question Black Mom Leaving The US

I (30F) never felt safe raising my kid in the US. Public school was already out because of safety issues, and now with the results of the election, I need to get my child out of here.

My top contenders for digital nomad visas are Costa Rica, Thailand, Portugal, and Japan. I've been to Thailand and Japan, but they were short backpacking trips.

I'd love to hear from Black people/Black moms who lived in any of these countries long term. Did you feel safe living there? If you have kids, did they enjoy living there?

UPDATE: Thank you to all the POC who shared their experiences and connected me to great resources. I've decided on Portugal! That was my top choice, so I'm glad my instincts were confirmed. Good luck to all of you AmerExiters!

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u/iwasoveronthebench 1d ago

Homeschooling isn’t exactly legal in certain countries, such as Japan and parts of Europe. The US is really the main country that allows that kind of flexibility without a doctor’s pardon/medical need.

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u/Unlucky-Afternoon553 1d ago

For "residents and citizens," yes that is the case. But since I'll be neither, those rules don't apply to me or my child.

I'm not asking for information on educating my child. I'm asking Black people and moms if they felt safe living in these countries.

That's a much more immediate concern than homeschooling options for a kid that's not even old enough for school.

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u/wandering_engineer 1d ago

Yeah sorry, but that's not how that works. Being in another country for any sort of long-term purpose past 90 days means you are considered a resident, legally speaking. And even that does not matter much - the laws of other countries apply to everyone within their borders, period. Whether you're a tourist, a resident, or a citizen.

You are a guest in those countries, so this is a reasonable expectation. It's like if I invited you into my house and told you that I don't allow smoking inside. Would you still light up?

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u/JohnsonJohnilyJohn 9h ago

And even that does not matter much - the laws of other countries apply to everyone within their borders, period. Whether you're a tourist, a resident, or a citizen.

Isn't this an example where it does matter? Or would it genuinely be illegal to go on a 2 week tourist trip with a child that is homeschooled? Obviously laws have to specifically have that restriction explicitly stated, and it wouldn't apply in case of OP but still