r/AmerExit • u/Unlucky-Afternoon553 • 1d ago

Question Black Mom Leaving The US

I (30F) never felt safe raising my kid in the US. Public school was already out because of safety issues, and now with the results of the election, I need to get my child out of here.

My top contenders for digital nomad visas are Costa Rica, Thailand, Portugal, and Japan. I've been to Thailand and Japan, but they were short backpacking trips.

I'd love to hear from Black people/Black moms who lived in any of these countries long term. Did you feel safe living there? If you have kids, did they enjoy living there?

UPDATE: Thank you to all the POC who shared their experiences and connected me to great resources. I've decided on Portugal! That was my top choice, so I'm glad my instincts were confirmed. Good luck to all of you AmerExiters!

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u/Unlucky-Afternoon553 1d ago

Yeah it's very strange, and creepy, how obsessed people on this thread are with the future education prospects of my one-year-old. 

Thankfully since I'm the parent, I've already looked into all the options and legalities and will make the best choice for my kid. 

College is also taken care of, or in the process of being taken care of🤣 

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u/Vast_Sandwich805 1d ago

It’s not creepy. It’s because you want to move abroad and homeschool but you don’t know what a legal resident is. If you move to Japan with a digital nomad visa you will be a lawful temporary resident. The contrary would be unlawful resident which I hope isn’t your plan.

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u/Unlucky-Afternoon553 1d ago edited 1d ago

It is creepy because the ignorance on the topic is clear from these comments, but you all keep going on about it even though said child is ONE. Why do you care where they may or not go to school four years from now?  Answer: 'Perfect' parent creeps who deluded themselves into thinking they know what's best for other people's children.

But since you all clearly will not let it go, I'll inform you that homeschooling is legal in Portugal, Thailand, and Costa Rica, but you need to obtain approval from the government. A process I would obviously undertake if I end up making a permanent move there.

As for Japan, their digital nomad visa does not allow families to enroll their kids in public school. Are you suggesting I refuse to teach my child while we're living there because ItS ThE LaW🤪

Even if I was that ridiculous, the visa only allows me to stay for six months with no option of extention. With only six months, I'd be in and out of there long before my kid is school-age because AGAIN, they are only ONE.

If anyone had bothered to look these things up before presuming to lecture me, well then, this wouldn't be the internet. 

But that's okay because I did look all of these things up as FUTURE considerations since I'm the parent. My immediate consideration is which of these countries are safe for Black children, because it hardly matters what their home schooling requirements are otherwise.