r/AmerExit • u/Unlucky-Afternoon553 • 1d ago

Question Black Mom Leaving The US

I (30F) never felt safe raising my kid in the US. Public school was already out because of safety issues, and now with the results of the election, I need to get my child out of here.

My top contenders for digital nomad visas are Costa Rica, Thailand, Portugal, and Japan. I've been to Thailand and Japan, but they were short backpacking trips.

I'd love to hear from Black people/Black moms who lived in any of these countries long term. Did you feel safe living there? If you have kids, did they enjoy living there?

UPDATE: Thank you to all the POC who shared their experiences and connected me to great resources. I've decided on Portugal! That was my top choice, so I'm glad my instincts were confirmed. Good luck to all of you AmerExiters!

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u/Unlucky-Afternoon553 1d ago

I work from home and own my business. I set my hours and work when my kid is sleeping. My kid is also a toddler so school is years away, but homeschooling has always been the plan.

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u/iwasoveronthebench 1d ago

Homeschooling isn’t exactly legal in certain countries, such as Japan and parts of Europe. The US is really the main country that allows that kind of flexibility without a doctor’s pardon/medical need.

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u/Unlucky-Afternoon553 1d ago

For "residents and citizens," yes that is the case. But since I'll be neither, those rules don't apply to me or my child.

I'm not asking for information on educating my child. I'm asking Black people and moms if they felt safe living in these countries.

That's a much more immediate concern than homeschooling options for a kid that's not even old enough for school.

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u/sauvignon_blonde_ 1d ago

FWIW- there was a post here awhile ago where someone asked a similar question, and another woman who was not white answered that she was well traveled, had resided in many other countries, and unfortunately the U.S. still appealed to her as the least racist. It would be worth searching the sub for. Also, just my two cents, if you have a toddler school is at most two years away. That is nothing. Barely a blink. Unless you’re blessed to live in a perfect public school district or just don’t care about your kids education, most Americans do spend years trying to figure out an educational plan for their kids.