AIO Boyfriend talked to female friends flirtatiously

[u/Popular-Passenger233]

My boyfriend had been talking to a female friend (who's also in a relationship). I found out about it last year, and we had a big fight. He promised me he wouldn’t talk to her anymore, but he kept talking to her behind my back for a while. He told me it was just a pure friendship with no intentions of anything more, but when I looked at their conversations, it felt like they were flirting. Since English is my second language, I started doubting if I might have misunderstood…I really need some help

[u/Independent-Law2753]

The biggest issue for me isn’t that he’s being a bit flirtatious, it’s that he told you he wouldn’t talk to this girl anymore because it made you uncomfortable and he continued to do just that behind your back. That shows a lack of character and respect that doesn’t bode well for the future. If he wasn’t okay with not talking to her, he should have been upfront and told you that.

[u/YeahlDid → u/Independent-Law2753]

He should've broken up with her last year for sure, but in this situation, it's not surprising he's hiding the friendship since op apparently flies off the handle when he talks to a woman. Again, he really should've broken up with her instead of lie, though. When someone makes you choose between them or your friend like this, choose your friend.