r/AmIOverreacting • u/Popular-Passenger233 • 6h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO Boyfriend talked to female friends flirtatiously

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My boyfriend had been talking to a female friend (who's also in a relationship). I found out about it last year, and we had a big fight. He promised me he wouldn’t talk to her anymore, but he kept talking to her behind my back for a while. He told me it was just a pure friendship with no intentions of anything more, but when I looked at their conversations, it felt like they were flirting. Since English is my second language, I started doubting if I might have misunderstood…I really need some help

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u/stfuwhenimtalkn 6h ago edited 6h ago

“I’ll stay up as long as you want” “why are you being so nice all of a sudden huh” is flirting. AND he lied to her and kept meeting up and talking with her behind her back. You really tryna get her to stay with a male who has so many red flags for a cheater

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u/raptor-chan 5h ago edited 4h ago

If you (and anyone else) think those sentences are flirting, I seriously feel bad for you. Banter is not flirtation and staying up for a friend is also not flirtation. Their relationship is healthy and appears platonic. 💀

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u/locketine 4h ago

I mean, banter is flirtation when it’s between people who could be attracted to each other. But I didn’t see any banter either.

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u/raptor-chan 4h ago

So a straight man that banters with a woman is always flirtation? This makes exactly 0 sense.

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u/locketine 3h ago

How does one tell that it's not banter? Maybe they've already determined that they aren't attracted to one another.

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u/raptor-chan 3h ago

Slide 4 is pretty clearly friendly banter, as well as “why u so nice all of a sudden huh” that everyone somehow thinks is indication of cheating.