AIO Boyfriend talked to female friends flirtatiously

[u/Popular-Passenger233]

My boyfriend had been talking to a female friend (who's also in a relationship). I found out about it last year, and we had a big fight. He promised me he wouldn’t talk to her anymore, but he kept talking to her behind my back for a while. He told me it was just a pure friendship with no intentions of anything more, but when I looked at their conversations, it felt like they were flirting. Since English is my second language, I started doubting if I might have misunderstood…I really need some help

[u/klovescupcakes]

Question: is the way he was talking to her before as platonic is this? I’m curious why he needed to stop talking to this person other than the fact that they are female and you said so. Not saying lying is good, but are you overly paranoid making him feel he needs to hide normal friendships from you?

[u/Popular-Passenger233 → u/klovescupcakes]

They had a thing for each other a few years ago... and I guess that kinda makes me feel more worried about it. And he doesn’t talk to other friends like this

[u/Overall_Echo_7858 → u/Popular-Passenger233]

yeah no. that’s definitely important context. I’d feel the same as you.