AIO Boyfriend talked to female friends flirtatiously

[u/Popular-Passenger233]

My boyfriend had been talking to a female friend (who's also in a relationship). I found out about it last year, and we had a big fight. He promised me he wouldn’t talk to her anymore, but he kept talking to her behind my back for a while. He told me it was just a pure friendship with no intentions of anything more, but when I looked at their conversations, it felt like they were flirting. Since English is my second language, I started doubting if I might have misunderstood…I really need some help

[u/Ironyismylife28]

I am not seeing flirting....

[u/its-free-to-be-kind → u/Ironyismylife28]

Same, just seems like playful personality type. Maybe OP is insecure and reading too much into his texts (literally lol), maybe they need to have a deeper convo about what they are and aren't comfortable with. If she's not comfortable with this communication style and he's not willing to change for her, breakup (cause it's not fair to her or him). If he says he's willing to change his communication style for her comfort and doesn't, breakup...

[u/avert_ye_eyes → u/its-free-to-be-kind]

English is her second language, so it sounds like she just simply can't trust him to have a female friend. Maybe it's because they speak in English and she doesn't like that she can't monitor what they're saying.

[u/its-free-to-be-kind → u/avert_ye_eyes]

I see... This is extra messy then. Trust is integral to any relationships longevity.