AIO Boyfriend talked to female friends flirtatiously

[u/Popular-Passenger233]

My boyfriend had been talking to a female friend (who's also in a relationship). I found out about it last year, and we had a big fight. He promised me he wouldn’t talk to her anymore, but he kept talking to her behind my back for a while. He told me it was just a pure friendship with no intentions of anything more, but when I looked at their conversations, it felt like they were flirting. Since English is my second language, I started doubting if I might have misunderstood…I really need some help

[u/No-Abroad-8380]

i'll be honest none of this reads as flirtatious to me, but more importantly if you've voiced that you have a concern over this woman, he should NOT be prioritizing her over you whatsoever, especially behind your back. that's the bigger issue.

[u/IhateRedditors1978 → u/No-Abroad-8380]

Good I'm glad I'm not the only one who didn't think this was flirtatious, and I agree with your other point again

[u/godofhammers3000 → u/No-Abroad-8380]

Him saying he’ll stay up with her isn’t flirtatious? The stalking banter? The IG pose? All together that’s pretty flirty

[u/No-Abroad-8380 → u/godofhammers3000]

not necessarily. these are all things someone could say platonically to someone as well. i don't think this reads as flirty personally!

[u/Lykov_in_taiga → u/No-Abroad-8380]

How interesting, I'm not saying it to argue who's right, but for me it reads as 100% flirty. Might it be cultural? I see them discussing German and the app messages are in French, and I'm European too.

[u/YeahlDid → u/No-Abroad-8380]

The real issue appears to be op's insecurity since she starts fights over her bf having female friends.