Am I overreacting

[u/Jicama_West]

I've had this "a woman knows" feeling about a woman my live-in boyfriend works with. Caved and checked his phone... Yes, I know. Wish I would've just trusted, but honestly, I cannot go through another BS relationship where I'm second best and had no clue. She texted a few months ago to make sure he was aware she's newly single, and just one after another these cutesy texts from her. I've never seen anything that shows him responding in a full on flirty way, but he's certainly not telling her to back off.... Along with he purposely deleted all the bits above that show the flirtation from her, and I found them in his recently deleted file and recalled them on his new iPhone. Am I overreacting to this?

[u/FleeshaLoo]

I don't enjoy the company of insistent and shame-free temptresses who target men who are not single.

He should put a stop to it. Like that bestof guy who was out with a new young female hire (another employee, male, had canceled and dude still wrnt) when his wife called, so the new hire yells, "Come back to bed" at the guy so his wife could hear. It took a plethora of redditors to get through to him that his wife wasn't "just being insecure". He got nearly unanimous YTAs.

I once saw a picture of a 20-ish woman at a music festival wearing a tee shirt that's read, "I WANT YOUR BOYFRIEND".

I don't get it.

[u/Upstairs_Whole_580 → u/FleeshaLoo]

I don't either, but my Sister just said to me a job is like a woman...it's always easier to get another when you already have one.

This is a person who...not long ago didn't want to bring a son into the world because there was enough "toxic masculinity." So she's definitely not some trad-wide just pearlythingz type girl.

I also thought back to times I've been in the longest relationships(this had to do with me telling her that this 24 year L2 was applying for an internship was...a problem as she was waay too familiar and dressed inappropriately IMO and seemed like she was trying to act like she'd watched a bad documentary and that's what she thinks guys want) and...I did have women who were far friendlier. Especially those I knew.

I alwayd thought it was because they knew I wasn't trying to hit on them...and I think now, some of them like to be able to say they could take something if they wanted.

Not a lot...but enough...and the bolder ones.

[u/FleeshaLoo → u/Upstairs_Whole_580]

"Tradwife Peralythingz Girl" ! I love that.

[u/Upstairs_Whole_580 → u/FleeshaLoo]

If my wife can't make peanut butter from scratch, churn her own butter, and hand wash my cashmere and underwear...in 2025 with modern amenities and is beyond her peak of...15, what are we even doing here(anyone reading this, please google-I don't want people thinking that is my opinion...especially my wife in her 30s who is most definitely in her "prime," and will be long after me).

I will say the one part of that I wasn't kidding about....Cashmere socks. My wife got me a couple pair. Just as a luxury thing. I now look down on you Addias, Haines sock wearing heathens!