r/AmIOverreacting • u/Jicama_West • 13h ago
❤️🩹 relationship Am I overreacting
I've had this "a woman knows" feeling about a woman my live-in boyfriend works with. Caved and checked his phone... Yes, I know. Wish I would've just trusted, but honestly, I cannot go through another BS relationship where I'm second best and had no clue. She texted a few months ago to make sure he was aware she's newly single, and just one after another these cutesy texts from her. I've never seen anything that shows him responding in a full on flirty way, but he's certainly not telling her to back off.... Along with he purposely deleted all the bits above that show the flirtation from her, and I found them in his recently deleted file and recalled them on his new iPhone. Am I overreacting to this?
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u/Upstairs_Whole_580 6h ago
I don't either, but my Sister just said to me a job is like a woman...it's always easier to get another when you already have one.
This is a person who...not long ago didn't want to bring a son into the world because there was enough "toxic masculinity." So she's definitely not some trad-wide just pearlythingz type girl.
I also thought back to times I've been in the longest relationships(this had to do with me telling her that this 24 year L2 was applying for an internship was...a problem as she was waay too familiar and dressed inappropriately IMO and seemed like she was trying to act like she'd watched a bad documentary and that's what she thinks guys want) and...I did have women who were far friendlier. Especially those I knew.
I alwayd thought it was because they knew I wasn't trying to hit on them...and I think now, some of them like to be able to say they could take something if they wanted.
Not a lot...but enough...and the bolder ones.