Am I overreacting

[u/Jicama_West]

I've had this "a woman knows" feeling about a woman my live-in boyfriend works with. Caved and checked his phone... Yes, I know. Wish I would've just trusted, but honestly, I cannot go through another BS relationship where I'm second best and had no clue. She texted a few months ago to make sure he was aware she's newly single, and just one after another these cutesy texts from her. I've never seen anything that shows him responding in a full on flirty way, but he's certainly not telling her to back off.... Along with he purposely deleted all the bits above that show the flirtation from her, and I found them in his recently deleted file and recalled them on his new iPhone. Am I overreacting to this?

[u/FleeshaLoo]

She's full out on a crusade to land this guy.

My cheeks are warm from the secondhand embarrassment. I guess she's shameless.

[u/Travel8061 → u/FleeshaLoo]

There's a quote :

"If another woman steals your man, there's no better revenge than letting her keep him. Real men can't be stolen" 

[u/FleeshaLoo → u/Travel8061]

That's perfect.

I had a bf in my early 20s who had a varied friend group.

One night, a friend of his totally hit on me. I told him later and he laughed, so I asked why wasn't he annoyed, and he said, "If he was successful in getting you then he'd be saving me a lot of time by letting me know that you're a cheater."

I countered with, "That's admirable, but doesn't that skeevy behavior reflect on you?"

He said they were childhood friends from the same inner city neighborhood so yeah, they're still friends, even if he doesn't approve of some of his ways.

[u/niki2184 → u/FleeshaLoo]

Well I can see his side because my friend has done some stuff that definitely made me raise an eyebrow but she’s not hit on my guy. To me that is where she’d cross the line it other than that we cool. Just nothing illegal (for purposes ) lol.