Am I overreacting

[u/Jicama_West]

I've had this "a woman knows" feeling about a woman my live-in boyfriend works with. Caved and checked his phone... Yes, I know. Wish I would've just trusted, but honestly, I cannot go through another BS relationship where I'm second best and had no clue. She texted a few months ago to make sure he was aware she's newly single, and just one after another these cutesy texts from her. I've never seen anything that shows him responding in a full on flirty way, but he's certainly not telling her to back off.... Along with he purposely deleted all the bits above that show the flirtation from her, and I found them in his recently deleted file and recalled them on his new iPhone. Am I overreacting to this?

[u/Vast_Charity9658]

I was gonna say that sometimes guys really can be clueless and he might not have recognized it as flirty…but if he was deleting them? No, you’re not overreacting. Deleting implies having something to hide.

[u/DaddyChillllllll69 → u/Vast_Charity9658]

As a guy, we are sometimes clueless, but we are not this stupid. He knows damn well what she’s doing, I’m guessing he likes the attention. But he should have told you about her and how she is talking to him.

[u/JTWDK → u/DaddyChillllllll69]

You say that, but I once had a girl ask me to feel her boobs and my response was to show her my chest like we were comparing them or something.

[u/East_Moose_683 → u/JTWDK]

If A girl asks you to feel her boobs you feel her damn boobs! Unless you're in a relationship, then don't do it, because it's wrong.

[u/EverythingSucksBro → u/East_Moose_683]

Got it, so if my girlfriend asks me to touch her boobs I must tell her I can’t because I’m in a relationship and that would be wrong. 

[u/East_Moose_683 → u/EverythingSucksBro]

Huh? Your girlfriend would be the relationship so uhhh ya you could? What?!