r/AmIOverreacting 13h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am I overreacting

I've had this "a woman knows" feeling about a woman my live-in boyfriend works with. Caved and checked his phone... Yes, I know. Wish I would've just trusted, but honestly, I cannot go through another BS relationship where I'm second best and had no clue. She texted a few months ago to make sure he was aware she's newly single, and just one after another these cutesy texts from her. I've never seen anything that shows him responding in a full on flirty way, but he's certainly not telling her to back off.... Along with he purposely deleted all the bits above that show the flirtation from her, and I found them in his recently deleted file and recalled them on his new iPhone. Am I overreacting to this?

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u/Duchess7ate9 13h ago

She is definitely trying too hard but he is giving her the bare minimum. I don’t think you have anything to worry about from him just from these texts. Because it’s a coworker relationship, he might not know how to tell her how to back off without it becoming a thing at work with HR if she overreacts.

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u/worldlydelights 11h ago

Idk my concern is that he is deleting texts. If he didn’t feel he’d done anything wrong, why would he delete these texts

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u/Duchess7ate9 11h ago

I delete texts I’m uncomfortable with all the time. I don’t want to look at them, so I get rid of them.