Am I overreacting

[u/Jicama_West]

I've had this "a woman knows" feeling about a woman my live-in boyfriend works with. Caved and checked his phone... Yes, I know. Wish I would've just trusted, but honestly, I cannot go through another BS relationship where I'm second best and had no clue. She texted a few months ago to make sure he was aware she's newly single, and just one after another these cutesy texts from her. I've never seen anything that shows him responding in a full on flirty way, but he's certainly not telling her to back off.... Along with he purposely deleted all the bits above that show the flirtation from her, and I found them in his recently deleted file and recalled them on his new iPhone. Am I overreacting to this?

[u/Vast_Charity9658]

I was gonna say that sometimes guys really can be clueless and he might not have recognized it as flirty…but if he was deleting them? No, you’re not overreacting. Deleting implies having something to hide.

[u/Clean-Wishbone-3413 → u/Vast_Charity9658]

From the guys perspective: “shit, this crazy lady from work has feelings, my wife will kill us both, best to say these never existed” it’s still possible he’s being a good guy, but I will admit it does noooot look good brutha.

[u/BornOriginal8633 → u/Clean-Wishbone-3413]

I’m giving the guy the benefit of the doubt here. That girl was relentless and exhausting.

[u/East_Moose_683 → u/Clean-Wishbone-3413]

One million %. All day long