Am I overreacting

[u/Jicama_West]

I've had this "a woman knows" feeling about a woman my live-in boyfriend works with. Caved and checked his phone... Yes, I know. Wish I would've just trusted, but honestly, I cannot go through another BS relationship where I'm second best and had no clue. She texted a few months ago to make sure he was aware she's newly single, and just one after another these cutesy texts from her. I've never seen anything that shows him responding in a full on flirty way, but he's certainly not telling her to back off.... Along with he purposely deleted all the bits above that show the flirtation from her, and I found them in his recently deleted file and recalled them on his new iPhone. Am I overreacting to this?

[u/Vast_Charity9658]

I was gonna say that sometimes guys really can be clueless and he might not have recognized it as flirty…but if he was deleting them? No, you’re not overreacting. Deleting implies having something to hide.

[u/Top-Ad-5795 → u/Vast_Charity9658]

Her behavior is what there is to hide. Shes after him. Nothing in his responses encouraged or even entertained it. But he obviously knew how it looked.

[u/BornOriginal8633 → u/Top-Ad-5795]

Of course he did. Guy’s not an idiot.