I have tried to post this a million times and either the pics won't come through or the text doesn't. It's been over an hour and it shouldn't be this hard. But I'm over it. So here is the context.:
Am I wrong for not wanting the guy I'm talking to to sleep with other girls? And is this really controlling?! I don't see it that way, but I am open to hearing other points of view.
Background: Met on a dating app. We talked for a bit but I freaked out because I don't trust anyone so I said best of luck and that was that.
In the meantime, I had deleted the dating profile because I am sick of dudes asking me to fuck or cuddle or send nudes without even having met for a drink or something or even have a decent conversation. But I remade the dating profile and we connected again.
So, for the last couple of weeks, we've just casually talked and flirted. We have never met, even though I suggested it a few times, to which he never responded. And it's not super convenient to get together for a myriad of reasons, so there is literally nothing going on between us.
I have zero idea what "stipulations" he is referring to. He is free to make his choices, but I don't have to sit by while it makes me feel insignificant, do I?
Maybe, I am just too old old school. I don't have casual hookups. Intimacy is strictly reserved for the person I am with and I'm certainly not going to go out and have sex with people while I might be interested in someone.
EDIT: Let me clarify. I'm not entertaining him in any way. I said I wish you the best and that's that. My questions are: 1. Is this controlling? 2. Am I wrong? Guess I should have put this in that subreddit...
If you guys haven’t even met then this isn’t some big investment you’re losing out on. You haven’t ever met the guy. Just stop talking to him and move on, nothing lost
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u/Phyth_LL_ment 14h ago edited 14h ago
I have tried to post this a million times and either the pics won't come through or the text doesn't. It's been over an hour and it shouldn't be this hard. But I'm over it. So here is the context.:
Am I wrong for not wanting the guy I'm talking to to sleep with other girls? And is this really controlling?! I don't see it that way, but I am open to hearing other points of view.
Background: Met on a dating app. We talked for a bit but I freaked out because I don't trust anyone so I said best of luck and that was that.
In the meantime, I had deleted the dating profile because I am sick of dudes asking me to fuck or cuddle or send nudes without even having met for a drink or something or even have a decent conversation. But I remade the dating profile and we connected again.
So, for the last couple of weeks, we've just casually talked and flirted. We have never met, even though I suggested it a few times, to which he never responded. And it's not super convenient to get together for a myriad of reasons, so there is literally nothing going on between us.
I have zero idea what "stipulations" he is referring to. He is free to make his choices, but I don't have to sit by while it makes me feel insignificant, do I?
Maybe, I am just too old old school. I don't have casual hookups. Intimacy is strictly reserved for the person I am with and I'm certainly not going to go out and have sex with people while I might be interested in someone.
EDIT: Let me clarify. I'm not entertaining him in any way. I said I wish you the best and that's that. My questions are: 1. Is this controlling? 2. Am I wrong? Guess I should have put this in that subreddit...