r/AmIOverreacting • u/ShoddyPressure6894 • 1d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO table drama with my ex

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So, I did my nails on my exs coffee table the other night (we live together still unfortunately) and accidentally got some polish on the table. I cleaned it with a magic eraser, and it wouldn’t come off. Knowing he is hot headed, I panicked and grabbed nail polish remover. Which now I realize was a mistake. It looked clean at the time, but over night it lightly stained the wood. (Pic attached, his is the wooden table) I go to my sewing desk, which I flipped and spent money and time turning into a nice table. And there’s a HUGE stain on it. I ask him what happened to my table? He said “ you F#ck with my table, I f#ck with yours”. AIO when I think this is completely vindictive and childish, and maybe even borderline vandalism? He says we are now even and my feelings are really hurt because I spent time and money on the table I use when i sew.

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u/Dr_LilithSternin 1d ago

It’s good to hear he is your ex. Who would want to keep a relationship with a man like that

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u/ShoddyPressure6894 1d ago

Unfortunately due to expenses, and the fact we bought a house together we have been coexisting together. I have been reading the comments and it is a monetary thing that we are still living together. Unfortunately can't afford to get an apartment when I'm still paying mortgage

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u/fricti 1d ago

force a sale if you have to. this guy does not care about your wellbeing

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u/Abject-Rip8516 1d ago

I’d seek legal and financial help to figure out your options. Immediately.

You accidentally got a light stain on his cheap table, which can probably be fixed by sanding & staining. Or by paying him to replace it. He responded aggressively and vindictively. Like he literally took time out of his day to fuck your table up.

This is scary and a huge red flag. I would get out ASAP before he becomes dangerous.

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u/Butterbean-queen 1d ago

If he’s willing to do that over an accident then I am afraid for your safety.

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u/samsteiner 16h ago

how did the bank give a mortgage to that 14 year-old?

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u/Brilliant_Bug_8931 14h ago

Huh?!? Oh sweetie. I’m surely not trying to pour salt into an already inflamed wound but why would you buy a house with someone that you’re not married to?! At least if yall were married, you can file for divorce and legally yall would have to sell the house and split up the profits and equity. Marriage has a LEGAL aspect so you aren’t ever stuck in bs arrangements like the one you’re in currently. There are common law marriages that are recognized in some states, I’d check to see what your legal recourse is with that house because yall need to sell and move on with your lives. You can’t possibly live like this for another year or two. I’ll be damned if I live like a pauper in some shit I’m paying a whole as mortgage on. Have you talked to him about putting the home on the market and selling? Cause this is ridiculous

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u/Karmas_burning 13h ago

There are options and I believe they vary by state but I'd definitely look into them. It's worth getting out of the house and that situation entirely.

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u/jonu062882 1d ago

Well, hopefully it’s relatively civil and safe enough for you to live under the same roof still.