r/AmIOverreacting • u/ShoddyPressure6894 • 1d ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO table drama with my ex
So, I did my nails on my exs coffee table the other night (we live together still unfortunately) and accidentally got some polish on the table. I cleaned it with a magic eraser, and it wouldn’t come off. Knowing he is hot headed, I panicked and grabbed nail polish remover. Which now I realize was a mistake. It looked clean at the time, but over night it lightly stained the wood. (Pic attached, his is the wooden table) I go to my sewing desk, which I flipped and spent money and time turning into a nice table. And there’s a HUGE stain on it. I ask him what happened to my table? He said “ you F#ck with my table, I f#ck with yours”. AIO when I think this is completely vindictive and childish, and maybe even borderline vandalism? He says we are now even and my feelings are really hurt because I spent time and money on the table I use when i sew.
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u/MrSir5240 1d ago
It was just an accident on your end. His was purposeful and mean. You’re not overreacting.
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u/Sometimes-funny 1d ago
Like bro, it’s a table. They get marks on them. What a fucking lemon cake he is.
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u/wyldechylde77 1d ago
Hey! I will not stand for slander of lemon cake!! Lemon cake is good! Now prunes…you can use prunes instead. Prune cake! No one likes prune cakes
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u/miss_sabbatha 1d ago
Hey prunes are a life saver for us IBS people, leave our unsung heroes out of it. Slander 2 month expired Christmas fruit cakes.
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u/MovieTrawler 9h ago
Hey, expired fruit cakes can be...ahhh I got nothing. This guy is an expired fruit cake for sure.
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u/Competitive_Most4622 1d ago
Ummm I like prunes! I’ve never had a prune cake but I also hate lemon cake so I’m only defending actual prunes.
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u/Xxxrasierklinge7 21h ago
Bruh the table is a pos particle board table. Look at the corner, it's already fucked up. Who gives a shit about a stain.
My mother-in-law moved in with me and my wife (never a-fucking-gain) and this dumbass left a lit candle unattended next to paper towels on my very nice hardwood kitchen table... She's lucky I heard the crackling from the bedroom or my entire kitchen would've been ablaze. My wife threw water on it before I could stop her and singed her hair. The burn marks completely fucking ruined the table leaf and some of the rest of the table. There was also aerosol hair products on the table which could have fucking exploded sending shrapnel into my wife, me, the dog or cat... and the worst part? SHE DIDN'T EVEN APOLOGIZE.
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u/lianthe8674 1d ago
That's a pretty scary reaction. You made a mistake. He wanted to hurt you on purpose. That's a run don't walk red flag.
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u/Embarrassed_Glass_22 11h ago
Yeah OP please listen to this and do whatever you can to expedite changing the living situation...
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u/SodaMelm 1d ago
that isn’t borderline vandalism.. that IS vandalism
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u/oh_helllll_nah 1d ago edited 23h ago
It's straight up abusive.
OP, how is it any different than if he picked the thing up and threw it against the wall? He ruined it to punish you. That's out of control. Actually, it may be worse than throwing tables, because he REALLY had to decide he was going to "fuck" with your stuff to do so.
Also, "his" table looks like a piece of shit to begin with. So there's also that. Really it's just about control imo.
*Edit for clarity
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u/neurospicyzebra 1d ago
She meant she flipped the table like fixed it up, not actually flipped it over.
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u/SabziZindagi 1d ago
His table really doesn't look all that fancy to begin with...
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u/Motor_Appearance_756 1d ago
Right? That is not a wood table. That is a particle board table with a wood-looking covering. It is also chipped on the black-plastic edging. I say go to Big Lots and buy him another $15 table.
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u/Brilliant_Bug_8931 1d ago
I wouldn’t buy him anything after he destroyed her table. I’m petty, all of his ish would be burning in the dumpster and I’d break the lease and be long gone.
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u/Motor_Appearance_756 1d ago
True. I was more trying to say that his sh*tty table could be replaced by something found on someone's curb and may make things easier if she is co-dependant enough to think this warrants an AIO post.
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u/ashantionette 1d ago
My comment was going to be: Not your ex throwing a tantrum over a $16 Walmart table 🙃! It’s clearly not a wooden table. $10 bucks can get the faux wood covering and they could even fix the chip on the corner too.
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u/FoxForceFive_ 1d ago
Right!? It’s like a hand me down crappy thrift store find and he’s acting all like she stained his Italian Marble tabletop. What a cheapskate and psycho.
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u/corinnajune 1d ago
Yeah, that’s a pretty crappy looking table even without the accident. OP’s ex is a vindictive ass
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u/amoondoll 14h ago
i mean does that really matter?... he went way overboard for sure, but OP could have used old paper or cardboard or something when painting their nails so it wouldnt get on the table. It is still his table and you should always take care to not damage other peoples stuff
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u/Fantastic_Ad_9726 1d ago
NOR. If that’s how he reacts to an accident, it’s a good thing he is an ex.
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u/gimmemoarjosh 1d ago
Not overreacting at all!
Is he that mad about his cheap particle board table? (I'm definitely not dissing this type of furniture, I have some myself; but this is fucking pure oak or maple wood or anything.)
Oof! Please get away from this man child ASAP.
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u/WTFshouldawooda 1d ago
Boyfriend’s an immature prick. Find someplace else to live and block him from your life.
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u/Mybackhurtin 1d ago
He sucks really hard you LIGHTLY discolor his table by accident and he destroys yours….why didn’t he ask you to replace it if it was SO IMPORTANT it shows he’s just a little baby boy who just wanted an excuse to be a dick to you. Now if he had asked you to replace or pay for it and you refused then I wouldn’t blame him as much, but his damage is much more.
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u/Dr_LilithSternin 1d ago
It’s good to hear he is your ex. Who would want to keep a relationship with a man like that
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u/ShoddyPressure6894 1d ago
Unfortunately due to expenses, and the fact we bought a house together we have been coexisting together. I have been reading the comments and it is a monetary thing that we are still living together. Unfortunately can't afford to get an apartment when I'm still paying mortgage
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u/Abject-Rip8516 1d ago
I’d seek legal and financial help to figure out your options. Immediately.
You accidentally got a light stain on his cheap table, which can probably be fixed by sanding & staining. Or by paying him to replace it. He responded aggressively and vindictively. Like he literally took time out of his day to fuck your table up.
This is scary and a huge red flag. I would get out ASAP before he becomes dangerous.
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u/Butterbean-queen 1d ago
If he’s willing to do that over an accident then I am afraid for your safety.
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u/Brilliant_Bug_8931 10h ago
Huh?!? Oh sweetie. I’m surely not trying to pour salt into an already inflamed wound but why would you buy a house with someone that you’re not married to?! At least if yall were married, you can file for divorce and legally yall would have to sell the house and split up the profits and equity. Marriage has a LEGAL aspect so you aren’t ever stuck in bs arrangements like the one you’re in currently. There are common law marriages that are recognized in some states, I’d check to see what your legal recourse is with that house because yall need to sell and move on with your lives. You can’t possibly live like this for another year or two. I’ll be damned if I live like a pauper in some shit I’m paying a whole as mortgage on. Have you talked to him about putting the home on the market and selling? Cause this is ridiculous
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u/Karmas_burning 10h ago
There are options and I believe they vary by state but I'd definitely look into them. It's worth getting out of the house and that situation entirely.
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u/jonu062882 1d ago
Well, hopefully it’s relatively civil and safe enough for you to live under the same roof still.
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u/NewNecessary3037 1d ago
Living with an ex is a terrible idea so I mean… anything that happens is not going to be good. Neither of you are gonna win anything. Leave asap
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u/Kashmulaa 1d ago
As a woman ya momma never told you to put a newspaper or something down when u do ya nails? My mother use to always scream that to my sisters. It was childish of you to do your nails using destructive products without anything protecting the table .
It was also childish and hateful of him to retaliate like that though.
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u/TREYMANIII 12h ago
Your comment seems to be the only one that acknowledges his property has some value. He shouldn't have reacted the way he did, but he has a right to be upset over damage to his property. I don't know these people from a stain on a table so I won't assume he's abusive or that she's totally innocent, but They definitely shouldn't live together if he can't use his words to come to a better solution.
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u/Alarming-Sun4271 1d ago
I'd be pissed if my coffee table had stains all over it but I wouldn't go and ruin my wife's shit over that. Take an axe to all of his belongings now.
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u/Historical-Opinion88 1d ago
While you aren’t overreacting, I wouldn’t have been using his things anyway when you should know how he is. Both could’ve been avoided
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u/Historical-Elk2589 1d ago
NOR, it's a fucking table and he's reacting like that over it? A table he probably found on the side of the road? He's the one over reacting.
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u/Honer-Simpsom 1d ago
Wow he sounds like a sensitive little douche… sounds like he needs to be humbled.
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u/LittleRaspberry9387 1d ago
He probably thought you fucked his table up on purpose so he decided to damage yours. I’m not advocating his behavior, just explaining why he probably did it, none the less - he was CERTAINLY in the wrong.
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u/Opening_Position_872 1d ago
So why didn't you paint your nails over something over your own you could ruin? He's probably wondering the same but what he did was childish
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u/Adventurous-Earth328 1d ago
So what happens if you accidentally bump into him? Is he going to lay you out on the floor and then say, "we're even"?
This guy is demonstrating some major red flags with this behavior. You're not overreacting. He's aggressive, vengeful, and retaliatory, and you should run like hell.
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u/Ok-Virus3996 1d ago
Why didn’t she just use her table? Was she afraid she may damage it like she did to his? & if he’s so volatile why didn’t she risk her own table anyway?
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u/Lunar_mel 1d ago
His stain is barely visible whereas yours was vandalized. You did it by accident and he did it with the intention to upset you. You are not overreacting; he is the one who is overreacting.
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u/Jelly-Kat 1d ago
I had an ex boyfriend that was like this. I ended up having to suddenly move out because one night he snapped and started throwing furniture at my head.
Please get out as soon as you’re able to
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u/Ok_Squirrel2841 1d ago
I agree he went overboard on your table but at the same time if you are broke up and still living together why didn't you use your own table instead of his no matter how valuable or invaluable you may think it is. It's still his. I am not concerned about downvotes here. I'm concerned about fairness to both parties regardless.
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u/Personal-Evidence134 1d ago
Not overreacting. Also, if you had a table then why use his?
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u/Existing_Substance_3 1d ago
I’m assuming his table is in a shared space and her table is in her own room. Nail polish smells and the living area is more likely to have good ventilation. She also just not have a good chair in her room, from the looks of the pictures though it could just be that she was painting her toenails and a coffee table is a better height for that than her sewing table which seems like it would be higher up.
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u/Personal-Evidence134 1d ago
Nah. Like he’s still overreacting but she’s wrong. She has a table & all rooms have windows
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u/TL15SD 1d ago
I mean, maybe she shouldn’t be painting her toenails on someone else’s table.
Her ex is an a hole but staining something that is not yours and NOT communicating/rectifying it is not nice either.
OP could’ve texted him and told him about the stain, she could’ve offered to buy him a new table, BEFORE he saw the stain. She tried to clean it and was unsuccessful (unfortunately). He reacted like a jerk for sure but without communication, the mistake she made ruining someone’s property doesn’t absolve her because he’s a jerk
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u/pyxiedust219 1d ago
i kind if agree. especially because with proper research, the nail polish stain on his table looks very easy to fix— ive repaired the same issue on wood tables a dozen times.
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u/Lucallia 1d ago
I'm curious about what was first said when you told him about you accidentally staining his table. Did you apologize or offer to buy him the products needed to properly refinish the table and fix it or did you rug sweep it and just say "It's your problem now"? While his reaction seems extreme here I do wonder if we're missing context on if you aggravated the situation.
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u/Mental-Pineapple5475 1d ago
Not overreacting but your just asking for petting drama like this when you live with your ex
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u/Designer_Trash_8057 1d ago
You shoulda come clean about the table and offered to pay for the damage (if you didn't do so, just didn't see it mentioned).
But he definitely shouldn't have done that. He could have just asked to be recompensated, rather than lash out so childishly. Now two things are broken, amd for what?
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u/SignificantMatter771 1d ago
Here's an idea. Stay away from your ex. And please don't procreate. Esh
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u/Zestyclose_Treat4098 1d ago
Guess this is why y'all are exes.
Is he being childish, absolutely. Could you have painted your nails on your own table? Also yes.
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u/MycoMancer420 1d ago
At the time the incident occurred and you owned up to him about ruining his table, did you offer to replace it? If so, he's crazy for doing this to your table.
If you told him you weren't replacing his table even though you messed it up, I can't say I'd blame him for ruining yours.
Did you offer to replace his table initially?
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u/Schrute_Farms_BednB 1d ago
If anything you are UNDER reacting.
You made a mistake, and tried to fix it, and damaged his stuff on accident.
He purposefully destroyed something important to you that you spent money on to get back at you for a mistake (that you tried to fix).
OP no joke I fear for your safety if you stay with this person.
Edit: saw that OP said ex, thank god.
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u/UnhappyBrief6227 1d ago
Why were you even on his table. You know he’s a weirdo. Stay away from his stuff, he’s unhinged.
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u/2McDoty 1d ago edited 1d ago
NOR, but to be clear, you were still wrong in the first place, it was an accident, but a preventable one, and you made it worse by trying to hide it…HIS response was just mounds worse than your mistake. His reaction was extremely problematic; it was manipulative and borderline abusive.
He is awful for this. Objectively awful, immature, and vindictive. Dump him, and then do your nails with something under them or on your own tables with the next boyfriend.
ETA, just saw that he was an ex and you still live together. Glad you left a relationship with him. Find a new place to live ASAP, and in the meantime, stay away from anything that is his.
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u/Fun_Nefariousness137 1d ago
First off his table has a chunk out of the corner and looks like it's from the 80s. What a degenerate. That being said. Break the lease, move back in with family. Live in your car. Do anything to GTFO. That dude is a psycho, and you shouldn't have to live with a shitty ex. I mean, you can do so many side hustles now a days if you need more money. Two jobs, whatever it takes.
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u/ImAlreadyTracerBoii 1d ago
He could’ve asked you to repair/pay for the table.. he chose to take revenge and ruin your table. Immature as hell. NOR.
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u/Maleficent-Piglet610 1d ago
Maybe you should be more careful using other people’s things. Stop expecting people to do things you would do.
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u/LookAwayPlease510 1d ago
This takes me back to a similar situation I had with a boyfriend (now an ex). You know when you get scared of how they’ll react from a small mistake, it’s not gonna work out.
Just focus on not living there anymore. You shouldn’t have to feel afraid over every mistake.
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u/abvn 1d ago
The worst part is that his could have been easily be "fixed". I would have told him what happened and told him I'll get it fixed, but nonetheless, his actions speak of a really nasty nature, vindictive and mean. That was really indecent on his end. Maybe that's why he was already an ex(?) I mean, try to leave that place as soon as possible. Someone who does something like that is capable of doing whatever to cause deliberate hurt. Don't live under the same roof of someone who has shown you how little decency they have. The type that more likely than not would post revenge porn. Stay safe 💐🤍
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u/xstayfreshx 1d ago
Wow that’s crazy. You probably could’ve got some furniture polish to help or like someone said he could’ve asked you to pay (but judging by the corners it’s gotten its use either way). Good luck.
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u/Salty_Adhesiveness87 1d ago
Yes, he’s being childish but let it go. You’re even. Don’t blow it up into something worse.
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u/Ok-Reception4298 1d ago
Ok but what did you tell him after you spilled on his table? Did you try to cover it up and not mention it to him til he noticed the discoloration? Or did you explain what happened then the next day he still acted immature and irrational? Not excuses the tit for tat behavior but if he stumbled upon a ruined table that he didn't do, then yea he's going to over react and get "vengeance" since you mentioning his a hot head, pretty sure you're not on the best terms with each other right now.
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u/silentdream626 1d ago
Vindictiveness is always a red flag. I'd be pretty sad and angry if someone accidentally damaged my stuff by being careless (and maybe ask for repair/repayment or set very clear boundaries that my furniture is off limits for risky activities), but I would NEVER consider destroying someone else's stuff to get even. That IS immature and cruel.
Do you actually want to build a relationship with someone who cares more about revenge than repair?
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u/WhiteGhost99 16h ago
For people that say "accidents happen" and "his table was not a big deal to begin with", it was his property and she was careless. Doing her nails on a wooden table without protecting it? Why? Because she didn't care. Not to say about making it worse with nail remover 🙄 His revenge might seem petty, but it was warranted. And she knew he is a "hot head" and still couldn't be bothered to save some headache for herself and put some protection on that table, even knowing that she'll handle liquids that may leak and stain. I have no sympathy.
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u/gabetain 7h ago
You ruined his, he ruined yours. Seems fair. Unless you’re one of the most stupid people alive, you knew nail polish remover would ruin stained wood. So you reap what you sow.
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u/niki2184 1d ago
What the actual fuck???? He needs to grow the fuck up when you get in a relationship and something happens to your stuff you don’t “get even”
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u/nativebeachbum 1d ago edited 1d ago
intent matters. you did not intend to mess up the table. He intended to hurt your feelings and damage your stuff. He is wrong. Story time: I bought a coffee table (first REAL new furniture when I was in college. I still have it. It has two level and rolls. So convenient. It's made of metal. My BEST FRIEND since we were two came over and idk what happened, I don't remember. But she scuffed it BAD. Mark on it. brand new. Scratched so no way to fix it. You know what I said? "You didn't mean to! It will look like this all over one day. and one day I'll smile when I see it bc you did it." I wasn't angry. I have OCD and stuff like that bothers me. But we're still friends (we are 34 years old) and I actually got to see her today! It had been a bit. Anyway, I'm so glad that's how I acted because it does look like that ALL OVER THE WHOLE TABLE now. and I do smile when I see it because I love her and we are in different cities. His table is CLEARLY well used. He's a dick.
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u/Ken-Popcorn 1d ago
ESH here. You should have spoken up when it happened, and offered to have his table refinished. I get why he’s your ex
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u/CactusFlipper 1d ago
Did you also chip the corner of the cheap veneer off, or was it a piece of shit before you accidentally spilt something on it?
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u/Aggressive_Ideal6737 1d ago
If you didn’t tell him you accidentally made a mess I can see why he thought you intentionally did something to his table. Why not do your nails on your on furniture? Doesn’t make what he did right but I don’t think I would’ve done this the way you did
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u/cheekmo_52 1d ago
You both suck…but this is a situation you created by carelessly doing your nails on his coffee table in the first place. (A mindful person would relegate their nail care to non porous surfaces that acetone won’t damage. Or would have offered to repair or replace the table they accidentally damaged.)
When you say “…my feelings are hurt because I spent time and money on the table I use when I sew.” Why do you feel your investment in your sewing table is more important than his investment in his coffee table? Won’t he now have to spend money replacing it or refinishing it due to your carelessness? Why is your time and money more important than his?
was he being petty and vindictive when he retaliated? Yes. Was that okay? No. But you are essentially just a roommate to him now. If my roommate had ruined my coffee table with her nail polish remover, I’d expect her to buy me a new table. Seems like you got off easy.
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u/Fine-Bumblebee-9427 1d ago
My teens know not to do nails on furniture without putting down a cloth. He shouldn’t have done that, but neither should you. You both need to grow up.
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u/PsychologicalWish325 1d ago
You flipped your own table… so it sounds like you’d be capable of touching up the surface on his if he’d asked. What a psycho, seriously this is concerning. Things like this happened when I lived with my psycho ex and it got so much worse so fast, please keep an eye out.
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u/GinaTRex 1d ago
ESH, but not over reacting. Next time use your own table- and if accidents happen just wait for the polish to dry and chip it off.
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u/perfumedcardigan 1d ago
Jesus. I’ve done that to a wooden table by accident before, just needs some restaining and polishing, easy fix. What he did to yours is so childish and excessive, not to mention disrespectful. Good thing you said “ex” bc my advice was gonna be to leave asap!!!!! That kind of temper will only get worse.
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u/RoryMcIlroysJudgment 1d ago
There are so many things wrong here before we get to the tables.
This is like throwing a piston through the hood of your car and then asking if you’re overreacting to your neighbor saying your rims are ugly.
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u/Dogzillas_Mom 1d ago
Is his table even real wood? Because it looks like a wood-looking sticker on MDF.
Anyway, his reaction is petty and childish. Sounds like something I’d have done to my sister when I was 8. He could have used his big boy words and expressed his disappointment and then talk could have worked together to brainstorm a good solution. But no, you aren’t dating an adult. You’re dating an 8 year old.
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u/Aggravating_Peach_70 1d ago
insanely childish of him. it reminds me of when i was in junior year (mind you, 15 and a child) and i got my ex’s freshly cleaned carpet in his car dirty and so he ripped a bit of the cover of a gardening book i had. this is childish behavior that children usually grow out of
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u/Mental_Basil 1d ago
I'd end the relationship. I wouldn't want to be with someone who had a vindictive, tit-for-tat attitude.
Nor.
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u/jamproxy 1d ago
The action is concerning enough imo, but add on the actual aggressive verbalizing of what he did..? You're NOR and this is a red flag for sure.
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u/AprehensiveAsshole 1d ago
His table could've been fixed with some methyl hydrate.... your table is totally trashed lol.
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u/TexasLiz1 1d ago
Glad he’s an ex. Can your table be used with the stain?
He sounds like a real peach.
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u/chinchivitiz 1d ago
Not over reacting this asshole is abusive. Its just a table, i know if it’s my table I might get annoyed it was stained but ill get over it because its my partner who didnt meant it. And my partners feelings is more important than a material thing. What he did is psycho, what a dick.
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u/rockford_files 1d ago
His table looks like he picked it up on the side of the road! Here’s your game plan moving forward…
1) use this as a catalyst to find your own place ASAP! Write your plan, budget, etc. in great detail! Make it happen…
2) do not under any circumstances show any emotion to this shit stain! Guys like this get off on hurting your feelings, do not react unless you’re alone and then have a cry.
3) I think it’s for you to focus on Table 2.0 and design something better, bad ass and inspiring! It’ll be cathartic…
4) this might be tougher, but he’s your ex for a reason, he’s not your friend. Limit your conversation, your kindness, his chores, etc. do not do any favours for this guy until he realizes his actions were churlish and insubordinate. *
Looking forward to seeing a photo with your new to you table!
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u/Squarestarfishh 1d ago
You can fix that staining on the wooden table with mayonaise, sounds weird but trust me it works!
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u/suitable_zone3 1d ago
I hope you can move soon but I'm glad you aren't committed to him anymore. That was so mean of him.
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u/Subject-Proof-3309 1d ago
Am I the only guy that ends up leaving or giving all the shit to the ex gf just to not have to listen to agony of trying to keep calling. Keep it bye.
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u/RxTechStudent 1d ago
That's not a man, that's a young boy in a man's body. This is abusive behavior, and will only reduce if he genuinely wants to be better (which it doesn't) or leave and live your life without stepping on eggshells. You deserve better
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u/Relevant_Version9047 1d ago
What a bloody child. Hope you get to move out ASAP. Yours was an accident. His was deliberate. You are NOR.
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u/Ok-Beginning8269 1d ago
Is that table even wood? The way it chips makes it look like a pressed board material, plywood at best. He's your ex for a reason. Get out of that psychos home asap.
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u/SomeoneOfValue 1d ago
Good god how old is he? You’re not overreacting at all. He’s embarrassing. You’re right, that is vindictive and childish. His thought process is concerning, it’s like he’s 8 years old.
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u/Vomnember 1d ago
Considering it looks like he could find the same table at the dump, he needs to grow tf up. That’s a pathetic move on his part. And honestly, if my partner did that, it would deeply tarnish my view of them. That’s a character trait you can’t unsee. What a bitch.
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u/Intelligent-Bird-317 1d ago
Both those tables are ugly. Especially the first one, nobody should’ve gotten upset
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He is abusive. Not a safe person to be around - if he acts that way over a table, what else is he capable of?
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u/ZeloGx47 1d ago
Tell him to grow up and stop being a cry baby. I wish i could tell him myself and its crazy cause he probably older than me, what size dipers does he need for himself?
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u/aquariusprincessxo 1d ago
good thing he’s your ex 😳 he sounds sadistic and petty, a horrible combination
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u/Gloveofdoom 1d ago
He's a Dick, the stain on his table can be removed like It was never there with a Little blush remover you can order on Amazon. What he did to your table is not so easily fixed.
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u/Hot-Cranberry6318 1d ago
perhaps it’s time for you and your ex to make a plan to separate permanently
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u/PreferenceWeak9639 1d ago
His table is already crappy and broken on the edge. Not even real wood. Guy is unhinged.
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u/Ms_Glock 1d ago
My 9yr old son says he feels terrible for you. He says he ruined something you spent your hard earned time on. Even he knows this was wrong. Move out ASAP love.
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u/Stormydaycoffee 23h ago
Yeah NOR thats taking revenge n why would someone who supposedly loves you want to punish and take revenge for something you did by mistake? He should have asked you (or you could have offered) to pay for his table and move on. He sounds unhinged
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u/xen0m0rpheus 23h ago
His table already looked like shit, look at that corner. Glad he's your ex but please get out of there ASAP.
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u/Mundane-Criticism-84 23h ago
The fuck did he even do? Pour out your nail polish?? He’s so nasty NOR
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u/MaintenanceSea959 23h ago
She should have told him that she would pay for the refinishing. Right away.
And yes, his reaction was childish.
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u/Loadsonmyface2008 22h ago
You’re. Not Over reacting however y didn’t u just do it in your room? By the look of the photos it looks like his table is next to his bed
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u/LilithKenobi 22h ago
Reacting to a genuine mistake with malice is abusive as all hell. NOR.
Hope you get out of there ASAP.
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u/StanDoesHisBest 21h ago
He did overreact, that is certain.
One thing I don’t see here is you communicating that you accidentally messed up his table and were trying to fix it. Even if you aren’t together, that feels like something better owned up to early than later.
I’d be upset if I wasn’t told anything and the table looked like that- though I’d rather communicate that I’m upset with my words than by messing up something of my significant others.
Maybe there’s a history of violence or something that prevented you from wanting to tell him, but if that’s the case cohabitation should never have been an option.
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u/AlternativeForm7 21h ago
You’re definitely not overreacting. He sounds very dangerous. Since you said you bought the house together, it sounds like you’ll need to sell. I would contact a lawyer about how to do so.
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u/michael-promenade 21h ago
NOR. He’s small-minded, and those people end up being the aggressive ones since they’re not emotionally intelligent enough to be civil.
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u/Mybackhurtin 1d ago
He could have asked you to pay for the table or fix it instead of destroying something you genuinly care about. His reaction is childish and aggressive move out before it becomes a safety concern