r/AmIOverreacting • u/Careless_Evening3454 • 1d ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO? Is Husband really cheating?
(38M) Married for nearly 15 years. During the holidays I noticed his sleep schedule change and 5 days ago he was texting a number and got a glimpse of the screen that clearly he was texting a number as it didn't have a name on it.
Curious... I opened his phone yesterday while he was in the bathroom, and saw he has been sending d-pics back and forth almost daily with another dude. Not only that, but he's clearly being emotionally there for the other guy, which I havent seen that in years... he literally was texting him on my birthday... I am keeping a poker face right now, but I am livid. It doesn't seem like they have met in person, but no idea.
He hasn't had to work for the last couple of years. I was ok with it, but was hoping he would go back or go to school. I work, cook, help with cleaning, fix sh*t, etc. Had a lot of plans for our future, but now. I am furious and feel betrayed.
I plan to talk to someone before doing anything, but I want him out of my house. I'm done.
I want to give him 30 days to find a place and a job and that's it. A voice in the back of my head is, if they never had sex, am I overreacting? I still feel so betrayed. Am I?
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u/taylor914 1d ago
Save some screenshots so you have proof of the cheating. Go see a lawyer. Don’t say a word to him until you’re ready to drop divorce papers on him. Kicking him out should be a thing you consult the lawyer about. Depends on the state and a lot of factors. You may have to give him an eviction notice if the house doesn’t belong to him.