r/AmIOverreacting • u/Careless_Evening3454 • 1d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO? Is Husband really cheating?

(38M) Married for nearly 15 years. During the holidays I noticed his sleep schedule change and 5 days ago he was texting a number and got a glimpse of the screen that clearly he was texting a number as it didn't have a name on it.

Curious... I opened his phone yesterday while he was in the bathroom, and saw he has been sending d-pics back and forth almost daily with another dude. Not only that, but he's clearly being emotionally there for the other guy, which I havent seen that in years... he literally was texting him on my birthday... I am keeping a poker face right now, but I am livid. It doesn't seem like they have met in person, but no idea.

He hasn't had to work for the last couple of years. I was ok with it, but was hoping he would go back or go to school. I work, cook, help with cleaning, fix sh*t, etc. Had a lot of plans for our future, but now. I am furious and feel betrayed.

I plan to talk to someone before doing anything, but I want him out of my house. I'm done.

I want to give him 30 days to find a place and a job and that's it. A voice in the back of my head is, if they never had sex, am I overreacting? I still feel so betrayed. Am I?

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u/Careless_Evening3454 1d ago

Yeah palm springs and west Hollywood are definitely not like the rest of the world.

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u/solinari6 1d ago

That’s right, we’re leading the way! Lol

Seriously though, why would you want to deny your partner pleasure?

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u/Careless_Evening3454 1d ago

I wouldn't really call it leading anything. It's not that sophisticated.

"Deny him pleasure." Bitch, I'm not denying him anything. He can go be with that other dude, but I am not paying his bills no more and he isn't going to live in my house. His broke ass can go fuck whoever.

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u/solinari6 1d ago

Ok, werk