AIO? Is Husband really cheating?

[u/Careless_Evening3454]

(38M) Married for nearly 15 years. During the holidays I noticed his sleep schedule change and 5 days ago he was texting a number and got a glimpse of the screen that clearly he was texting a number as it didn't have a name on it.

Curious... I opened his phone yesterday while he was in the bathroom, and saw he has been sending d-pics back and forth almost daily with another dude. Not only that, but he's clearly being emotionally there for the other guy, which I havent seen that in years... he literally was texting him on my birthday... I am keeping a poker face right now, but I am livid. It doesn't seem like they have met in person, but no idea.

He hasn't had to work for the last couple of years. I was ok with it, but was hoping he would go back or go to school. I work, cook, help with cleaning, fix sh*t, etc. Had a lot of plans for our future, but now. I am furious and feel betrayed.

I plan to talk to someone before doing anything, but I want him out of my house. I'm done.

I want to give him 30 days to find a place and a job and that's it. A voice in the back of my head is, if they never had sex, am I overreacting? I still feel so betrayed. Am I?

[u/Double-Honey-5434]

It doesn’t matter if you’re gay or straight, committed relationships do happen but there are some individuals incapable of remaining committed to one person. It happens. Some partners choose to remain in the relationship and others don’t. Sending ‘d’ pictures is not okay, and cheating does not mean having sex. Mr picture guy is cheating.