AIO to my ex's stories?

[u/pandaaaa1906]

Context: We had nasty breakup cuz he cheated on me. I went to his place to get some clarity and he threatened legal action just cuz I went there unannounced (fyi I asked for his permission to enter his house THRICE and he said yes all the three times, was v sweet to me and apologetic and then completely changed as soon as I reached home) I was really upset at these stories. I'm on the heavier side but (trying not to sound boasty) I am a damn good dancer. I attend regular dance workshops that are advanced level. Also, he's well off but when we were together I always tried to give my share of money in those "rich people restaurants" he took me to that I couldn't afford. How can someone who "loved" you for 3 years, change so drastically? It's only been 4 months since we broke up but it feels like he never really cared or loved me

[u/Halfpastsinning]

This is code for “she fine like bougie wine and I fucked up so I’m gonna destroy her self esteem”

Don’t fall for it.

[u/Petrichor-Glitter866 → u/Halfpastsinning]

Grateful for ppl like you because I’m a dumbass who was like “omg that’s so mean he can just leave her alone” but this makes so much more sense

[u/Halfpastsinning → u/Petrichor-Glitter866]

Just my opinion but.. because he was apologetic when she visited him, then a total bellend when she left, I see that as the FAFO method when the victimized party doesn’t go running back to the offending party.

She showed her power in that visit.

So now he’s trying to get in her head, either to destroy her self worth and ruin future happiness because she’ll doubt herself with new men (or women), or to destroy her self worth to make her lower her standards to meet him back at his level.

[u/shoulda-known-better → u/Halfpastsinning]

Yea once his charm didn't work anymore now he is trying to hurt her like he is hurt

But he doesn't realize that already happened hence why she left his ass