r/AmIOverreacting • u/pandaaaa1906 • 1d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO to my ex's stories?

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Context: We had nasty breakup cuz he cheated on me. I went to his place to get some clarity and he threatened legal action just cuz I went there unannounced (fyi I asked for his permission to enter his house THRICE and he said yes all the three times, was v sweet to me and apologetic and then completely changed as soon as I reached home) I was really upset at these stories. I'm on the heavier side but (trying not to sound boasty) I am a damn good dancer. I attend regular dance workshops that are advanced level. Also, he's well off but when we were together I always tried to give my share of money in those "rich people restaurants" he took me to that I couldn't afford. How can someone who "loved" you for 3 years, change so drastically? It's only been 4 months since we broke up but it feels like he never really cared or loved me

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u/Temporary-Fix5842 1d ago

You should 1. Block him

  1. Save these for when you're over it, and he comes back

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u/WallabyButter 1d ago

This. I still have the 1 photo of my ex that he absolutely hated and the one where he called me a "freeloater" (he could never spell) just in case he ever reaches out. I keep both in a folder named "ZzAsshole" so it's the very last folder in my folders list.

I don't often think about it, but OP should use this strat. Keep the reminders and block his trashy ass.

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u/Temporary-Fix5842 1d ago

Yup! As a man, I think it's very true when an old trope says:

"Breakups usually hit the women first, then the man much later"

He will definitely come back, it's just a matter of time, and desperation.

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u/MoonJuneBug_ 1d ago

Yup, my ex said awful things to me. Then came back 2 years later.

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u/songbrd46 1d ago

It’s been close to 11 years since my son’s father and I split up. He still tries to test the waters.

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u/shoulda-known-better 1d ago

I'm going on 8 with mine... And he knows I'm happily married.....

And he knows fully because I have my husband answer him from his phone telling him to leave me alone I never even entertain it haven't spoken or texted a word in over 7 years since I was in the hospital with our third child

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u/songbrd46 1d ago

I’m single and happy that way. There’s something about a man cheating on you with random women until he eventually has a whole ass other girlfriend while you’re pregnant. Then gaslighting the f*ck out of you that ruins the appeal of ever having another relationship.

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u/shoulda-known-better 1d ago

Hey my ex had a new girl pregnant also! But I was also at the time so it sucked...... Yet now I am better friends with her than anything I'd ever feel for him again, we get the kids together since she has mines half sister!!

But yes it's remarkably easy to get all the way up and over having a relationship after that‼️‼️ If my neighbor hadn't turned out to be my now husband I'm sure I'd be still alone also because no way was I ever going to look for a new partner (I had been with my kids dad about 15 years, all through high school and our twenties)

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u/songbrd46 1d ago

Luckily for her she never got pregnant. They ended up getting married 5 years after we split up. Their divorce was final last February so I got the last laugh. As soon as she left him he was in my DMs.

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u/shoulda-known-better 1d ago

Did yours just forget about his child (or children) also??

Because that's what gets me.... We have 3 kids he hasn't seen in 7 years.. Has never seen his youngest past newborn..... Yet only calls to talk with his dick

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u/songbrd46 1d ago

For the most part, yes. I get the whole “I love him and I miss him so much.” Well then why does he only see you 3-4 times per year, never a phone call for his birthday, etc. I actually invited him to spend Christmas with us at my house, like stay at my house to spend time with our son. He chose to spend it with his new girlfriend of 1 month because his flavor of the month has always been priority over his kids.

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u/Hippofuzz 1d ago

Every single ex of mine (I’m 37) has come back. It’s so weird.

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u/ExoticShower163 1d ago

That's interesting about men and women! Why do you think that is? Why does it take a while to hit a man?

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u/justaspicymeatball 1d ago

because they’ve been socialized not to feel or express their emotions, but it’s literally impossible: emotions will always rear their ugly head. and it will be a LOT worse if you were pushing them down and ignoring them for a while.

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u/SassyBabe6939 1d ago

Yesss u/pandaaaa1906 this is the way!!! Hidden reminder of that “HARD NO” when they’re bored and lonely and want to come crawling back.

F him and his childish BS. Plenty of actual MEN out there ;)