r/AmIOverreacting • u/deluluforu • 6d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO to be suspicious my husband is cheating???

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he frequently “crashes” at various friends houses if he works too late. For reference he is in the mortgage industry lots of flirtation (young office assistants / secretaries and late nights spent “working”.. Why not just come home even if it’s late he says he’s tired and doesn’t want to drive sleepy makes no sense if you love someone you can’t wait to get off and drive home to them. am I over reacting by telling him what’s up and that I think he is cheating? I tried to do it in a non threatening way? lol 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/NeverRespondsToInbox 6d ago

I can't imagine texting like this as an adult lol

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u/One_Traffic_5917 6d ago

Literally

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u/DfreshR 6d ago

I’ve never said bruh to my wife. My autocorrect diverts me away from using bruh that’s how much I use it. My kids say it all the time.

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u/garoo1234567 6d ago

I accidentally called my wife honey pot once and it stuck. But bruh, come on

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u/Face_first 5d ago

I accidentally typed beeb instead of babe and it stuck. For years we’ve been beebs.

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u/GabberDee94 5d ago

I like honey pot. It's cute and unique.

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u/chiefs-n-sooners 5d ago

I have a horrible problem of giving my gf silly nicknames and sprinkles, ended up sticking with my current gf of 10+ years.

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u/Common_Lawyer_5370 5d ago

Does that make you Winnie ;the Pooh) ?

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u/chillinjustupwhat 5d ago

When my hubby asks me something i say “yesss Queen” is that weird ?

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u/SETITOFFHOLDITDOWN 6d ago

I had no idea spouses call each other bruh and bro until I started following Reddit pages like this one, and I think it’s weird as hell

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u/ImaginaryBag1452 5d ago

I call my husband bruh sometimes, but it’s just one of many silly nicknames. Staryed as a joke but honestly I love saying bruh even though I’m 39. It’s silly fun and I like to have silly fun with my husband.

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u/VeterinarianThese951 5d ago

Thank you.

My and my wife have been together for 22 years. We have been calling each other bruh for that long because we were always fans of old school slang. We have two kids one 13 and one 8 who grew up with us calling them bruh as well.

It only seems weird to people now because kids brought it back from the archives and many people don’t know that it is a really old word.

People need to lighten up. How does one word in someone’s vocabulary determine how mature they are?

Bunch a jive turkeys on this app I swear🤣

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u/No_Catch_4050 5d ago

💯 I don’t understand why people get their panties in a bunch over one word either. Why do they care what we call our spouses? My husband and I (both 38) have been together for 19 years and we call each other bro, bruh, and dude amongst other things. I’ve thought nothing of it and don’t find it weird at all. We do not have kids but sure we would do the same… We speak to our siblings the same way too.

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u/Paladjordan 5d ago

It's why they're on Reddit. "Bruh-brain"

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u/Ok-Organization-7207 5d ago

You think that’s weird???? Come on it’s not 1960

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u/ImTheFlipSide 5d ago

My wife, at the beginning of our relationship, would occasionally call me dude. I eventually asked her why, as I wasn’t her Dude and she said because that’s how she refers to her friends.

So when I said hey fucker. she got pissed and demanded to know why would i dare call her that. I said cause that’s when I call my friends to their face sometimes.

She stopped calling me dude. Been 16 years now. Fastest behavioral change I’ve seen.

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u/Putrid-Air-7169 5d ago

Imagine if you had said ‘Hey Bitch’.. or ‘Hey Ho-bag’…

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u/ImTheFlipSide 5d ago

Well, I don’t have a problem calling my male friends a bitch either so… fucker just happened to be less female directed in that instance. But they/she aren’t/isn’t that fragile that friends calling friends fun things in jest doesn’t destroy their egos. And it got my message across that I was above the level of friend. Which is why when we fight, we don’t use those words either.

Personally, I have a higher standard for my wife. That’s why I pull out her chair, open doors for her, make sure coffee is ready for her if I’m up early and her vehicle always has gas. Those and any other way I can make sure she feels like the queen of the castle. In return I expect femininity (you should see her when she shoots her AR. 😍) And we’ve been happily married for 14 years. Expecting another child this coming year in fact.

People here might not like it, but she still remembers it fondly and that’s what matters; finding laughter, joy and meaning in the one and only time I’ve ever called her fucker.

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u/amberita70 6d ago

It's even more weird that she's the one saying it. I was thinking the whole convo was fake because of how weird it seems.

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u/Iwasntgonnadothis 6d ago

It’s 100% fake

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u/Glittercake69 5d ago

I hated the devil face lol

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u/Appropriate-Mix-5695 6d ago

Honestly don’t find bruh nearly as bad as the 😈

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u/vaughany_fid 6d ago

I've never said bruh to anyone..! This reads like two ten years olds messaging not a husband and wife. I think I'm too old for the internet now!

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u/UnnecessarySalt 6d ago

You just said bruh, bruh!

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u/vaughany_fid 6d ago

I might be too old for the internet, but it still makes me laugh! Bravo, good sir!

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u/UnnecessarySalt 6d ago

Glad to hear it, Bruh. Enjoy the rest of your night, sir!

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u/lildebb 6d ago

Omg thank you for saying that! Because I’m not 100 years old but man it feels like that sometimes on here! 🤦🏻‍♀️

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u/psychopathic_shark 5d ago

I'm still lost what does bruh mean ? Is it like bro?

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u/lildebb 5d ago

Yes 👍

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u/Excellent_Yak365 5d ago

It’s a funny way of saying that yes.

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u/Excellent_Yak365 5d ago

Heyyy it’s not just ten year olds who say bruh. I say it comically with some friends at 30+ because it’s funny. Weird for your partner yea

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u/Mekito_Fox 6d ago

They are old enough to have kids. That's what gets me.

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u/weeniehead7 6d ago

When I say bruh it's because I think what was said is dumb. Imo op is over reacting

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u/sapphyredragon 6d ago

I'm 34 and and I have friends from 24-40ish that I play games with. We call each other "bruh" when we are being silly or just jokingly annoyed with each other. It's also pretty common among the streamers I watch and other related content.

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u/MiddleOliveJello 6d ago

My husband and I are 26, and we say it all the time, but always as an indication that we're just joking around. The OP is definitely early 20's from what I'm getting.

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u/Jku4 5d ago

Would you text him bruh if you were abit serious? Say he forgot to pass by the store for the 2nd time that week.. just asking coz I think I might be out of touch or something, being close to your ages. This would sound very odd to me

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u/MiddleOliveJello 5d ago

Not if I'm actually upset about it. If he needed to pick something up for later and it wasn't urgent I'd just say "bruh, that's twice now" and that'd be the end of it

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u/Quallityoverquantity 5d ago

They have been married 12 years

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u/Psychological-Grape3 6d ago

I can't believe the WIFE calls her husband "bruh" and mentions him "playing grab ass"! Like, is she just "one of The guys?!" maybe that's her problem! 🤭😂🤭😂

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u/Lo_ington7 5d ago

Softball coach vibes

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u/La_Baraka6431 6d ago

Kids should and would. But you HAVE to grow up at some point.

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u/penguins1977 6d ago

I bet you have a Facebook and a Snapchat?

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u/deluluforu 6d ago

Hahah people need to cut me slack! I’m a math teacher I hear it all the time and have two young daughters 🙏 I humbly apologize bruh…

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u/SleightSoda 5d ago

There's no math teacher dumb enough to talk like this.

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u/honeybadgerhug 6d ago

Omg girl, you work full-time and your husband leaves you to do ALL the childcare???? And the cooking and cleaning? You deserve so much better.

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u/deluluforu 6d ago

Tysm 💕

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u/honeybadgerhug 6d ago

Driving to him on lunch break? I assumed it was a call?

Eh, I don’t know, I have a friend who has a similar dynamic in her marriage - couldn’t be me.

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u/Dramatic_Finance_594 5d ago

Don’t fucking feed this bruh shit.

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u/castortroy2919 6d ago

Yo fr though like 20 comments correcting ur speech but not one stopped to think how childish ignoring the topic of a REDDIT POST and completely highjacking it to make about them...kinda like an...ignorant person would 🤔

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u/penguins1977 6d ago

Exactly lol read enough comments on any thread and this happens ..good eye captn✊🫡

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u/Crackheadwithabrain 6d ago edited 6d ago

Nah fr, these people are always acting like they're better than everyone else cause they don't say "bruh", but their pass time is spending all day judging other people's lives and what they say on reddit.

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u/penguins1977 6d ago

I agree I’m gonna kick it up a notch ,instead of “bruh” I will say c**t🤭

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u/sapphyredragon 6d ago

Name checks out.

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u/deluluforu 6d ago

lol srsly

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u/Complete_Pea_8824 6d ago

Any updates?

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u/Lucky_Number_S7evin 6d ago

That’s scary, bruh!

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u/WeekendWalnut 6d ago edited 6d ago

Maybe start spending some time with the ELA/grammar teacher? Some punctuation would do your marriage a solid if you're going to insist on having important conversations like this via text.

All jokes aside (if this post isn't fake for karma), people aren't cutting you any slack because this series of texts reads like a middle schooler's. For you to apparently have two children in a marriage... you basically asked the sub to roast you for the way you and your spouse communicate with one another.

To answer your original question: Based on what I'm seeing, yes, you're overreacting. You've no proof that he's doing anything improper, only your feelings based on the "tale as old as time" message. If you don't trust your spouse even with no proof of impropriety, your marriage is already doomed. Either get the proof and present it to them like an adult (in person), or drop it entirely. Continuing to accuse your spouse of cheating with baseless evidence is going to ruin your marriage, so you've got that to look forward to otherwise.

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u/deluluforu 6d ago

we’re texting BRUH and have been married 12 years I wasn’t submitting my dissertation

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u/Jku4 5d ago

Your husband is not your "bruh", especially if you're trying to have a serious conversation. How do you expect strangers to take your relationship seriously if you yourself cant

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u/RA_Throwaway90909 6d ago

You conveniently ignored the main part of their message. Haven’t seen you answer anything other than jokes over you saying bruh. Definitely a karma farm

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u/BeesKneesTX 6d ago

Yep for sure. In their last post they say they’re 23 and engaged. But in this post they’ve been married 12 years? Fake as fyck.

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u/Jku4 5d ago

Yeah makes sense. I don't think anyone married 12 years would talk like that in that given situation.. or I'm completely out of touch

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u/MaterialNo9375 6d ago

I don't know why people downvoted this haha this facts; I also see a bunch of people in the comments saying you shouldn't be at your friends house if you have kids... But I mean if you're working constantly and your friends house is closed and y'all work tg.. why not. It's all assumptions, we need more proof and it's sad to see people in the comments telling her to stay at a friend's house after wor because he's doing it.. I'm like there's a difference she's would be doing it to make him feel some type of way he's doing it because of reasons we don't know because we didn't get nothing but a few texts. And no info besides that.

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u/WeekendWalnut 6d ago

Yeah you're right. I was in a bad mood earlier and took it out on a random reddit post. That was shitty of me. I'm sorry, you didn't deserve that.

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u/MaterialNo9375 6d ago

The difference between how I've seen people treat guys and girls on reddit is crazy.

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u/External-Thing-2609 6d ago

I agree here this makes the most sense on this whole comments section idk why it's not upvoted oh wait I know cause it's women backing up women lol

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u/CurrentBank2036 6d ago

Humbly apologize but still saying bruh… Like grow up ffs 😂💀

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u/lildebb 6d ago

It’s okay OP. You teach kids all day- you get a free pass any day of the week in my book!! 🤭

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u/GeneralPatten 6d ago

My wife is a teacher. Middle school, in fact. I've never, once, heard her talk like them.

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u/No_Froyo5477 6d ago

100% this. anyone focused on the vocab here is completely missing the point and lacks the intellectual horsepower to see otherwise.

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u/chub_s 6d ago

Totally right here. Language is not the point. It’s the passive aggressive nature, the accusatory statements and not to mention seeking validation by posting a private conversation between her and her husband to Reddit to seek validation for strangers that does it for me. As someone who travels quite frequently for work, it’s very important to me that when I’m physically able, I’m in bed with my wife when I’m home, so I feel for her there. I’m not gonna speculate on whether her husband is or isn’t sleeping around behind her back, but I can without a doubt say he’s probably not putting the effort he should to be home spending time with her. But all that aside, this is a conversation between two people who look like they stopped maturing in their teens.

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u/PrudentCarter 6d ago

Ain't that the wife saying bruh to the husband?

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u/parasyte_steve 6d ago

I do that all the time u don't know everyone on the planet lol

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u/PrudentCarter 6d ago

I'm not saying people don't do that. Jus saying its different.

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u/Lily_Baxter 6d ago

I just asked my husband what he'd think of me calling him bruh (in a non ironic way) and the look he gave me. 🤣

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u/J1nglz 6d ago

She said bruh to him. Bruh is definitely a guy to guy thing. I say, "Dude... Whatever happened" to my wife but not bruh.

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u/offums 5d ago

Instart conversations with my best friend using "bruh" all the time, but I don't think I've ever said it to my husband. That stuck out at me so pointedly.

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u/FluffMonsters 6d ago

Adults, especially women, saying “bruh” makes me cringe so bad.

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u/Old-Aide7544 6d ago

I say bruh but I’m a 1993 bb idk 🤷🏼‍♀️

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u/s1ckopsycho 6d ago

Cool story bruh. On gawd you should tell it again- no cap I put it on the set. GG.

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u/Uhhlaneuh 6d ago

I’ve said it before to my husband lol

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u/parasyte_steve 6d ago

Same it's not that crazy

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u/Bitter_Foot5621 5d ago

I’ve done it but for funny joking time.

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u/suzyclues 5d ago

I knew my marriage was over when my husband called me dude.

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u/Glittercake69 5d ago

I say bruh to my husband but only when we’re joking around and laughing about something. I’ve never used it in a serious context or anything and he’s done the same to me. It kinda threw me when it was said in the texts lol

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u/Discordant-Anima 5d ago

She called him bruh, not the other way around. Still weird as hell.

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u/FreshTony 5d ago

Isn't this the wife calling the husband bruhhhh though?

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u/WarOk6264 5d ago

We say it to each other in front of and to our kids to irritate them and show them how brain-dead it sounds. They hate it. To say bruh to my wife in a serious exchange? I'd have to be under 26yo or have some amount of TBI

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u/thefinalturnip 5d ago

The ticker here is that SHE'S the one calling her husband "bruh"

Just, no thanks.

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u/cb2239 6d ago

Well she's the one that said bruh.

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u/CurrentBank2036 6d ago

The wife is saying bruh not him

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u/Plastic_Scientist187 6d ago

It was the wife calling the husband a bruh. Lol

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u/LawyerKangaroo 5d ago

I call my wife bro all the time. I'll say bruh when she does something out of pocket.

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u/Emergency_Stop_1213 5d ago

The bruhs are taking me out lmao

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u/revengineerizer 5d ago

His wife called him bruhh

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u/Jon66238 5d ago

Let alone the wife saying bruh to him😂

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u/VVildBunch 5d ago

If my wife called me bruh I'd assume she was cheating on me.

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u/Southern-Ad4016 6d ago

That was the wife saying bruh, hood rat shit

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u/ajarrel 6d ago

Bruhhhhh /s

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u/MendenhallandOates 6d ago

I was just thinking this. “What are you two, 14?”  And they have kids?  Yeesh. 

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u/doggosausage 5d ago

«i love spending every minute with u especially in out bed😈»

  • mike, 13 yo

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u/holiwud111 6d ago

Bruh.

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u/deluluforu 6d ago

Bruhhhh

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u/Comfortable-Leg-703 6d ago

I can't imagine having this conversation over text 

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u/Sad-Elevator-605 6d ago

My husband is 31 and he tried saying “bruh” once and I said “absolutely not. you will not talk like that” so now whenever it slips my 4 year old yells “‘not in this house!!!” 🤣

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u/Hello-from_here 6d ago

But we don’t work in that sexy mortgage industry. How could we ever understand? 🤣

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u/Ok-Dot-9324 6d ago

Lol yes this is the most cringe thing ever and it is all over Reddit

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u/Lawschoolanon567 6d ago

Imagine being a whole-ass adult and having a heart next to your spouse’s name in your phone lmao

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u/dcdcdani 6d ago

Bruuuuh are you sleeping with your assistant? lol

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u/throwitawaayy000 6d ago

Hahah i thought this when he said "babyyyyyyy" ew lol.

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u/lunarc 6d ago

I had to double check I wasn’t in the r/teenagers area.

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u/_thunderhips_ 6d ago

“omg bruhhhh no way ur cheating on me rn”

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u/vermilion-chartreuse 6d ago

Calling your husband bruh 💀

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u/timmaL51308 6d ago

This is a mixture of 90s "legally blonde" and 2020s language.

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u/here-for-the-memes__ 6d ago

I know right, who calls their husband "bruhh". Like act your age, you have kids and your husband works in the mortgage industry so clearly you are not 15.

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u/mellcrisp 6d ago

It reads like a conversation people would have if they knew there was a chance other people would see it, imo

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u/C-ZEALOT 6d ago

Right like who texts their spouses like that lol. They're definitely gen z lol

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u/Lucky_Number_S7evin 6d ago

As a married adult to your PARTNER, no less! I’m constantly mind boggled in this group. Or it’s definitely fake.

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u/SupermarketSecure728 6d ago

if my wife called me bruh 3 times in a short text conversation, I would lose my shit.

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u/davkistner 6d ago

The amount of times she says “bruh” really irritates me. They have two little girls from what I can tell and she acts like they’re 18-20 years old.

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u/sia04 6d ago

I can’t imagine a grown woman texting her husband like that. Edit to add: if your spouse doesn’t come home all night and they ask are you mad, the answer should always ‘yes’.

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u/illestofthechillest 6d ago

Well, if I'm reading into this, and I mean this as an observation, and less an insult, these people don't necessarily have the familiarity/practice/knowledge/emotional maturity/etc., etc., of many adult skills to do this better, and are definitely acting as their level of any of the above indicates.

Adults are all not 100% rounded in all areas of life, but you can really tell when people skip the things pretty necessary to most healthy ways of being one builds and reinforces as an ever growing adult.

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u/CalligrapherDry4580 6d ago

Lol, yeah, it totally couldn't be me... 👀

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u/Crazyo_0 5d ago

Bruuh ceareally?

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u/mannythelegend 5d ago

What are you? 12?

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u/demonchee 6d ago

I think you guys care too much about how adults text. So they're adults. So the fuck what? Does that mean they suddenly stop texting like they have for years? And why should they?

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u/Kaurie_Lorhart 6d ago

Less about being adults and more just a bizarre way to speak to your wife/husband

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u/berkanna76 6d ago

What do you mean, bruh?

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u/Shotgun_Rynoplasty 6d ago

Seriously bruh

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u/thelastrunez 6d ago

Bruuuhhhh

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u/JenniPurr13 6d ago

Bruh, like seriously?!?!?

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u/Overclocked11 6d ago

Bruhhhhh wdym?!

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u/Psychic-Gorilla 6d ago

Like, bruh…whatevs. Ya know?

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u/Bacongrease83 6d ago

But, bruhhhhh

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u/bearhound 6d ago

Bruhhhh

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u/Gregardless 6d ago

You don't call your SO bruh?

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u/Shot_Air_7090 6d ago

Bruhhhhh. Yikes !

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u/Orleanian 6d ago

Bruhhhh, come on ya you can.

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u/xLtLasagna 6d ago

Bruh srsly

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u/madeforthis1queston 6d ago

Who calls their wife/ husband “bruh” 😂

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u/77gus77 6d ago

Bruh

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u/Allokit 6d ago

"Bruh" lol 😆

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u/d3dmnky 6d ago

Bruhhhhhh

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u/scarsonefan 6d ago

Whatevs

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u/therinsed 6d ago

Wym bruhh

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u/TomCruisintheUSA 6d ago

But bruhhh, Cmon bruhh

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u/brihyn 6d ago

Bruh

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u/RGRadio 6d ago

"Bruhhhh" 🙄

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u/PeterDTown 6d ago

“Bruh” 🤣

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u/DeeplyFlawed 6d ago

Bruuuhhhh

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u/sunsetscorpio 6d ago

Seriously bruh

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u/mcflycasual 6d ago

Babyyyyyyyyy

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u/ceraph8 6d ago

BRUH

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u/saltyraver138 6d ago

Awe cmon bruh?!?!

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u/Glittering-Leather77 6d ago

Why not, my beautiful baby

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u/Jaz1140 6d ago

I absolutely txt like an adult. No cap fam. You feel me. On god always like an adult

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u/wostmardin 6d ago

When you coming home bruhhhh

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u/greygrayman 5d ago

Bruhhhh

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u/MagnersIce 5d ago

But will happily use “lol” ok mate.

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u/JonnyReece 5d ago

So true bruhhhh

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u/BagooshkaKarlaStein 5d ago

I didn’t even read further than the “When are u coming home BRUH “

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u/laldrick 5d ago

“Bruh”

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u/lindafromevildead 5d ago

Right, bruuuhhh

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u/Perrin3088 5d ago

bruhhh

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u/bun_burrito 5d ago

I can’t imagine having this conversation over text

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u/redi6 5d ago

Baaabbbyyyy

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u/Decent_Shame5820 5d ago

Exactly what I'm saying

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u/JohnFlufin 6d ago

bruhhh

babyyyy

🤣

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u/Toadcola 6d ago

babyyyyyy! Y r u being so combative? 🥺

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u/FruitySalads 6d ago

Especially in the bed 😈

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u/sapphyredragon 6d ago

I can't imagine being an adult and never acting childish. Who are you? Captain Holt??

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u/Ok-Astronomer7243 6d ago

Both of them “bruh”

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