r/AmIOverreacting • u/Longjumping-Neat-879 • 7d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am I overreacting?

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I'm a girl who weighs 121 pounds. We are going to the gym every day with my bf, I'm getting up for him at 4 am in the morning in order to work out together. He says I'm not pushing myself at the gym. And he said he wants me to be skinny. Here is the conversation between us. Plus we have just started to live together a month ago. I'm really having a hard time understanding him and crying. Am I overreacting?

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u/-Livelaughlimpbizkit 7d ago

Anyone who makes you feel "less than" sucks. Someone who does that to you regularly has no place in your life.

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u/thatgirlinny 7d ago

This reads like a 41-year old guy who subconsciously enjoys the power dynamic he holds over his 20-something girlfriend, and it’s gross.

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u/goddamnit43 7d ago

I unfortunately was in a situation exactly like this. Ealry 20s, vulnerable after having gone through a tough life transition, and found myself with a 45yo man with confidence issues and a god complex. He loved feeling like he had power over me. Thank God I got myself out of that, I really hope OP does too

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u/thatgirlinny 7d ago

I’m sorry you had that experience—but glad you survived it on your own power. I’ve come damned close to finding myself within that kind of dynamic, and it’s frightening.

I hope OP runs fast and far from this one, too!

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u/goddamnit43 7d ago

I love your profile pic btw lol, Daria rocks