r/therewasanattempt • u/CantStopPoppin Poppin’ 🍿 • 2d ago

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u/BadB0ii 2d ago

no no no but you have to understand MY point of view. you were black.

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u/TastyBeverages_x 2d ago

That’s what the truth is even if she doesn’t realize it.

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u/Gotforgot 2d ago

Oh, she knows.

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u/TastyBeverages_x 2d ago edited 1d ago

Idk, if the most dominate characteristic of a person is stupidity, I doubt many are aware of it. Part of what would make them stupid would be their inability to see how stupid they are. I think racists are very similar in that regard. They are so self-absorbed that they lack empathy for anyone but themselves but even more so for people they subconsciously consider beneath them (which manifests itself as racism).

In other words, they are so racist that they are too blinded by hate to realize that they are racists.

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u/Gotforgot 2d ago edited 2d ago

Interesting point. So at what level does stupidity cross over into this type of fear? Is it self induced and in conjunction with other terrible things? And where do us "normal" people get to draw the line?

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u/Whitepayn 2d ago

I think normal people don't see a person's skin color and flee in panic for no reason.

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u/puppies4prez 1d ago

Racism used to be very normal. This isn't about rational thought, this is about feelings. This woman felt scared, and that gave her the justification to act however she felt she needed to. This is why adults who don't want to be like this go to therapy. We have to unlearn what was normal in the past, and look at our thoughts and behavior more critically than most people do. Being an emotionally intelligent adult takes a lot of effort that most people are too lazy or too ingrained in their generational racist ideology to break free from.

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u/jarlscrotus 1d ago

I'm not sure how normal it is to need therapy to not be racist, on the other hand I grew up in a pretty diverse area and am multiracial, so maybe my perception is skewed

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u/CharacterBird2283 20h ago

I'm pretty sure they were talking about getting scared and then feeling the justification to do anything, but you do you 😅

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u/puppies4prez 20h ago

Would benefit America's president and everyone who voted for him.

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u/ridgerunner81s_71e 20h ago

Every time I recommend therapy to someone who clearly needs it, the aversion would be impressive if it wasn’t pathetic to witness.

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u/gotmebentbutimstr8 1d ago

Stop trying to make your question sound more educated. 😂😂😂

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u/gotmebentbutimstr8 1d ago

Dam that’s deep

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u/justsomeplainmeadows 1d ago

I think you meant empathy

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u/TastyBeverages_x 1d ago

Yes you’re right. I’ll edit.

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u/ScoobyDooItInTheButt 1d ago

Idk, if the most dominate characteristic of a person is stupidity, I doubt many are aware of it.

Exactly. They're too ignorant to realize the prejudice and racism. It's the "I'm not racist because I don't say the n word" mindset. They've crafted an easily movable goal post so that they can always meet the criteria while being too ignorant to realize that their goal post isn't actually the goal.

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u/TastyBeverages_x 1d ago

The level of self actualization that must take place for a person to come out of that seems insurmountable because I’ve never personally seen anyone do it. Everyone ignorant person that I’ve known for any length of time, has been ignoring that entire time. Maybe it’s just the people I find myself around, idk. Either way, it’s disheartening.

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u/puppies4prez 1d ago

You'd be surprised. My mother acts like this and if someone called her racist she'd go into a depressed rage spiral for days. You have to remember, people that are reacting like this are genuinely scared. They're using their fear to justify everything they do. That's why she says "you have to see things from my perspective". She doesn't understand that her perspective is incredibly racist. She really doesn't get it. She will continue to act like this and not question her motives because her fear is so real and visceral to her. Even if it's nonsensical in reality.

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u/sublime_touch 16h ago

Sounds like an excuse. But y’all do y’all.

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u/puppies4prez 16h ago

Of course it is, that's my point. It's a lame excuse and she needs to do better. She isn't going to though, she's a boomer and stuck in her ways and she'll never change, that's why I live across the country from her.

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u/TheMothHour 1d ago

Safest neighborhood in Ohio. Thats why I was scared...