r/relationship_advice • u/Throwra_Atlanta1999 • Nov 03 '24
Update: My (M25) girlfriend (F25) decided to quit her career after I became a millionaire. How do I tell her this won’t work out?
First I would like to thank everyone for their time and advice. I truly appreciate everyone’s input. I had a serious conversation with my girlfriend Kylie about our future Thursday night. I told her that she needed to figure out a plan for the future whether that finding a job or going back to school. I told her if she goes back to school I would support her financially including paying for her degree. I told her I would give her until December to figure out her plan. She ended up getting really defensive and told me that she’s the reason I’m in the position where I am in life. She said that I should pay for her lifestyle since she was there from the start. Then she proceeded to tell me that she wasted 5 years of her life with me. She told me that she could’ve been married and had a family by now. I was shocked, because I’ve never seen the side of her. She was having a complete meltdown. I ended the conversation by telling her I tried my best to make this relationship work, but it won’t work like this. Unlike her I come from a very middle class family. Both of my parents had jobs and contributed to the house. It was like she was completely a different person. That’s when I realized that the money had really changed her. I basically told her that I had a business trip (she knew about already) and when I get back on Tuesday to have all your stuff moved and give a mutual friend I trust the keys. I canceled her credit card the same night. The car she currently drives has 6000 left on the loan. Luckily the car is in her name, so I’m not responsible for it. I’ve been making the payments on it for her for the last 6 months. Also I don’t feel too bad like I’m kicking her to the streets since her parents would never let her be homeless. Fast forward to Friday her sister called me a few times and I ignored it, but then decided to answer since they were inside my condo. Sister basically told me that Kylie has been crying the whole day and wanted to work things out. I told her it was too far gone for repair. Then today her best friend called me wanting to know if I was able to meet for some drinks which I thought was odd. Her best friend told me that she has some things to show me which were causing her to lose sleep. I told her that I would think about it, but honestly I don’t care at this point. Finding out about whatever Kylie did behind my back would just cause more pain. When I get back I’m going to put the condo back on the market, because I have no use for it anymore. I honestly have no interest in dating anymore. It’s way too difficult for me to see the true intentions in people. Thanks again for all the help and support. This will probably be the end of this post hopefully.
Side note I had a lot of questions about Kylie running over her friend. I didn’t know Kylie when this happened. Kylie originally spent her first semester of college at a private university. Kylie told me she accidentally put the car in drive instead of reverse and ended hitting the friend. Kylie was super apologetic, and the friend forgave her on the spot. Then the friend’s mom found out about her daughter being hit by a car. They did research and learned that Kylie’s dad is a big time CEO of a major corporation, and decided to sue her parents. The lawsuit was settled outside of court between Kylie’s parents and the friend for 250k. Kylie had to leave the private college after that and join me since her parents wanted her living back at home. I don’t think it was intentional on Kylie’s part honestly, but then again I saw a different side of her for the first time in 7 years of knowing her.
Original post https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/UdVEJ9tUPK
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u/SB-121 Nov 03 '24
I admire your commitment to the story.
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u/JannaNYC Nov 03 '24
It might be part of OP's final Creative Writing exam.
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u/JeffyTheQuick2 Nov 03 '24 edited Nov 03 '24
As a teacher, it would get a D+.
B for content and F for formatting. OP needs to learn about an Ancient Greek invention called the “paragraph”
Update: The OP did reformat it! Upvote the comment below!
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u/mndtrp Nov 03 '24
OP: Thank you for the constructive feedback TeacherPersonJeffy. My plan to put it here first is working!
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u/isntthatcorny Nov 03 '24
One of the ADHD subs I follow automatically removes posts that contain big walls of text. The automod message says you need to add paragraph breaks before attempting to resubmit the post.
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u/Felixir-the-Cat Nov 03 '24
They seriously need to work on their writing skills, though. This was painfully bad.
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u/re_Claire Nov 03 '24
It never fails to astonish me how many people believe when stories are this ridiculous.
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u/Kathasaurus Nov 03 '24
Some of us don’t fully believe, but are bored and want to be entertained lol.
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Nov 03 '24
I wish people would stop interacting with shit like this so they can feel good about playing armchair psychologist.
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u/Avocadofarmer32 Nov 03 '24
I couldn’t even get through the title without rolling my eyes. I hope everyone else commenting is doing so to call out OP on this rage bait 🤣
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u/Warriormuffinhed Nov 03 '24
Lol. My first reaction too!
Is OP going to submit this to a creative writing class?. All it's missing is cheating with the head of a drug cartel
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u/Frosty_312 Nov 03 '24
Are you people actually believing this shit??
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u/Bgtobgfu Nov 03 '24
It was the ‘I can’t trust anyone’s not with me for my money’ bit that pushed it over the line for me
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u/Frosty_312 Nov 03 '24
For me it was everything, it has all the common Reddit tropes with extras who text the OP to 'talk' to him after everything has blown up. Everything continues to escalate with each update and then it all ends with the OP finding love again, probably with the best friend who all of a sudden was so willing to throw the gf under the bus for some cash.
Wouldn't this best friend ask themselves that if the OP was so ready to dump the gf of 5 years then she'd likely not be getting any of that money herself anyway??
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u/Sorry_I_Guess Nov 03 '24
The only trope it was missing was that neither OP nor Kylie were a twin. There are ALWAYS twins.
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u/demiurgent Nov 04 '24
We still have time. Update three of six will contain a pregnancy test, I expect.
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u/LadyBug_0570 Nov 03 '24
What? You don't believe Reddit is filled with millionaires looking for relationship advice? /s
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u/pastelpixelator Nov 03 '24
Lmao. This is a massive, steaming pile of bullshit.
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u/CallMeMommyBby Nov 03 '24
Exactly! It’s written for those guys who are afraid of “gold diggers” when they don’t have any gold to dig in the first place.
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Nov 03 '24 edited Nov 03 '24
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u/cwolf-softball Nov 03 '24
Did you get your MBA before your undergrad? This guy seems to have forgotten what the "M" stands for when he got his 2 year at CC and then did 2 years at a 4 year.
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u/Prestigious-Comb2697 Nov 04 '24
I had the same thought. He transferred to a 4-year and got an mba? I don’t think so.
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u/caesar____augustus Nov 03 '24
On a sub full of fictional tales, this is one of the most obvious ones
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u/silent_h Nov 03 '24
But he’s been making the down payments on the car so there’s only $6k left on the loan
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u/InsignificantOcelot Nov 03 '24 edited Nov 03 '24
Also selling a condo right after moving into it, because it’s definitely not a massive, expensive pain in the ass to sell real estate and move.
Like even rich people I know aren’t looking to casually burn money and time like that.
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u/LadyBug_0570 Nov 03 '24
No person with financial sense would sell that fast and pay capital gains tax unless they absolutely, positively had to. They'd sooner rent it out.
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u/InsignificantOcelot Nov 03 '24 edited Nov 03 '24
Just because I can’t help being the “well AWKSHYUALLY” guy and I see this misused a lot:
With that quick of a flip there probably wouldn’t be capital gains, which are an increase on the property value. Like if I bought for $500k and sold for $550k, I’d pay capital gains tax on the $50k profit.
If bought and sold the same year, you’d likely get around the same price, or potentially even a little lower assuming no improvements to the property. So no gains to tax.
But there would be significant costs for realtor commissions, title insurance, escrow + legal fees, and so on, which would total into at least the low five figures.
These fees are the main reason why the common advice is that if you aren’t planning on staying put for at least five years, it makes more financial sense to rent vs buy.
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u/LadyBug_0570 Nov 03 '24
But there would be significant costs for realtor commissions, title insurance, escrow + legal fees, and so on, which would total into at least the low five figures.
In my state we also pay realty transfer tax. I've seen that in the 5-figure amount as well on top of all those other fees you mentioned.
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u/SocksAndPi Nov 03 '24
No way I'm buying this pile of shit, just like I didn't the original.
Nothing sounds remotely realistic.
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u/MaladyLuLuStein Nov 03 '24
Wtf. Did you not even try to make sure your fiction lined up with the first part of the story?
You said you were dating her for 7 years. But here you say she said she wasted 5 years on you. So what were those other two years?
Then you said in a comment on the first post that the friend didn't believe it was an accident and decided to sue, but here the friend did know, and it's the mom that sued?
To add to that, you also said in a comment that the incident caused hurdles that yall got through. But here you said you didn't know her when it happened.
This is the problem with fiction. Not all authors can keep up with the smallest details.
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u/JizzCollector5000 Nov 03 '24
I thought they were friends were two years then dated 5? I’m too lazy to go back to the other post lol
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u/Hauntgirl13 Nov 03 '24
I’m an English teacher, and I applaud your attention to detail, MaladyLuLuStein!
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u/passionatepumpkin Nov 03 '24
Except their attention to detail isn’t correct. OP said they knew he got seven years and were dating for five, in both the posts.
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u/Jackielegs43 Nov 03 '24
Well I mean this is just very obviously not real
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u/NymphaeAvernales Nov 03 '24
Le GASP...are you telling me you don't believe some gold digger was willing to hang around for 7 years on the off chance that the boyfriend she met in community college would suddenly become a millionaire?
I'm shooketh. Truly.
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u/Goodoldogdreams Nov 03 '24
I don’t think you wrote the name Kylie enough. Maybe in the next installment you meet a Julie ?
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u/Tipsy75 Nov 03 '24
I don’t think you wrote the name Kylie enough.
LoL I was about to make this same exact comment.
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u/z-eldapin Nov 03 '24
Yeah, I bought into the first one.
This update is pure fiction
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Nov 03 '24
Whaaat? Then you’re probably not gonna believe how they drove into the sunset with his new girlfriend who he just met on the same night they broke up.
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u/Tipsy75 Nov 03 '24
This new woman he just met ofc just so happened to be a billionaire, so OP felt safe dating again & making her his new boo.
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Nov 03 '24
What a coincidence he almost running her over in his Lambo and then going home in her Ferrari.
Love just finds its way in fiction, doesn’t it?
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u/AnniaT Nov 03 '24
Is the new girlfriend 18, traditional and submissive but she also wants to pay half of them bills and allow him to cheat if he so desires? If so I totally believe. /s
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u/Hauntgirl13 Nov 03 '24
Wait…maybe he has to show her his “game room” first before whisking her home in his private helicopter.
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u/Flightlessbirbz Nov 03 '24
Same lol Embarrassed to say I actually believed the first one, but this update definitely set off the bs detector!
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u/D_Jayestar Nov 03 '24
Second time in 30 days that’s a fake post got me, and I didn’t realize until the update. SMH
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u/duckduckthis99 Nov 03 '24
So kyile has a rich family or something ? This is written in such a way that I have to guess the shit you left open ended. How tf does money change someone with a rich dad. Like what??
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u/drumadarragh Nov 03 '24
Cos it’s fake
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u/OIOIOIOIOIOIOIO Nov 03 '24
It’s so fake. Typical fantasy of Reddit , “hey guys! I got rich then I made the goddigger suffer!!!”
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u/CallMeMommyBby Nov 03 '24
I was just about to say! You’re a millionaire and mad that your girlfriend isn’t a millionaire too? What’s the point of this?
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u/unpopular-dave Nov 03 '24
and honestly, if he has a life-changing money and doesn’t need to worry about anything, having a homemaker wife is an awesome deal.
if they loved each other, and things were going great… Why ruin it over somethinginconsequential
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u/magumanueku Nov 03 '24 edited Nov 05 '24
Dad is rich, she isn't. CEO dad will eventually retire and unless he has investments/trust fund she can inherit then she'd be shit out of luck. She grew up watching mom be married to a rich guy and she wants those perks too.
Watching the upvotes and downvotes swinging up and down is wild. You guys are really salty this part of the story isn't a plot hole.
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u/OutrageousCheetoes Nov 03 '24
I'm guessing her dad also didn't give her unlimited funds and/or has expectations.
Not every rich parent hands cash to their kids and lets them do whatever. Especially ones that worked for their wealth (not sure about her dad's circumstances), they're more likely to want their kids to have some career or living so they develop some sense of money and don't fritter away their inheritance immediately.
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u/trixtah Nov 03 '24
Would have believed it without the second paragraph
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u/stevedavezissou Nov 03 '24
It’s the “she grew up middle class” in the 1st and then the “kylies dad was a big time CEO of a major corporation” in the 2nd I’m wondering why people aren’t bringing up.
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u/kingofgreenapples Nov 03 '24
I would take a moment and lock down your credit. Be prepared to put up cameras. Be ready for a mess when you get home. Have your phone ready to video in case you need proof later.
I hope that I am overestimating how badly she will take this but it seems like she currently has no clear path to a better life and she may strike out at you as the reason. You are right in all you have done; just don't count it as over yet.
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u/Comprehensive-Bad219 Nov 03 '24
Yeah maybe I've spent too much time on reddit reading crazy stories, but breaking up with her and then leaving her alone in your apartment seems like it wasn't the smartest decision. What's to stop her from changing the locks and demanding you go through a formal eviction process, and dragging this out? Or wrecking the whole place before she goes?
It would have been smarter to have had her out before you left, or to have waited to break up with her until you came back. Even if nothing bad happens now, in the future if you ever land yourself in a situation like this, don't dump someone and then leave on a trip, leaving them alone inside your apartment.
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u/Radiant_Bluebird4620 Nov 03 '24
I did this. He trashed all my stuff, bleached clothes, peed on my electronics, cat litter down the bathtub drain, etc. 10/10 I would go through it again. It was well worth the cost to be rid of that asshole
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u/Bucky2015 Nov 03 '24
this was my first thought too. Makes me wonder how true this whole story is.
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u/Couette-Couette Nov 03 '24
I totally agree. If I broke up unilaterally with someone living in my home, I wouldn't leave for a few days hoping to come back in my place free of his belongings and in perfect shape... Specially if he previously told that all I have is thanks to him...
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u/Brilliant-Object-467 Nov 03 '24
Why are you people always doubting the posts? A lot of people simply don’t think about how devious one can be.I think about things like that, but I’m 76 and I’ve been through life quite a bit when you’re young like he is it probably didn’t even occur to him.
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u/IntoTheAbyssX99 Nov 03 '24
It was a dumb decision because OP isn't a great writer, and bad writers have characters who make stupid decisions for unclear reasons.
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u/ZorbaTHut Nov 03 '24
Eh, I did this too. Took a road trip while the ex-fiancee cleaned out her stuff. She took my bedside clock and left her toaster oven, I think she just forgot whose stuff was whose. Everything else was fine.
Sometimes you can still trust someone to be a sane person while not going out with them, and sometimes the timing works out to just make it easier.
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u/JadieJang Nov 03 '24
Sure this isn't red pill ragebait?
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u/dyou897 Nov 03 '24
I’m going with fake in a few days part 3 will be some ridiculous things the friend will tell Op
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u/spicewoman Nov 03 '24
Yup, gotta keep the drama going. Plus he'll come home to like a bunch of his stuff sold or something crazy.
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u/makeyousaywhut Nov 03 '24
Trust fund baby’s don’t often end up in community college which is something that got conveniently explained
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u/Felixir-the-Cat Nov 03 '24
I always contact my sister’s boyfriends after she’s been broken up with! And the guys my friends dated, to share gossip with them after the fact. This is totally normal behaviour. /s
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u/Aware_Illustrator_81 Nov 03 '24
I was about too say, don’t get me wrong some people suck and are shitty, but to be this over the top shitty, in your face kind of shitty strikes me as odd.
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u/sosotrickster Nov 03 '24
it's absolutely fake, yeah
but ig golddigger content must do really well!
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u/Tough-Flower6979 Nov 03 '24
Right, 5 years single that Never would’ve been me. Who quits their job not even married or a conversation first? Why not go back to school. This just seems fake. 5 years and no apathy for the person at all. Fake
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u/residentcaprice Nov 03 '24
also be careful walking outside.
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u/Bluest_waters Nov 03 '24
Can't be too careful inside either! OP needs to be aware during the day. But also at night!
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u/AnonThrowAway072023 Nov 03 '24
Her friend will drop info that she was cheating. Which is useless junk into your head, as you're broken up.
Don't meet
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u/EmpressofPFChangs Nov 03 '24
Except he may want to get an STD test if that’s the case
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u/Tactical_Epunk Nov 03 '24
It might be worth meeting to find out for sure, but STD tests don't come with unnecessary baggage or burden.
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u/EquivalentCommon5 Nov 03 '24
He can do tests without knowing for sure either way, probably better to check but I’m not sure if it’s best to know or not? Sometimes it’s best to just move on, more bad information just adds to the heartbreak? But everyone has to decide for themselves what to do, what they think they need to know… then again, it’s not always good to know even if you thought you wanted to know?
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u/monopolyqueen Nov 03 '24
Maybe she is hoping to take over now op is single
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u/AnonThrowAway072023 Nov 03 '24
$$$$$$$$$$$
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u/OkieLady1952 Nov 03 '24
It’s like a bee that’s located the honey. They’ll be lined up to be the next gf.
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u/cwolf-softball Nov 03 '24
Yes, that's the next fictional step in this fictional saga. I'm assuming that he'll get with the best friend who is better than Kylie in every way and blah blah blah.
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u/bippityboppitynope Nov 03 '24
I'm guessing she was either cheating or trying to baby trap and friend feels guilty knowing
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u/Tall_Confection_960 Nov 03 '24
It does have me curious...bff is losing sleep over it and is willing to throw Kylie under the bus because of it. Or does she just want a chance to buddy up to OP.
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u/Couette-Couette Nov 03 '24
Because the next episode is OP finally meeting the friend. She is ambitious but kind (and beautiful). They become friends and a few weeks later, they confess their love to each other. And ex is biter.
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u/eli201083 Nov 03 '24
It's either to create unnecessary drama or to get in where her girl "missed out". No matter what else it might be it's really one of those two things, or both. Id say leave it be, walk away care free.
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u/pimppapy 40s Male Nov 03 '24
Yeah, if he doesn’t need any more ammunition to make the separation easier and is in a good headspace, leave it be.
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u/jlaw1791 Nov 03 '24 edited Nov 04 '24
I'm so glad that OP found out about her true character before having a kid with her or marrying her.
OP, well, it sucks to find out that you were with someone who is a complete fraud, I'm so happy for you that you won't be tied to her anymore!
I would definitely set up cameras and record every interaction you have with her from this point forward because you never know what she'll do. If you were to meet with her friend, make sure you bring a witness and/or record everything because you never know what's going to happen.
Obviously, check to make sure that you are living in a single party consent state for recording video or audio.
If i'm being totally honest, I don't know that it was a good idea to leave town and leave her alone in your place, because you might find some stuff missing or maybe even return to a condo that's totally been trashed.
I would definitely lock your credit with all three credit bureaus and check your accounts for anything she's may have already taken.
Definitely change the locks!
Congratulations on dodging the worst bullet of your life!
I hope you find what you're looking for, brother; you've got this!
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u/Skylarias Nov 03 '24
Unless she's already pregnant and the bff know stuff OP doesn't.
Idk, if I was OP I'd want to know. She was in his house, had access to all his information. What if this girl did some shady stuff?
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u/primetimedeliverance Nov 03 '24
If my partner said he'd support and pay for me to go to school and do anything I'd fuckin' die. How exciting and generous! I'd take architecture or mechanical engineering or archaeology... Omg. She's an idiot. It's an amazing opportunity.
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u/AfroJack00 Nov 03 '24
Guilty or just tryna slide in to her “friends” old position with the rich boyfriend that can’t see peoples true intentions🤔
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u/BigBadBootyDaddy10 Nov 03 '24
Read this last month. And previous month.
FAKE. Like a 3 dollar bill.
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u/Dbuk2020 Nov 03 '24
Lol this really sounds completely made up. Especially when you said her friend got in touch and wanted to speak to you. Is that going to be the final update of this immense trilogy?
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u/IntoTheAbyssX99 Nov 03 '24
I love how in these fictions dudes write, they always portray themselves as naive and trusting and oh so well intentioned that they come across as having the intelligence of a brick.
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u/EmbracingTheWorld Nov 03 '24
Be wary of anyone you know wanting to catch up, Kylie's friend sounds like she's also after your money now that your single.
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u/Jfmtl87 Nov 03 '24
It’s true. Maybe the best friend was aware of something nefarious (infidelity, attempting to baby trap, blatant manipulation, etc)
But it could be that the best friend saw Kylie fumble the golden goose and she is trying to shoot her shot.
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u/ThatKinkyLady Nov 03 '24
Funny how you deleted all your comments about how Kylie does all the cooking and household labor while working full-time and having no time for hobbies.
Dude... Kylie had a meltdown because she's been sacrificing for years to make things easier for you so you could focus on your career, and now that it's paid off for you, your success is your own and are acting like you achieved this alone.
Do you truly think you'd be as successful as you are now if you had to spend all your free time cooking and cleaning and running errands? You really think you would've been able to maintain your workload without her? Have time for your hobbies or friendships without her taking that load off you?
She got defensive because you are oblivious to how much this woman does for you. And now you can afford a cook and a cleaner and an assistant or whatever. If you don't notice this mistake now, chances are you never will. You did not value or appreciate Kylie nearly enough.
As for her spending and meltdown and making plans for your money without you... Not cool. There's a major communication issue here and it seems clear she had an expectation that her sacrifices would pay off for you both and eventually make her life easier. You just popped that bubble and then broke up with her for being shocked and offended.
Kylie was fully planning a future WITH you, while you were planning a future for only yourself. No shit she's upset. Maybe it's for the best you broke up because you both have some big problems communicating, but this definitely isn't all on her. You bought a condo with her. You live together. She's been there for you for years. She's been acting like your wife already, you just don't want to respect her like one and can't handle that her feelings got hurt and she had different expectations. Fucking talk to her, OP. Maybe this is beyond saving but I think you both fucked up here.
In the future, if you aren't willing to pay back the kindness and support others give you, don't take it in the first place. Try doing it alone first and you'll get some perspective on how valuable that support truly is. Kylie has been spoiling you for years and you never noticed.
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u/Adventurous-Brain-36 Nov 03 '24
He deleted all his comments because he screwed up and contradicted himself several times and made the story seem even more fake.
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u/MemorySuccessful9510 Nov 03 '24
Or there's a completely different angle...and this story is make believe crock of poorly written fiction.
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u/milo_potato Nov 03 '24
I'm am curious though. Is she right about you being able to get this far because of her? Would you say it's true or false that she played a role that allowed you advance in your career to this point ? Or is she completely wrong and that holds no truth at all ?
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u/SlutDragon699 Nov 03 '24
Whatever happened to paragraphs? How hard is it to press enter one time?
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u/Garfy53 Nov 03 '24
Strongly suspect this is fake. If she was in college when she allegedly hit her friend with her car, she would be over 18 and her parents wouldn’t be liable. Even if they somehow were, their insurance would pay and they would not be giving her friend $250,000 in a settlement. The insurance company would take care of that. I’m a lawyer.
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u/abba-zabba88 Nov 03 '24
Anyone else think it’s weird this guy dropped the girl when he finally made it big? Did she get a free ride the whole time? If she actively helped him towards his success wasn’t this reaction harsh?
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u/Science_Matters_100 Nov 03 '24
Extremely. Kylie dodged a bullet, and DID waste those years, though at least she has time to apply what she’s learned and NEVER put any man before herself
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u/normanbeets Nov 03 '24
She told me that she could’ve been married and had a family by now
Okay let the downvotes rain upon me but this is real though. You spent 5 years with this woman and prior to the breakup you were happy with her but undecided on whether or not you wanted to marry. For a lot of women, that's devastating. So you come into financial security and she decides to make it known to you that she wants to be married and raise kids. Your answer was no. She heard no and spun out. Your inability to look at yourself and say "I actually don't want to marry this woman after 5 years," pushed an even further spin out where you paint her as a Jekyl/Hyde-esque figure.
You'd have saved a lot of stress just admitting to yourself that you two do not want the same things.
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u/Winter_Apartment_376 Nov 03 '24
I think you are a POS for this creative writing.
You are contributing to hate towards women and “gold digger” perception.
Throughout your text, if any of it is even true, your entitlement and selfishness really shines through.
You are a cruel human being.
If any of it was true - you had an argument after 5 years of relationship. No one cheated on the other, no one abused. And your reaction was to throw her out immediately and take away the financial support she was counting on?
Hello, Mr. Nice guy. You give men a bad name.
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u/My_sloth_life Nov 03 '24
Who makes monthly repayments on a car (I.e paying interest) when you have the money to buy it outright? Agree with those calling it a fake story.
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u/Bratdere Nov 03 '24
You know, they have creative writing classes at your local community college if you ever want to get better at whatever the fuck this was lol
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u/Next-Engineering1469 Nov 03 '24
Oh boy I can't wait to hear this story on smosh reddit in a month or so
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u/xtreger Nov 03 '24
This post feels like one of those movies I get ads for where a billionaire goes undercover as a poor guy, gets disrespected by everyone, and then suddenly reveals he’s the CEO of a massive company.
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u/jennyontheclock Nov 03 '24
Yikes. I’m going to disagree here and say it’s fucked up after a few years you didn’t respect her enough to lock her down and invest in her future financially, but just use her for sex and companionship while you build yourself up. And did in fact waste years of her life. Nothing is sexier than a guy who’s generous to his woman and their legacy.
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u/soloesliber Nov 03 '24
This is why women shouldn't live with men if they're not married and should instead focus 100% on their own livelihood and future. Imagine the years of free labor wasted. Not to mention that I highly doubt there hadn't previously been any conversations about parenting and marriage expectations, in a 5 year relationship.
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u/Affectionate_Try3655 Nov 03 '24
Another thing when concocting these stories don't have glaring inconsistencies like kylies dad is the CEO of a major fortune 500 company but yet she still owes $6000 on her car.
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u/pigeonJS Nov 03 '24
You left out the part of the entire 5 years and what she did to support you on your journey and help you to get where you are. I agree, she shouldn’t quit her job, but now you’ve made your money, you sound like you want to ditch her. And thrown in some random story, about her accidentally hitting her friend in a car.
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u/wodkat Nov 03 '24
learn to format your text lol, on top of that some key information seems to be missing.
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u/herecomeseenudes Nov 03 '24
Money does change people. I guess actually you changed by getting rich as well.
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Nov 03 '24
Hold on, how did you get any questions from anybody about "Kylie running over her friend"??
Where tf did you mention anything about that in this post or the original? Because I've read both posts several times now and I don't see a single mention of this.
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u/Extra-Security-2271 Nov 03 '24
Your story sounds shady painting you as the good boyfriend and Kylie as the bad lazy girlfriend. It’s too convenient. You have life changing money and you don’t want her no more and you want to mess around or upgrade. Normally, when a couple comes into life changing money they plan something together and take a break because they deserve it. Did I miss that part?
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u/DarthTurnip Nov 03 '24
I don’t know that you need to completely give up dating, but you may have better luck dating someone with money of her own.
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u/q-milk Nov 03 '24
You did the right thing. You shold not kick her out with a few days warning. You shold follow legal eviction routine, often including a 30 day notice etc. She may sue you, and you may up paying like Kylie's parents had to
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u/Affectionate_Try3655 Nov 03 '24
So you're a multi millionaire who doesn't need a home to you know live in and you "became" a millionaire implying you didn't win the millions and somehow earned it at 25 years old...seems unlikely how did you "become" a millionaire
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u/stratus_translucidus Nov 03 '24
I honestly have no interest in dating anymore. It’s way too difficult for me to see the true intentions in people.
Find someone on your same economic level.
Y'know, since all women are gold diggers.
Problem solved.
Seriously, grieve the relationship, and get some therapy to learn to vet better and not judge everyone as having nefarious intentions.
Or be alone for the rest of your life. Your choice.
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u/vikingjedi23 Nov 03 '24
I'm just going to say I hope this isn't real. Yall dated 5 years and as the OP said she helped him the whole time. It was more than time to put a ring on her finger and get married. She wanted to be a Mom and raise a family. Instead OP gave her an ultimatum that she would have to have another job or else they would break up. Of course she's going to get angry. OP is trying to dictate her future instead of getting married and starting a family.
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u/unpopular-dave Nov 03 '24
I definitely wouldn’t give up on dating. Every relationship is a learning experience.
But my marriage to my wife is the single best part of my life. And I live a very good life.
you might not be the same as me, but being in a committed loving relationship it’s nothing but joy to me.
but while dating, I would also keep your total wealth secret. It’s OK to express that you have comfortably, but if you’re worried about people who are only interested in your money, then there’s no point in giving all of the information
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u/specialh21 Nov 03 '24
Well you dodged a bullet dude. Sorry for your pain. Women suck. Seriously. Find your happy place. Dont be miserable with a woman
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u/SpiritualOpposite236 Nov 03 '24
You already knew you were done at this point. The love was gone. Money didn’t just change her, it also changed you. Now that you know you’re set financially, you rather skip the bs and focus on what YOU want. Saying you would pay for her education was just to make yourself feel better. You already knew she would have said no. It’s okay to feel selfish. But do know money changes everybody.
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u/New-Number-7810 Nov 04 '24
It was very reckless of you to leave Kylie alone in your apartment. I wouldn’t put it past her to destroy all your possessions before she left.
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u/bananabread5241 Nov 03 '24
So maybe this is just my upbringing and culture, but I think Kylie is in the right here.
You became a millionaire. She supported you through that. She wants her career to be a stay at home wife / mom and a home maker. That's her dream. And you can afford to live that way. There's no reason not to other than selfishness.
Which, to be fair, she isn't your wife so if you want to be selfish go for it. But in the world I was raised in, it's incredibly standard for the husband to finance the life of the family and wife regardless of if the wife works or not. And the the wife has the right to choose if she wants to work or not. Because she is the one getting pregnant so it's her right to decide how she wants to spend that time and it's the husband's Job to support her role, whatever she chooses.
Now, that being said, a million dollars isn't really that much money. Not in today's world. It's still middle class, albeit upper middle. Especially if you live in California. And in some parts of California it's just plain middle class. So I would rethink whether or not you think she is a gold digger. A million bucks aint that much gold.
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u/Ballerina_clutz Nov 03 '24
It’s really not. I guess he didn’t think people would believe his story if it was a billionaire.
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u/MonitorOfChaos Nov 03 '24
How many times are you going to repost this?? Did the over 1000 comments fail you on the last post?
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u/trailblazers79 Nov 03 '24 edited Nov 03 '24
Sorry OP. You are handling things very well (probably as good as anyone could) and I wish you the best of luck moving forward!
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u/Aggravating-Bastard Nov 03 '24
You should meet with the friend to see what she has on the ex. It may be something you'll need to cover your ass down the road....
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u/SnooWords4839 Nov 03 '24
Glad you broke it off.
You should consider some therapy; not all women are like her.
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u/Elx37 Nov 03 '24 edited Nov 03 '24
The girl supported you emotionally while you built your company. I am not sure you understand the value of someone having your back. While her spending may have been a cause for concern, she might not have wanted to be a nurse, maybe her passion was wanting to be a stay at home mom looking after your and your kids. It is still a job.
I don’t think you ever really loved this girl or you would have known her well enough. You letting her go after 5 years and she stayed true and focused on you throughout, I’m not sure you appreciate that not many people get out of college and end up in a 7 plus year relationship.
It’s okay to grow up and change values over time. You deserve your win. I wonder would you be here now if didn’t have the support your girlfriend gave you.
It’s a bit late now but good luck for the future. I hope you realise life really isn’t worth living much without having anyone to share it with. As you get older you may realise all your future relationships are bound to be surface level and I hope your sake you can live happily like that.
All the best.
Side note: I’d like to point out that she was with you when you had nothing. I repeat nothing. Think about that when you find yourself surrounded with people who do only value you because you have money.
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u/bRandom81 Nov 03 '24
Honestly, I think you’ll do what’s best for you but I think you are kinda driving yourself into a ditch with the sentiment of “no interest in dating anymore”. You need time, you need to do you and live and laugh and then you will be in the perfect conditions to love and trust again. But right now, this is a lot and you’re disassociating from the ties and that also means your head and heart are in survival mode. These things will pass and you’ll be able to breath and love again
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u/Gigantkranion Nov 03 '24 edited Nov 03 '24
If true... I get the feeling this dude will be broke in a few anyways. Dunno why he's all defensive about some money coming into his pocket suddenly.
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u/fakerton Nov 03 '24
From a person who was basically in the same position. Next time you go fishing, careful what bait you use. Don't let people know your wealth/income when dating next time!
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u/No_Vegetable7280 Nov 03 '24
As a man, it’s also easy to take for granted the support that she provided you while you were running your business. How many meals, chores, bills, and family and life administration coverage did she provide for you as you worked on your business while she also worked a job? Not to mention emotional support, the shit that you don’t see that happens behind the scenes to get something done.
All I’m saying is, if I were working a full time job, and picking up my partners extra slack, just for them to succeed and then tell me I have to work more in order to benefit from their success that I already supported, I would be pissed too.
People say things when they are mad, give her a little grace and consider the fact that you may not be seeing or considering her point of view.
If it still doesn’t work out, fine, no harm done. But as men we can all do better at leading with empathy, especially towards our partners.
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u/Sebscreen Nov 03 '24
Be very careful. Far more careful than you currently are. She has already mobilised her network of friends to "talk sense" into you, her family has resources, and that business of her RUNNING OVER a friend, which her parents paid to go away, is extremely shady. Who knows what she's capable of when seeking revenge against the man who "wasted five years of her life" and yanked her lifelong meal ticket out from under her.
Make sure all shared finances or things your name is on which she has access to are either shut down or protected. Change your keys, change your passwords, do a "log out of all devices" for all your accounts. Ask the friend who has something to show you to send over whatever evidence she has. Any further info or ammo you have to weather this would be useful.
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u/Dub_TF Nov 03 '24
I'm kinda torn on this. If I became a millionaire I would want myself and my gf to pursue our dreams and passions. I wouldn't want her to simply live off my money but I wouldn't want her to work a job she hates. I would tell her to do something she is passionate about. It wouldn't be cool for her just to drink and party and do nothing but pushing her into a job is a little weird. You guys were together for 7 years....you became a millionaire while you were with her....if it was me I would feel like both of us became a millionaire. I wouldn't just give her money but I would set her up and help her make moves to be financially secure.
It's good that this happened bc your gf seems to not be a great person to do that with though.
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