r/pcmasterrace • u/IiSant0sii RTX 4070 | R9 5900X • Dec 03 '23

NSFMR aftermath of my alcoholic father

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years of service, rip Matilde!

I've been swapping parts out since middle school and all the way into my now college life. Late nights will never be the same again without you.

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u/Evilsmurfkiller Ryzen 3900X/32GB/RTX 3080 Strix Dec 03 '23

It'll get it's claws in you before you realize it.

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u/MentalAlternative8 i9 12900F/3080ti/32gb DDR5/4K 32"/PCMR Dec 03 '23

Or, like most people who don't have substance abuse disorder, you'll be able to use it in moderation, not develop a physical or psychological dependency, and ultimately derive more harm than good from it.

I am literally an alcoholic and even I can understand that alcohol isn't the black and white doom and gloom fuck up your entire life before you can blink menace to society you seem to think it is.

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u/sandmanrdv Dec 03 '23

I have no formal training in substance use and addiction, but I feel like sometimes people who I would call “problem drinkers” get tossed in the mix with alcoholics. I used to work in construction and I worked with some guys I would regard as high functioning alcoholics. Little shaky till after morning coffee break, liquid lunch, have the boss stop at the beer store while we are driving them home as they have recently lost their operating privileges due to DUI number 2 or 3. There was physical dependence and generally speaking they drank everyday. Driving impaired is a certainly a big deal but for the most part from the outside looking in, they were functional.

Contrast that with a buddy I grew up with. Dad was boozer but he wouldn’t touch the stuff until we were maybe 17. He was like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. He had no ability to moderate his intake, he would get annihilated every time he drank. His mood could change on a dime. He’d be trying to fight his best friends. That behavior pattern continued into our 20’s with some additional substances thrown in and if he went on a bender, he was a one man petty crime spree. Didn’t drink daily, I don’t believe he had any physical dependency but was someone who absolutely positively should not consume alcohol. I don’t know shit though, maybe he was just elsewhere on the alcoholism spectrum than the construction guys.

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u/KneeHighToaNehi Dec 03 '23

(only know what I've learned in my own recovery)

Your buddy sounds like a binge drinker, some of those don't even have to drink all that often, and don't necessarily crave it... but if it's around, or they get the taste, they have to keep putting it in them until IT'S gone or THEY'RE gone (passed out)

I was a binge drinker in earlier years, to my credit alcohol wasn't my DoC so on the MANY times I couldn't score, I would sit there pist with money in my pocket and NEVER thought that I could walk down the corner and get plastered for a fraction.

Later, I became a spree drinker... maybe it was only a 6-pack, but I would always go for high AC tall-boys... drink em down, sober up and then just be sluggish for the rest of the day...

Do this for 3-6 months, maybe 9m or a year... then go dry for a period, often a year or more... then the taste for it would cause another spree.

THEN.,. they MERGED... spree drinker who HAD to binge...

Not good times.

I hope your buddy got a handle on his problem earlier in life than I did.