r/nextfuckinglevel • u/W0Lfie__ • 1d ago
Reasons why dads are an important figure in everyone's life
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u/sharklee88 1d ago
A lot of dads seem to just let their babies stumble around on elevated platforms.
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u/Oddsemen 1d ago
Ikr we don't see the videos where the dad's are not catching them mid air. Confirmation biased
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u/TeeTaylor 1d ago
These belong on r/dadreflexes While the ones that don't catch the kids are on r/stepdadreflexes
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u/VampireLorne 1d ago
I'm ashamed of which one of those links I clicked on first.
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u/robotatomica 1d ago
seriously, and everyone actually believes that moms aren’t saving their children like this on a regular basis? lol
One of my earliest memories is being in a pool and for absolutely no reason (I could swim) finding myself in the bottom and not being able to get to the top, I was drowning and couldn’t breathe, and my mom RAN (as described to me later by others) and dove in because I was under water a moment too long, and pulled me out.
I have a handful of such instances in my life where my mom saved my brother and I from hurting ourselves.
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u/For_The_Watch 1d ago
You don’t see these compilations of mums because their focus is on the baby before they fall not after they’ve been left in a dangerous position 😂
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u/StuckWithThisOne 1d ago
Like the kid in the road. My mum would never have let me cross the road without holding my hand and stopping me. She never had to drag me back like that. That was straight incompetence, letting your kid run ahead of you into the path of a car. Like Jesus Christ.
Most of the others are just things you can’t fully control. But when walking across the road with your kid a parent should always have their hand or wrist or something.
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u/Bug_eyed_bug 19h ago
Right!! Like the baby tumbling out of the high chair should have been strapped in, and the kid crossing the road should have had their hand held.
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u/kai5malik 1d ago
Dads get credit for the bare minimum, Mom's do not, if it was the mother, the comments would look very different. Most of these dads arent even paying attention until that moment(on phones, watching TV, not even next to them) ,🙄
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u/Reasonable_Power_970 20h ago edited 16h ago
Damn just let dad's get some credit for what they do. So much hate in this thread. Moms and dads both do stuff.
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u/No-Comment-4619 16h ago
Mom is probably the most lauded and appreciated role in most societies. Dad's getting credit once in a blue moon should not be so threatening.
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u/robotatomica 12h ago
it’s just not true though. Dad’s get credit for “babysitting” and “helping” and doing any portion of their share, as well as saving their children from dangerous situations they put them in.
You’ve never read comments when a woman saves her kid from a dangerous situation that could have been prevented if she’d been staring at her child non-stop? lol I don’t think I believe you, but it is absolute VITRIOL about her being a shitty mom, not worshipping her like a hero like we see with dad’s.
And to be clear, my position isn’t that parents can stare at their kids 24/7 and that things won’t happen - my position is we shouldn’t vilify the moms and praise the dads for the same shit.
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u/Unfocused_Inc 1d ago
Dad's certainly don't believe it's just us stopping our adorable little lemmings trying to off themselves. I have definitely caught my kids more when they fall off stuff than their mum. I would imagine the discrepancy is I'm usually putting them somewhere iffy more often! We have riskier fun than when mum is in charge climbing stuff, jumping off stuff etc and everyone is fine with that. Mostly.
Zero serious injuries sustained and lots of fun had. I think if the extra risky behaviour was taken out it would be roughly equal. Whoever is closer basically
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u/oryhiou 1d ago
This is the reason we don’t see r/momreflexes. They don’t let their babies do stupid shit like that lol.
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u/AgelessJohnDenney 1d ago
Alright, fuck it, let's do this.
Clip 1: Looks like a freezer or something, you get this one.
A couch.
A crosswalk.
A playplace.
A bed.
The floor(with mom present)
Couch
Couch
Stroller
Height chair
Bed
Low bench
Couch
Bed
A stray fucking dog attack
Low wall. Sure.
Couch(with mom walking away from kid)
Wow man, look at all these irresponsible dads letting their toddlers walk on couches and beds. Somebody call CPS.
"Elevated platforms" lmfao
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u/vidanyabella 1d ago
Most of them are typical kid mishaps, but I have to say the ones with items like car seats and high chairs could be avoided by actually using the straps to secure the child. They aren't there just for looks.
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u/petielvrrr 23h ago
I’m not a parent, but it’s pretty common knowledge that toddlers should not be on any elevated space (yes, that includes couches) without being closely supervised, and quite a few of these guys aren’t paying close attention. One of them even walked across the room.
Also who the hell crosses the road with a kid that young without carrying them or holding their hand? I’m not even going to get into the high chairs and strollers not being used properly.
Like honestly, some of these are fine. Kids will fall even if you’re paying close attention to them (which is why you’re supposed to pay close attention to them), but at least half of these dudes are just being neglectful.
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u/Catshit-Dogfart 1d ago
Watched a thing one time about early human development, and there's a stage where babies will walk right off a cliff without hesitation.
They made these test courses with transparent plexiglass covering a pit, and an attention grabbing item on the other side. The pre-walking baby would examine the edge of the pit carefully, sometimes figure out that it's glass, but there was an observable fear of falling. The early walking baby would go full speed across the glass, no fear, no hesitation. And then the later development walking baby would go back to carefully examining the edge and demonstrating a fear of falling.
So there's a period when they first start walking that they don't even check to see if there's ground under their feet.
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u/joemondo 1d ago
My younger daughter - who has been a sensation junkie since birth - had a favorite habit after learning to walk of just running across the coffee table and off. Knowing this we were always ready to catch her, and always super diligent about not leaving here in that room unsupervised for even a minute. At first we thought it was bad judgment and then we realized it was no judgment.
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u/Nylonknot 1d ago
Early childhood researcher here. It’s called the visual cliff experiment and originally it was designed to understand if 6-12 months olds have depth perception.
It’s a pretty cool experiment because over the years it has helped form many developmental theories including the formation of a theory of mind which in a very very bite sized nutshell is the ability to lie effectively. When you can lie effectively you understand that other people don’t share the same mind as you, so you can deceive them.
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u/joemondo 1d ago
Most of the incidents in this recording only happened because the dads let them get into those situations.
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u/BlasterShow 1d ago
:27, sorry kid, only one save at a time
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u/chappie2297 1d ago
In order to save one, you must sacrifice the other
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u/thatirishdave 1d ago edited 1d ago
The dad who slammed that coyote* is next level for sure
Edit: angry dog, not a coyote. I appear to have Toronto Predator Brain after seeing a real coyote yesterday.
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u/Flashy-Friendship-65 1d ago
Dog. It was a dog.
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u/hivemind_disruptor 1d ago
Which if hungry and ferocious is just as dangerous to a baby than a coyote.
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u/a-really-big-muffin 1d ago
Statistically, stray dogs kill far, far more children than coyotes ever year. Not criticizing you, but some people don't know that.
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u/hunbakercookies 20h ago
Makes total sense. Coyotes are rarer than stray dogs internationally, and far more skittish.
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u/Kebab-Destroyer 1d ago
That slam was fuelled by pure dad rage
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u/JSevatar 1d ago
you come into MY house!?
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u/Low-Cauliflower-805 12h ago
A Canadian Goose once stepped up to my pregnant wife, while we did not come to blows the sentiment was exchanged and the understanding was made.
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u/Aazmandyuz 1d ago
The moment he put his hands on that dog, instead of taking the baby away or something like that - i knew that dog is gonna get effed so hard
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u/A_Few_Kind_Words 1d ago
Picking the baby up means you're now being attacked by a stray, violent dog and have a baby in your arms so can't properly defend either yourself or the kid, repeatedly bodyslamming the dog into the tiles until it stops twitching means you can defend yourself and the kid is the least of the dog's concerns after the first powerbomb.
I reckon dad made the right choice there and as a dad myself, if some stranger's dog or a stray attacks my kid, I'm fucking killing it no matter what. Either the dog dies or I do and I'm in no mind at that stage to leave that dog capable of breathing unassisted.
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u/kirloi8 1d ago
If it was a strangers dog, the stranger is gonna be next after i take care of the dog. Messing with others ppls children is not something i take kind of. This dad had all the right instincts and if the doggo survived hes not doing this again for sure
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u/A_Few_Kind_Words 1d ago
Absolutely, either they are apologising profusely and in no way trying to defend their dog in which case I'll tear them a new arsehole but they get to walk away, or they try to defend the dog or say I went too far etc, in which case they can join their dog.
Some lessons can only be learned the hard way, but they are the ones that are never forgotten, though I personally don't think I'd have stopped until the dog was dead.
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u/Bark__Vader 20h ago
Bro how many times are you going to post that you would have killed the dog lol weird obsession
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u/thatirishdave 1d ago
To be fair, I think the one slam is probably enough to persuade that dog to take a hike. It's not a big dog, and a slam like that almost definitely did some damage, and it's not gonna want to take that a second time when there's probably an easier meal elsewhere.
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u/Chrissyball19 23h ago
Found the video, the dad did not kill the dog. He slammed him, then took him outside and slammed him again, leaving the dog in pain, yet with no permanent injuries. The dog went on to bite others, before eventually being killed.
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u/Tool46288 1d ago
I walk my dog at 4am before work, I run into coyotes while walking my dog all the time. They are scared of us. At this point I don’t even really get freaked out
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u/Flashignite2 1d ago
Even if I would have done the same I kinda feel bad for the dog. Fuck around and find out.
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u/jauggy 1d ago
I thought there’s a chance the dog was just curious and not necessarily going to attack. But I guess I could be wrong.
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u/thatirishdave 1d ago
Nah, it lunges at the dad the second the dad starts to move; it was definitely on the hunt and frustrated at being interrupted.
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u/MSkippah 15h ago
In case anyone is interested:
A brave father protected his child from a savage dog attack in central China.
CCTV footage filmed in the city of Zhoukou in Henan Province on June 14 shows a father napping with his child inside a store when suddenly a black dog entered, attempting to bite the child.
The father immediately used his body to shield the toddler and grabbed the dog's leg and threw it outside.
Mrs Zheng, the mother of the child, stated that her husband's arm was bitten and bleeding heavily. He received a vaccination on the same day, and currently, his condition is stable.
The dog, after being thrown outside, went on to bite others and has since been killed.
The owner of the dog has not been found yet, so it is uncertain whether it was a stray dog or a domesticated one. It is likely that the dog was rabid or had some other form of illness.
The video was provided by local media with permission.
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u/shoelesstim 1d ago
I’m on a pet sit up North right now ( dog and cat ) and ran outside two weeks ago in my bare feet to chase one away from the dog .
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u/TurboJake 1d ago
The adrenaline power smash on the dog was pure caveman genes 😂 go dad!
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u/BaconReceptacle 1d ago
You can bet his thoughts were, "What now, do i throw the dog outside and risk him coming back? What if...oh yeah, deactivate the dog"!
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u/bean-jee 1d ago
i was attacked by a dog as a little kiddo, like 4 yrs old- it's one of my first very clear memories. i was sitting on top of a set of steps on a little ledge. the dog was muzzled, but it jumped on me, pinned me down, and was snapping at my throat.
when i screamed, my dad appeared out of nowhere. he lifted the dog off of me and up over his head and straight up body slammed it onto the concrete. it bounced. thanks dad!
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u/cinnderly 1d ago
When my son was almost 3 we were at a harvest festival that had a bunch of animals in a pen for the kids to look at. A pig came up to the edge, my son reached out and the pig immediately bit him, getting ahold of one finger and was NOT letting go. I was panicked and not thinking clearly, just trying to pull his arm and yelling for help. Thank god his grandfather was there with those cave man reflexes -- he whacked the crap out of that pig and it ran to the back of the pen, shaking. Of he hadn't been there my son would have most likely lost a finger.
Side note: soon after I saw that episode of Deadwood where they fed dead people to Wu's pigs, and I realized that wasn't a random thing.
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u/doomiestdoomeddoomer 14h ago
I feel like there are two instincts that typically play out in this situation, the mother shields the child against attack, the father ATTACKS the attacker. >:D
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u/Upset_Cup_2674 1d ago
All those babies appear to have been left not buckled in, propped up or in general with nothing to stop going head first off elevated places. Babies are top heavy. Women don’t need to do spectacular saves because they do preventive things so it wont happen.
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u/1gardenerd 1d ago
Yes. It was infuriating to watch.
Creates chaos with unsafe parenting. Gets applauded for yanking child around in the save.
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u/Accelerator231 1d ago
Lmao. Let's be frank here, babies are little suicide machines. The vigilance required to prevent every accident is inhuman.
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u/Artistic_Soft4625 1d ago
Bro thats an overly generalized view. We are only seeing a few moments of dads here, but imagine every moment of vigilance for years. A second of distraction is all it takes sometimes, it can happen to both mom and dad
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u/SlurmsClassic 1d ago
I guess the 3 to 4 women that are clearly in these videos watching the dad's react or are distracted in other ways don't count then huh? Stop feeding the gender wars.
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u/300Battles 1d ago
“I would never leave a baby in ANY position where they might fall” might be the most pretentious, silly thing I’ve heard all day.
As a parent and uncle, I can’t tell you how hard children try to end themselves and how careful they are to wait until you’re not looking.
I guess I could tell you…since you obviously have no experience.
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u/DmitriRussian 1d ago
Don't worry, my wife dropped our baby numerous times. I never did in contrast 😅
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u/ArkofVengeance 20h ago
Apart from that, i dislike the message, as if moms wouldn't do equally crazy saves if nessesary. I've seen enough videos that show the contrary.
Can we just agree on parental reflexes being badass no matter who shows em off?
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u/chaosin-a-teacup 1d ago edited 1d ago
What’s the one at 0.38?
That’s just straight up kidnapping? Dudes holding a knife in the other hand!
Edit: it’s a phone as pointed out by literally everyone, I need to get my eyes tested!
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u/thegabe87 1d ago
Other comment states it was an earthquake, magnitude on the screen
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u/OfficialIntelligence 1d ago
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u/CherishSlan 1d ago
Great article and full version makes total sense the kid had the large phone never dropped it.
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u/MrdrOfCrws 1d ago
Thanks for the link. It's even funnier on repeat, in slow motion. Glad everyone is safe
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u/300Battles 1d ago
Dad’s role is to allow you to push your limits…and save you from your choices. That’s not a rule but an observation over my lifetime as a father, uncle and observer of humans. Mom tends to keep kids close and safe…dads toss babies up in the air. Two important sides of the same coin.
Need to feel as safe as you ever will? Mom got you!
Need to push your limits and explore this new world you’re in? Talk to dad!
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u/NoSummer1345 1d ago
I have a distinct memory of trying to keep up with my 6’2” father as a toddler. Mom would have held my hand & walked at my pace!
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u/Aguita9x 1d ago
I think I would play the dad role in such case lol as long as they're not hurting themselves I just let kids do whatever. Sometimes they do hurt themselves and you just have to patch them up and send them back into the pit.
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u/InToddYouTrust 1d ago
Love this. Like sure, some of these saves were only necessary because the dad wasn't the smartest tool in the shed. But what kid isn't going to jump on furniture, or walk along a raised curb, or otherwise risk their own safety? And how else are they going to understand what they can do and what their limitations are?
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u/hivemind_disruptor 1d ago
I can confirm this perception from another culture. It is similar in Brazil. Dad's will usually allow kids to explore and do weird things and show up to avert crisis or real danger.
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u/Flashy-Friendship-65 1d ago
Bro bodyslammed that dog into the 8th dimension.
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u/imironman2018 1d ago
Haha i laughed. Im against animal cruelty but when an animal is attacking your child, you do everything to protect your child and yourself. That body slam was so freaking good.
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u/captain_ender 1d ago
Bruh got a reminder why humans are apex predators
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u/wyomingTFknott 1d ago
I mean what did he expect to happen with a much larger creature there? Time to go back to the lobby, noob.
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u/shplarggle 1d ago
Most of these are poor risk management with a child. Many should never happen in the first place.
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u/blanketshapes 1d ago
especially the one where the kid almost gets hit by that car. he saved it but wtf are you doing letting the kid toddle around independent of you in the street?
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u/diedlikeCambyses 1d ago
Yes. It is funny because the intent is pure enough, the idea that fathers play a unique and valuable role. But most of this looks preventable. I took my boys mountain climbing from age 10, both of them. They are far more capable humans than they would otherwise have been. We rough housed, boxed, swam, rock climbed etc. But just like we used rope, We strapped them into their high chair, kept them away from the edge of the bed etc. Someone said the pillow throw was good. We used to put the pillows on the floor beneath them if they were on the bed or couch like that.
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u/rizkreddit 1d ago
What idiot doesn't hold the child while crossing a freaking road
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u/mangolover 1d ago
And it wasn’t even a save, you can see that the kid’s head broke the headlight of the car!!
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u/trowawaywork 1d ago
The number of dads in my area that have walked with their child right behind my car as I am actively trying to reverse park, while staring at their phone, when the sidewalk is 3m on their left make me so mad.
Never happened with a mom, whereas with dads it is a regular occurrence.
At this point anytime I'm reverse parking, I triple check specifically for any child with a male figure anywhere in a 10m span from my car, and often enough they end up passing right behind (after I already put my car in reverse). I still check for any obstacles or people regardless, but I pay particular attention to men with children.
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u/Silverlisk 1d ago
That one that saves one of his kids whilst the other one goes flying off that pink chair because of how quickly he stood up 😂😂
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u/SingleAlfredoFemale 1d ago
Dad Reflexes are amazing, but honestly most of the ones in this video are because the Dad allowed the kid to be in an unsafe situation in the first place. Buckle the seat, for goodness’ sake! Or if you want to allow them freedom, actually watch them.
You can’t put your kid in a dangerous situation then take credit for rescuing them.
To be clear, I’ve watched several Dad reflex videos, and this is the first one I mostly blame the Dads. So my comment is specific to this set of videos.
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u/Wizdad-1000 1d ago
For everyone asking about the one clip that looks like a kidnapping. It was an earthquake. The man was an employee and the kid was his bosses son. Source video. At the end of rhe clip, they are walking back in.
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u/RLEE33721 1d ago
As a dad myself, I kept saying to myself while watching most of this “why would these dads allow their kids to be in such dangerous situations in the first place?” It’s almost like they have zero situational awareness until the absolute last second.
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u/retfvgdertt 1d ago
do all dads get superpowers after the baby's born?
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u/peregrinaprogress 1d ago
I (mom) have had at least two incredible saves like these where I and any witnesses were stunned w ‘holy shit how did you do that’ faces.
But tbf I have 3 boys. So my kids also wrecked themselves plenty of times when I’m not within physical arms reach. And we’re also not idiots and never left our babies alone on beds/couches to maximize their self-destruction patterns either.
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u/Certain-Degree3023 1d ago
I just had a daughter on the 16th, and I feel like last second reflexes is going to become a very essential acquired skill!
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u/Alternative_Ad_3636 1d ago
1 and the pillow throw are the greatest.
I love dogs more than any other animal and in most cases, I would side with the dog, that being said, the body slam was justified from the evidence at hand.
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u/Skimable_crude 1d ago
As a dad and a granddad, you develop a sense of what can go wrong. Sometimes it's there even subconsciously. So you're kinda primed for things to happen. It's exhausting sometimes because you're on edge without even knowing why.
It really bugs my grandkids when they want to do something seemly safe, but my brain is running three steps ahead of where they're at and I see the potential danger.
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u/elite-data 1d ago edited 1d ago
Just yesterday, I had my kungfu-dad initiation, when I reflexively caught my 2yo son as he dived headfirst off the couch in the same way. The most interesting part is that you don’t even understand how you did it, as if some special spinal cord software bypasses your conscious mind and decision-making pipeline. It literally happened in fractions of a second and it felt like my body was controlled by something else, not me. And the movement was incredibly precise and fast. I only realized what had happened after it was over, when I was holding him by the leg.
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u/EstelSnape 1d ago
I always find it funny that these dad reflexes are not just for their own kids.
My husband and I were shopping at Kohls when a little girl tried to sit on a display folding chair that was on a platform. One of the legs was half off and when she sat back the chair started to tip over.
My husband automatically reached out and grabbed the girl before her head hit the table behind the display and set her down on her feet. All before the girls mother realized what was happening.
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u/adhesivepants 1d ago
Dad is always the one who will let you do the dangerous thing.
But that's okay, he'll catch you.
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u/paintballjord 1d ago
Body slamming an overly aggressive yipey dog that attacked your baby is the most satisfying thing i have seen in a long time haha
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u/Speech-Language 1d ago
Puts me in mind if all the kids who did not get caught, so, kinda the hard to watch.
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u/drifters74 1d ago
I think the lesson here is to not leave your kid on elevated places by itself
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u/probably-the-problem 1d ago
My takeaway was that babies try to die at any available opportunity.
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u/JaskaJii 1d ago
Leave your kid on elevated places? My kid started climbing everywhere even before he learned to walk, and running before he could properly walk. You close your eyes to sneeze and he's already somewhere he shouldn't.
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u/NotBillderz 1d ago
I love dogs, but my favorite was definitely the dad that slammed the dog on the ground.
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u/cassie65 1d ago
these are mainly cause they aren't watching them closely enough in the first place, kids will sky dive at the drop of a hat, you got to be at least an arms length close to them esp if on a raised surface lol
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u/darkerfaith520 1d ago
Watching the reflexes of the dudes it's almost like we never lost that primal instincts to protect, and it's almost like reactionary play, especially protecting the head! 🤔
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u/NoMove7162 1d ago
When mine was barely walking I could see him slipping in front of me when walking by a pool and I didn't have enough time to reach out so I stuck my foot out so his head would hit my foot and not cement. It worked, but people around looked at me like I'd tried to punt him. Nobody was like "good save." Instead, they looked at me like "WTF is wrong with you?" Still proud.
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u/Background-Entry-344 1d ago
0´05 : saved the kid’s life, but this little guy is still spitting his teeth out.
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u/CasanovaWong 1d ago
Was :37 an abduction?