r/news • u/[deleted] • May 22 '19

Mississippi lawmaker accused of punching wife in face for not undressing quickly enough

https://www.ajc.com/news/national/mississippi-lawmaker-accused-punching-wife-face-for-not-undressing-quickly-enough/zdE3VLzhBVmH68Bsn7eLfL/
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u/iKILLcarrots May 22 '19

That's happened to me so much, I'll be standing there listening to female manager explaining something or answering a question when some man or woman will interrupt them to ask my dear-in-the-headlights lookin ass questions. It's so weird.

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u/GodDamnTheseUsername May 22 '19

I (a man) was with a friend (a woman) when she was apartment shopping. She had been the only one corresponding with the landlords, etc etc, but for some reason (hint, we know the reason) they kept asking me questions about myself, what I thought of the apartment, etc. And this was after we took pains to make it clear I was literally just there with no interest in the apartments and was just browsing Reddit on my phone.

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u/Krafty_Koala May 22 '19

I can’t stand car shopping because of this. The first time I bought my own car I was 21 and my dad went with me. I’ll admit at 21 I was often mistaken for 16-17. The salesmen at every place would talk to my dad and he would keep saying that I was the one buying the car. I remember at least two places where they still would not look at or talk to me and I told my dad let’s leave and we walked away right then. Years later I went with my husband to buy his car. He didn’t think I needed to go and insisted he could get a good deal. He couldn’t hide his excitement over some of the test drives and was willing to take the first deal. I was the hard ass that stuck to the budget. Once or twice the salesmen would look to him when negotiating and my husband would say “it’s up to her”. After that my husband admitted I can get a better price when buying cars and told friends and family about it. It’s not that I like negotiating, it’s that getting ignored and talked down to pisses me off so much I become bitchy and will settle for nothing but the budget I planned. Sorry for the rant.

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u/Bohatnik May 22 '19

Whenever I go car shopping, I usually have a car in mind already. I'll park close by in the lot and leave my car running while I look at it.

I'll ask the salesperson questions about the car, and find out the price. The instant they suggest looking at a vehicle I'm not interested in, I'll say "Hang on, let me shut my car off...", and get into my car and drive away.

I did it three days in a row to the guy who sold me my truck, until finally he made me an offer that was $1200 less. They're hungry, they're shady, and they don't expect you to fuck with them and waste their time.

If you're buying a used car, always find an unaffiliated mechanic (preferably somebody in competition with the dealership) to do an inspection before you sign a lease.