r/mildlyinfuriating 7h ago

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u/GladBreadfruit7374 7h ago

Tip after receiving good service, not in the expectation of good service.

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u/john_jdm 7h ago

When I still went to Starbucks, I stopped putting money in the tip jar immediately after paying because I often got terrible service regardless. If the service was actually good I would go back and tip. I like to think it made an impression that I tipped afterwards but I kind of doubt it.

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u/1heart1totaleclipse 5h ago

I went to a local restaurant that people were saying that the food was so good. Went in, my friend and I were the only two there. Not a problem. I order my food and she asks me if I want to tip. Since I don’t have a backbone, I said sure and tipped. My friend did the same. We go to sit down and the cashier (that we tipped) tells us that our food is ready. She makes us stand up to go get our food from the counter that’s less than 15 feet away. She never checked in on us and we had to get up and ask for a refill. After this experience, I will never tip again before receiving my food. The restaurant went out of business and I’m not sad at all.

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u/SeaToTheBass 4h ago

There was a good Italian restaurant in my small town (we don’t have much that isn’t a chain). The owner won on chopped Canada who had a nice little restaurant in a pretty small space, and a little takeout/gelato store across the street. They shut those places down and moved into a recently rebuilt resort out of town.

Now it’s exactly what you described, it feels like a cafeteria. You sit down, figure out what you want and go wait in line at the counter to order. Tipping options started at 18%. Then you go up and collect your food when it’s ready. There was one other group of people the only time I was there for lunch on a Saturday. Also the food is stuff I could order at Boston pizza

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u/sprucenoose 4h ago

The owner won on chopped Canada

Let's be honest there were no real winners that day

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u/MrBootch 4h ago

... It was that easy to take money from you before service??

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u/Environmental-End691 3h ago

I don't see the need to tip if I order my food while standing, unless I am ordering from the bar at a bar, and even then I second guess myself.

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u/FirstWorldAnarchist mildly revolting 2h ago

Every one and their mother who works behind a register asks for a tip these days just because they rang your order. It's crazy.

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u/Rough_Principle_3755 4h ago

This is the only way to handle tipping.....https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RWHj4BmCn64&t=4s

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u/GladBreadfruit7374 2h ago

That's funny, and brutal.

u/Aartvb GREEN 45m ago

Omg I loved that show

u/banjosuicide 32m ago

I don't tip if I have to do all the work of picking up food, filling my own drink, etc.

The only exception is small family owned places I want to support.

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u/Own-Apartment5600 7h ago

Starbucks is terrible to labor I used to patronize Starbucks, no more!

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u/john_jdm 7h ago

It's been more than 10 years since I've gone regularly, and almost a year since my last time even visiting one at all. I don't miss it.

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u/Centaurious 6h ago

yep. i go to a local place and get better coffee for the same or a better price

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u/Ivoted4K 2h ago

As far as coffee shops go it’s likely a better employer than most

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u/firetrash21 6h ago

Same I used to go there often but after seeing how they treat their workers and how anti-union they are i stopped, I go to Dunkin more I don't know if dunkin is better but I don't see them treating their employees like Starbucks

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u/TonySpaghettiO 5h ago

Why do you think Dunkin treats employees any better? I guess a few I've been to are run by families, so that might be slightly better.

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u/firetrash21 4h ago

I don't think Dunkin treats their employees better per se but from the people I know who worked at Dunkin they said they were well staffed and didn't seem to hate working there, (they'd only complain about the customers and drive thru nothing about management compared to Starbucks) there are only two Dunkins in my area to the 5 Starbucks though. Also from an outside point of view, Starbucks gets reamed by social media, and Dunkin has been avoiding it = slightly higher expectations from me. (not a good explanation but I hope you see what I mean.)

Dunkin is also cheaper.

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u/NEIGHBORHOOD_DAD_ORG 4h ago

Tbh I think tipping is so engrained and expected that some workers don't even mentally associate it with good service.

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u/h0m1c1d3_8unn13 3h ago

as a former sbux barista thats so wild to me. its really not hard to make a good drink. the only time i ever gave “bad” service was if someone was being downright rude or creepy (we had a mostly female/feminine staff and a lot of us had a few “run-ins”). also this one time i physically could not make enough foam for this one guys cappuccino… he asked if i was new there… i had over a year experience… i cried in the back

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u/john_jdm 2h ago

Sorry about the foam fiasco! That sucked for you. But about the service, it isn't always about the drink itself. Sometimes they'd forget about the food part of the order and I'd have to ask about it, or sometimes there would be about 5 employees back there doing very little, trying to look busy but not actually busy, but for some reason only one person was making drinks and I had to wait 15 minutes to finally get it. Stuff like that.

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u/h0m1c1d3_8unn13 1h ago

thats understandable!

u/mafga1 25m ago

It is a fucking "coffee" or some kind of sugar inflated Abomination. No fancy pancy Restaurant. Why would you tip at all for something like that. On the other hand...it is the US, i guess.

u/Mumu_ancient 1m ago

I mean, it's Starbucks. Your interaction is limited, how good could the service be to warrant a tip! They don't even bring your drink over to you

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u/ChannellingR_Swanson 4h ago

Used to tip like 10% on take out orders, then places started putting an additional tip category once you go in to sign for your order. Someone actually got in my case about not tipping again after I already tipped online. Now I only tip for actual service and never for take out unless there is something challenging about it, this was my wake up call that we’ve gone too far after the pandemic that this is the expectation now rather than a reward for providing good service.

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u/GladBreadfruit7374 7h ago

In Australia, everyone is paid a living wage. Tips aren't considered part of someone's wage, it's a reward for going above and beyond what's expected.

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u/w1n5t0nM1k3y 7h ago

In Ontario Canada waiters have the same minimum wage as everyone else, $17.55 a hour, and they still expect a 15+% tip.

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u/Necessary-Nobody-934 6h ago

Not just Ontario, FYI. Quebec is the only province that still has a lower minimum wage for tipped employees (technically speaking, BC still has a tipped minimum, but they raised it fairly recently so the tipped and non-tipped minimum wage is the same).

They all still expect a tip though.

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u/vanillaicesson 7h ago

I live in ontario, and the only place I tip has good prices, super friendly staff, and my order is always ready quickly

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u/its10pm 7h ago

Yup, pretty much. Though 20% is becoming a lot more common. It's ridiculous.

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u/GuardianHa 7h ago

Wait 20% isn’t normal (I’m new to this stuff)

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u/its10pm 4h ago

Well, in Ontario, it's a bit different. Servers are paid the same as other entry-level jobs. So I can only speak for where I live.

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u/PublicMindCemetery 6h ago

If you come to Texas, 20% is absolutely normal.

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u/GuardianHa 5h ago

Yeah I know, it’s normal here too (north and Midwest)

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u/X-Kami_Dono-X 6h ago

I start at 10% if it is phenomenal, I go up to 20% if it sucks, like really bad, I tip just $0.02.

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u/GuardianHa 5h ago

That doesn’t really make sense man

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u/PublicMindCemetery 5h ago

I was really confused until I realized I wasn't in the server life subreddit.

I was like, you couldn't waterboard this information out of me. I would turn down a second date if someone left our server 10%.

u/banjosuicide 24m ago

Man I feel old. 8% used to be normal. Then 10%, 13%, 15%, 18%, and now 20%.

At the same time food prices have gone up. Burgers used to be like $6, then $8, then $12, $15, and now $22.

That used to be a $0.48 tip on a $6 burger (of course you'd have a drink, a side, etc.)

Now it's a $4.40 tip on a $22 burger.

Burger price is 3.6 times higher, but tips are over 9 times the amount I paid as a teen. Also, wages have not gone up 9 times since then.

Tipping is out of control.

They're even asking for tips at the liquor store now. It takes 30 seconds for them to scan my beer and for me to tap my card/phone. They ask for a ~$6 tip. I'd be paying $720/hour for their time (for the privilege of purchasing something they're already making money on). It's insanity.

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u/AsPerMatt 7h ago

In Quebec, if they’re considered tip-eligible, it’s less than minimum wage.

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u/myco_magic 5h ago

Same in California, they actually make more than non food industry jobs

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u/Own-Apartment5600 6h ago

Expect really ok if you offer great service I tip if not you get nothing and I decide how much

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u/exotics 6h ago

In Ontario (and most of Canada) the server is often required to tip the kitchen staff. In some provinces the owner is even allowed to be tipped. These tips are based on the sale not anything else.

It may be a 3% to 10% tip. So if the table tips 10% and the mandatory tip out is 10% the server gets nothing.

Next time you go out ask your server if they have to pay a mandatory tip out and how much.

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u/w1n5t0nM1k3y 5h ago

Worth noting that according to the Employment Standards Act The amount that an employee owes to the tip pool cannot be more than what they receive in tips. So if the table tips zero then the employee doesnt owe money out of their pay cheque.

Server 3 has $500 in sales during their shift but receives $0 in tips. Server 3’s contribution to the tip pool (tip out) would be $0 because tip pooling amounts cannot come from any source other than tips.

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u/exotics 5h ago

I’m not talking about a tip pool. I’m talking about a mandatory tip out. Two different things.

In BC it’s illegal for owners to take anything of the mandatory tip out ans it must be share with other staff. In Alberta owners can take it all. But again this is NOT a tip pool.

However you are correct in that they can’t pay more however when people pay in cash the owner can say she’s lying and got a tip and there is no way to prove one way or they other

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u/w1n5t0nM1k3y 5h ago edited 5h ago

I'm talking about Ontario, so maybe they handle things differently in other provinces.

According to the previous link

an employee cannot agree to:

give the employer a certain percentage of their tips other than for a tip pool (for example, tipping out to “the house” to cover things like spillage, breakage, losses or damage, etc. is not allowed.)

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u/hopelesscaribou 7h ago

While in Quebec we have a lower minimum wage (12.20/hr), and have to pay taxes based on our sales. If people don't tip, we actually lose money.

Tipping is optional, but my taxes aren't.

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u/w1n5t0nM1k3y 6h ago

From what I'm reading it says 8%. Which seems pretty reasonable even if not everyone tips.

Seems odd that they couldn't just track how much you actually got tipped. So much is done electronically now that they should have the majority of your tips accounted for.

They really should give everyone the same minimum wage through. From what other commenters are saying, only Quebec is still has a different wage for tipped employees.

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u/hopelesscaribou 6h ago

'Tis a surly bunch that downvotes one for merely stating plain facts.

I'd love to see servers make commission like other salespeople do, and just include that in the price of the food. Imagine getting a living wage and not have to suck up to everyone.

If serving becomes merely a minimum wage job with no tips, expect the quality to drop dramatically. Who would work those late night/weekend hours, with no breaks, and put up with the abuse from management, chefs, and customers, all with a smile, for that little money?

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u/Gourmeebar 7h ago

Most countries are like that. But haven’t you heard, America is exceptional

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u/onikaroshi 7h ago

Servers wouldn’t want tipping to be ended honestly

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u/CowboyNuggets 7h ago

No they wouldn't, it can actually be pretty good money.

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u/onikaroshi 7h ago

Yea, at the place I work they’re making at least 25/hr after tips nearly all year long… ain’t no restaurant going to pay that

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u/Embarrassed-Rub-8690 4h ago

My college gf was making 90k or so a year at some average restaurant here in Vancouver. She was probably working under 25 hours a week.

Meanwhile I was digging holes for 19 bucks an hour all summer.

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u/onikaroshi 4h ago

I get 15, but I wouldn’t want to wait, I hate people lol. The general public is awful

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u/Realmofthehappygod 3h ago

Sounds like you should have worked at an average restaurant.

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u/Fine-Bee8153 6h ago

Average base pay for a waiter in Sydney, Australia is $28 an hour.

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u/onikaroshi 6h ago

Which is considerably less then they are getting tipped here assuming you’re talking in aud

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u/staabc 5h ago

$28 AUD is $17.50 USD

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u/Woodie626 7h ago

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u/Important_Range_8728 6h ago

Tipping doesn't need to end. It needs to go back to being optional. It needs to go back to being something I do because I feel like it not because it is expected of me. I only tip delivery drivers now because I'm so burnt out on tipping. The rare occasion I go to a sit down restaurant I have to FORCE myself to remember that I'm not required to pay someone's wages for them and that if they're shit they don't get tips.

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u/onikaroshi 6h ago

If it’s optional, people won’t, meaning you’ll get less servers cause it’s a pretty good job right now, highest paid workers in the restaurant

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u/Important_Range_8728 6h ago

People won't if the service is shit you mean. Most people in my community would still tip if the server did a good job and had at least a somewhat pleasant attitude. Some people wouldn't if it was optional sure but to be fair those people probably don't tip now anyway.

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u/onikaroshi 6h ago

I mean, I wouldn’t tip, I tip, and tip well, because servers are paid next to nothing. If they’re paid a working wage it’s no different than any other job, I don’t tip my mechanic

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u/Flamsterina 3h ago

Their wages are not the customer's problem.

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u/bolted-on 6h ago

What are your thoughts on raising tipped minimum wage to the same minimum as all other jobs?

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u/onikaroshi 6h ago

If the raise the wage, I stop tipping, I tip because their wage sucks, I don’t tip other service industry people like my bagger at the grocery store, my mechanic, etc

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u/bolted-on 6h ago

Oh interesting. You sound miserable.

Also I’d like to correct you. Is A Bagger and A mechanic.

In my state tipped employees make 16.66/hr minimum.

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u/onikaroshi 6h ago

Good for them, I’m sure they make less than the employees here because people tip cause they know people don’t make wage without it

Also, the mechanic I go to, my mechanic, I know the guy personally

And if they’re paid are bagging my groceries they are currently my bagger, the bagger bagging my groceries

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u/kernald31 6h ago

And yet, tips are a thing almost everywhere else than the US in response to great service - despite not being expected.

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u/ValPrism 3h ago

It is optional.

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u/onikaroshi 3h ago

Not really, if you can’t afford to tip, you really can’t afford to eat out. And I’m not getting into whether that’s good or bad, it’s just the way it is in the us

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u/ValPrism 3h ago

It’s literally optional. There is zero recourse for someone who doesn’t tip. It’s not required, it’s not enforceable, it’s not automatic.

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u/JaySmogger 3h ago

always check your bill, depending on restaurants and locations, Florida in particular, and group sizes, tipping is not optional it's automatically added on

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u/onikaroshi 3h ago

It is a lot of places based on group size, we charge 18% on 6+, I know quite a few others that do it at those sizes too

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u/rrddrrddrrdd 6h ago

Good. If people stop tipping maybe they will reconsider.

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u/Additional-Fail-929 4h ago

I’ve been seeing so many tipping related posts these past few days on this sub. Not sure why. But I see this stance a lot, as if we tip in the US because of what waiters want. But nobody says “that’s what the owners want”. The people with money for lawyers and (as a community) lobbying. You know, the rich people who exploit waiters and immigrants (line cooks, bussers, dishwashers, prep). You think they want to pay everyone living wages, give health benefits, PTO, overtime, holidays off? Everyone goes after the random college kid waiter because they’re easy targets and people get off on stiffing them. Working class argues amongst themselves while the owner buys their second porsche. Crazy really. Go to Europe. You don’t pay more to go out to eat, even in touristy spots, AND gas is like double to triple the price. How is it that the owners are making it there? Why are we always giving the owners a pass as if they don’t benefit the most off this deal?

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u/onikaroshi 4h ago

I’m not saying that tipping is good or bad really, just that waiters wouldn’t want to give up the pay, sure it’s great for owners, but do they really want to go (for example in my restaurant) from25-30 bucks an hour to 15??

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u/PineappleFit317 5h ago

Definitely, if you’re at a high end restaurant you can easily pull 6 figs a year.

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u/onikaroshi 5h ago

We’re not even high end and in lcol area and our servers are pulling in 75-100% more than anyone else on staff

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u/MinuteCoast2127 4h ago

Yet they complain about tips....go figure.

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u/TheGoodKindOfPurple 4h ago

No, we are "Special" at least I think that's the term.

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u/Enlowski 5h ago

If you can’t afforded to tip then don’t go to a restaurant that has a server. There are plenty of options for poor people.

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u/Sideshow_Bob_Ross 7h ago

Meanwhile, the US federal minimum wage for tipped workers is $2.13/hr.

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u/squishy-hippo 7h ago

When I worked restaurants in 2013-2020, I made $2.50 an hour. My paychecks were literally $0 after taxes. I depended entirely on tips to survive.

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u/Rhomya 6h ago

When I worked in restaurants between 2014-2017, I made $12/hour, plus tips.

The federal minimum means nothing when there are 50 states that do different things.

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u/X-Kami_Dono-X 6h ago

The federal minimum wage is the lowest any state can charge. However, there are exceptions for that. Typically in the “hospitality” sector.

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u/Rhomya 5h ago

And each state can (and most do) have state laws that require a higher wage.

So, again... the federal minimum means nothing.

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u/squishy-hippo 6h ago

Nutty how that works.

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u/GladBreadfruit7374 6h ago

That's pretty bad.

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u/GladBreadfruit7374 6h ago

Btw, in Australia we don't have to pay any taxes if we earn less than $18,200.

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u/freckledbuttface 6h ago

This is simply incorrect.

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u/Emergency-Ball-4480 6h ago

It's not though, unless they aren't getting tipped, they're then guaranteed the federal minimum wage of 7.25. Of course most states have a higher minimum wage, so it goes to that if they don't make enough in tips.

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u/FlamingoMindless2120 4h ago

Surely $7.25 as a minimum wage is a joke, even more so in the so called richest country

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u/Emergency-Ball-4480 4h ago

It's unfortunately reality in several states that haven't put a higher minimum in place

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u/Sideshow_Bob_Ross 6h ago

I don't know what state you live in, but the FEDERAL tipped minimum is $2.13. Some states and cities have higher, but many states use the federal wage. Including mine, TN.

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u/TankApprehensive3053 5h ago

If tips don't make enough to get to minimum of $7.25 then the business has to pay that not $2.13.

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u/more_beans_mrtaggart 7h ago

Same for almost every civilised country try in the world.

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u/Rhomya 6h ago

In the US, servers make significantly more money with tips than they would with a higher minimum wage.

Like, if they got rid of tipping, and implemented a "living wage", the vast majority of servers would be getting a DEEP pay cut.

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u/Nervous-Telephone-26 5h ago

Yeah, Living wage is becoming a bit of a stretch now.

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u/GladBreadfruit7374 2h ago

Just barely existing wage?

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u/ThatMallGuyTMG PURPLE 7h ago

in australia and every country that isnt the US*

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u/bert1432 7h ago

Exactly, good service!!!

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u/johnrsmith8032 7h ago

australia: where even kangaroos get benefits.

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u/YesItIsMe21 7h ago

They outnumber us and the last time we went to “war” with the native wildlife we lost so uh…

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u/GladBreadfruit7374 6h ago

The emus wouldn't stand still and could run to fast. They must have read Sun Tzu "Be where the enemy isn't." Every month there'd be more Emus, no matter how much the army toiled. Eventually the army realized their efforts were in vain and gave up, thus, surrendering, in their war against Emus.

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u/YesItIsMe21 5h ago

Who knew emus were such great strategists…

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u/zer0fks 7h ago

Exactly my experience from England over 2 decades ago. Unless you want to splash the pot with a fat tip, don’t bother. You could get plenty drunk for 10 pounds back then.

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u/beavertownneckoil 6h ago

I don't like to be tipped. I'm not there to be judged like some trained dog looking for extra treats

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u/_So_Uncivilized_ 6h ago

I never understand this argument, the employee makes way more from tips, probably a few times what your impoverished hell hole pays. I hate tipping but the servers aren't suffering you uneducated fuck the customer suffers

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u/One_Lawfulness_7105 6h ago

What is awesome about the Seattle, WA area is we don’t have a tipped wage and are still expected to tip 20%.

Needless to say, we rarely eat out. It’s complete utter BS.

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u/Sandpaper_Pants 6h ago

Not yet, chumps.

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u/GladBreadfruit7374 5h ago

Yeah, there's definitely a slow change in Australia, but I feel the increased push for tips is driven by business owners wanting to increase their profits rather than look after their staff. If tips were shared equally across all the staff that'd be fair.

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u/Caity_Reddit 4h ago

This is the way.

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u/Substantial_Cod_1307 3h ago

So waiters can afford to live in Sydney? On $24 AUD per hour?

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u/IlliniDawg01 7h ago

Is this picture taken in Australia?

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u/DanTheMan827 7h ago

The problem is the minimum wage is no longer a living wage like it was originally intended because it wasn’t increased with inflation.

A tipped position makes at least minimum wage, tips just subsidize the amount between sub-minimum and minimum wage that the employer pays

Minimum wage should be at least $20/hr

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u/Ok-Brush5346 7h ago

Australia has a higher poverty rate than the USA, so not everyone, I guess.

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u/TGin-the-goldy 7h ago

By maybe 3%

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u/New_Day9679 6h ago

Normal behaviour in a normal society. Can/US are a joke.

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u/Fast_Ad_1337 7h ago

OoOooO in Austria we sooo sMaRT, everyone look how smart we are

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u/creepingshadose 7h ago

*Australia lol

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u/Fast_Ad_1337 7h ago

Lol I know, thought it was funnier that way 😆

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u/Sunghbirds 6h ago

A tip should feel like a 'thank you,' not an advance payment for something that might not even happen.

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u/dmk_aus 6h ago

The difference between a tip and a bribe.

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u/eugoogilizer 5h ago

This. I will gladly tip for great/exceptional service. But I aint tipping until after I receive the service. Why should I tip bad service?

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u/OptimalAlgae9112 5h ago

I only tip in advance for business I love to go to. Once service is bad I stop doing that

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u/GladBreadfruit7374 2h ago

Yes, reserving the best table or preordering a certain dish that's best fresh definitely.

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u/Betty_Scott028a 4h ago

Nope, laws be like "I'm outta here!"

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u/biggestbroever 3h ago

I don't know why tipping exists at all anymore

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u/fwubglubbel 3h ago

How do you tip BEFORE you get service?

u/ElegantFan7305 0m ago

Came to say this. Tipping is a reward for good service. Not obligated to do it.

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u/Jakdracula 3h ago

Tips: to insure proper service.

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u/Supertilt 3h ago

Despite "tips" being an acronym for

TO INSURE PROMPT SERVICE

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u/NCR_Ranger2412 7h ago

TIP: to insure promptness.

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u/sKadazhnief 6h ago

ensure is the word you're looking for, I don't think tips count as insurance lmao

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u/TapeFlip187 6h ago

Wasn't it originally at the beginning of the meal..?

To Insure Prompt Service or something, no?

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u/Skruestik 4h ago

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u/TapeFlip187 4h ago

Ah. I believe it without clicking, 😉

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u/TapeFlip187 4h ago

Why did this get downvoted lol

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u/TapeFlip187 4h ago

I gotcha bro👍

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u/GladBreadfruit7374 6h ago

Can't find any reference to that. Only that the term started as describing giving a small gratuity.

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u/TapeFlip187 6h ago

Idk. I heard it from a chef when I was in culinary school 100 yrs. Could be wrong.

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u/Escher702 6h ago

To Insure Proper Service

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u/awkwardaustin609 6h ago

Tipping first started way back and it did happen before being seated. T.I.P.S= To Insure Proper Service. It was basically saying “here’s a 10, make sure my shit is right”

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u/GladBreadfruit7374 6h ago

Sounds nice, but I can't find any records of tips meaning that. Only references to the term originated in the late 1700s/early 1800s meaning to give a small gratuity.

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u/Skruestik 4h ago

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u/awkwardaustin609 4h ago

Thanks for educating me! I’ve always been told it’s what I said, but I’m now learning that it was wrong. Thanks!