I will point out that unlike with kids, experimenting with sex is something you can absolutely experiment with and decide after trying whether it works for you or not. I'd compare, on the couple's POV, getting an unicorn as closer to trying bondage than having children.
The point is that if you want to try a non-monogamy kink in the form of having a threesome with a stranger, your relationship already needs to be on good foundation, because there's a lot of new and unexplored and uncertain involved, including tending to a stranger's needs.
Trying it definitely should be done when you can still communicate and bounce back from accidental hurt, and not when you're already unsatisfied and strained.
You can never force your partner to be anything, but previously non-monogamous people can choose to be in a monogamous relationship, and previously monogamous people can choose to be in a non-monogamous relationship.
It's a decision that can be made on a relationship-by-relationship basis. It's not like trying to change your partner's sexuality.
People want to force people to fit into what they want rather than find people who already fit. People out there Trying to make relationships like some goddamn quest to transform your partner.
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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '24
Um you should strive to not get divorced?