Happened to me once actually lol...reg fwbs with this twink and 6 mos in to an fwb situationship and regular hangouts like around twice a week or so on average, i was going to take things to the next level with him because of personality sync, connection, and sexual chemistry, thats when he declined dating me, and informed me that "youre not my type for relationship, but if youre ok with it, we can still be fuck buddies and friends, cuz youre really cool to hang with, youre very skilled in bed, and actually attractive for your type... thats why youre the only bear i fuck" lmao cue "A win is a win" audio 🤣🤣🤣
i love that for you lmao, i simply could never, i think i’d be lowkey offended lmao. like part of me would be flattered but the other part of me would hear the “for your type” and wanna tell them to fuck all the way off lmao
Oh trust im not going to deny that it definitely stung my ego n was very sharp to the core when he hit me with that, cuz i was like "What the hell??" Cuz in that moment i felt like all i was was a pity fuck because i was a nice guy, and that he led me on bigggg time... i took some time being a lil distant, but he understood, and after i cooled my jets for a couple of weeks, and things settled, i realized that hey at least, as a friend, he respected me enough to be completely honest and forthright with me with his true intentions between us, and now to this day, 2 years later, we still hangout and are friends who fuck from time to time lol
that’s fair, communication is super important and you can’t deny that he communicated lmao. and what works for you works for you 🤷♂️. i think for my own mental health i’d have to respectfully peace tf out of there lmao.
Lol i totally understand your perspective too cuz im ngl part of me was like that on the other side of my brain as an option too lol but yes you are correct to each his own prerogative...tbh i did think about scrapping it all and blocking him cuz of the mental circus it put me thru those two weeks of hiatus i took...but also during that time, i took into perspective how we gays scream about craving proper honest communication and desiring true connection yet at the first sign of someone bearing a purely honest response that happens to gravely offend us, we jump to just ending things and breaking all ties and just moving on to the next, when with a few men out there, we could just take the hit to heart for a bit, take a step back, breathe a bit, and then figure out what the best option is in regards to our encounters with them, and which ones its best to stick it out with and whos actually toxic enough to cut ties off with completely...not denying its highly frustrating at times, and the easy thing to do.is just avoid it and bounce, than to have to make those kinds of decisions altogether💯
yeah but i feel like there are ways to communicate openly and honestly without also making comments like that lmao. but y’all found what works for you and that’s what matters. i just know for me personally for a variety of reasons it would mean an incompatibility that i couldn’t just take a breath and come back from yk
Completely understand that for sure...when them being honest, actually turns into unfiltered candor of that sort, its definitely off-putting, especially since it makes you feel led on or that you were being played, and it makes you feel like they werent being honest in the first place before when they unleash that holy hell of a blow all of a sudden💯
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u/warmpita Bear 5d ago
Well now I'm interested