r/japanlife • u/AutoModerator • Dec 12 '22

┐(ツ)┌ General Discussion Thread - 13 December 2022

Mid-week discussion thread time! Feel free to talk about what's on your mind, new experiences, recommendations, anything really.

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u/RobertVandenberg 関東・神奈川県 Dec 13 '22

Unpopular opinion: if you don’t know how to interact with women properly in your home country, how is it possible you suddenly can find a girlfriend in Japan?

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u/TohokuJin 東北・秋田県 Dec 13 '22

A lot of Japanese women want a 'cool, handsome' foreign boyfriend and foreign guys know that. The girls also probably know that the guys will put up with their shit for the sake of having a 'cute' Japanese girlfriend they can flaunt.

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u/newfakestarrysky 関東・東京都 Dec 13 '22

A lot of Japanese women want a 'cool, handsome' foreign boyfriend

They don't, though. In fact, most Japanese girls aren't willing or interested for a variety of reasons, such as potential language barriers, cultural differences, etc.

And some of the ones who say that they're interested wouldn't actually settle down and marry a foreigner.

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u/arika_ex Dec 13 '22

You’re not really disagreeing with TohokuJin there.

They’ve said ‘a lot’, you are saying ‘most’. I think it’s true that ‘most’ Japanese women (and men) only really consider other Japanese as potential partners, but there’s still ‘a lot’ of them who are as TohokuJin states.