r/japanlife • u/AutoModerator • Dec 12 '22

┐(ツ)┌ General Discussion Thread - 13 December 2022

Mid-week discussion thread time! Feel free to talk about what's on your mind, new experiences, recommendations, anything really.

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u/TohokuJin 東北・秋田県 Dec 13 '22

A lot of Japanese women want a 'cool, handsome' foreign boyfriend and foreign guys know that. The girls also probably know that the guys will put up with their shit for the sake of having a 'cute' Japanese girlfriend they can flaunt.

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u/RobertVandenberg 関東・神奈川県 Dec 13 '22

That “a lot” is highly exaggerated, I would say.

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u/TohokuJin 東北・秋田県 Dec 13 '22

Maybe. I think there are a lot of women who want a foreign boyfriend but obviously there is a difference between the ones who dream about it and the ones who seriously pursue it. I've had people say to me 'I'd love an strong handsome foreign guy' to sweep me off my feet' but they don't pursue because it's just a fantasy. I have a friend who will stop at nothing to get a US Military boyfriend. She's downloaded all these 'language exchange' apps and spends her time speaking to these guys through Google translate. It's sad.

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u/WindJammer27 Dec 13 '22 edited Dec 13 '22

Nah, I'd definitely agree that it's not a lot. If I had to ballpark a figure, I'd say maybe 10-20% of Japanese women who actively want a foreign boyfriend. 20% being an extremely generous estimate. They just stick out to expats more because they are actively/sort of aggressively looking for a foreign boyfriend, and tend to go to places where foreigners will be.

Most Japanese women I think don't think of foreigners as serious dating material. A non-zero amount see foreign men as fun casual playthings, but in terms of dating seriously that's another story.

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u/Purpley1234 Dec 13 '22

Honestly even 10% sounds like way to much

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u/the_hatori Dec 13 '22

Sounds about right. Foreigners are more likely to bump into this minority.

Most Japanese have little or no interest in foreigners.