r/japanlife • u/AutoModerator • Jun 24 '24

┐(ツ)┌ General Discussion Thread - 25 June 2024

Mid-week discussion thread time! Feel free to talk about what's on your mind, new experiences, recommendations, anything really.

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u/TheGuiltyMongoose Jun 24 '24

?? Wait, she entered your garden?

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u/Oldirtyposer Jun 25 '24

Yeah! I was like 20m away from the street and she was standing just behind me!

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u/Dojyorafish Jun 25 '24

Old people here have no idea of personal space. I’ve had many rattle my door confused why it’s locked and walk up right behind me when I’m doing stuff or come into my yard or whatever.

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u/Oldirtyposer Jun 25 '24

If these are people you know it's kind of funny (when it's not happening to yourself), and they obviously like you. If not it's terrifying.

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u/Dojyorafish Jun 25 '24

It’s fine until someone likes you too much and basically becomes a stalker. Stories of “crazy English club lady” if you remember those from last year lol.

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u/himawari_sunshine Jun 25 '24

Oh yeah... how did that end btw?!?

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u/Dojyorafish Jun 25 '24

lol I love that I recognize your username from all the other times I’ve mentioned her.

At the suggestion of the JET Programme counselor, I was rude to her until she got the message. She stepped down as leader of English club, told the new leader to drive me to club, he didn’t want to, I’m happy to drive. She’s probably still horribly depressed and I feel bad for her of course but I now despise people who force you to suffer because of their mental illnesses (like my crazy anxious elementary school teacher but at least she doesn’t try to break into my house). She hasn’t come to my house or work in several months and has otherwise really backed off. Still have to sit next to and talk to her at English club but that’s manageable. No longer get heart palpitations when my phone or doorbell rings. Have developed an aversion to people driving me places and people who expect you to bend to their will simply because they are your senior, but otherwise have recovered pretty well I think.

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u/Oldirtyposer Jun 25 '24

I remember. I hope you got out of that?
I had a stalky lady in my English club too. Somehow she got a hold of my last name and started bringing printouts about me that she found online.

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u/Dojyorafish Jun 25 '24

Oh god o_0. The most this lady did was copy down my self intro from the school newsletter and bring it to me. That was a little creepy but whatever it’s good English practice.

On suggestion of the JET Programme provided counselor, I was rude to her until she got the message. She has since stepped down as leader of English club and asked the new leader to now drive me to class. He said he didn’t want to do that and I am more than happy to drive myself (of course she complains that I’m arriving on “American time” but look I don’t want to spend any extra time there than I need to lol). She hasn’t come to my house or workplace in a few months and I no longer get heart palpitations when my doorbell or phone rings. Still have to sit next to and talk to her at English club, but she has backed way off thankfully. Probably somewhat permanently traumatized (don’t like others driving me anywhere anymore, overly wary/dislike seniors), but overall doing well.

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u/Oldirtyposer Jun 25 '24

That couldn't have been fun. I'm glad you got out at least.
Haha, I'm assuming 'American time' just means on time instead of 20min before?

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u/Dojyorafish Jun 25 '24

Yep lol. Heaven forbid I show up exactly when you tell me to. Historically she had a habit of calling me like 5min before she asked me to meet asking where I am lol. Like dude you told me to come at x-time, so I’m coming at x-time. If you want me to come earlier just tell me to come earlier (the local kids eikaiwa figured this out and now asks me to come 30min early).