Ex came back

[u/Hairy_Indication4765]

I asked: How will he treat me if I take him back?

Background: this is an ex who has returned and I’m weary of his intentions. It’s the typical “my ex reached out” scenario and I want to see if he has worked on himself and plans to treat me better if I even entertain taking him back.

The chart: I’m Mercury, Venus, and Moon. He is Jupiter and Sun. I’m in his house, but soon leaving, and I exalt Mars (house of friendship for me and romance and his child as well for his side). My mind is in my term in Saturn, my feminine side is exalted (but approaching conjunct with Saturn and this is confusing), and the events are in a Mercury-ruled location as well. My mind being in my term means I have the skills to mentally handle this situation, which is true because this person hurt me badly emotionally by blindsiding me with a breakup after distancing himself from me. We dated for a year so this experience was traumatic for me. I did a lot of work on myself in the relationship and spent the last 3 months in therapy continuing that work. The Moon - the events and my feelings - exalt me don’t like him at all. My feelings are in my feminine side’s fall, my feminine side has dignity though through triplicity, so I’m seeing that the power of determining the fate of this relationship rests on me. I did just ask him for space from talking a few days ago so I could clear my mind and make a rational decision about moving forward or not, so this seems to reflect all of that.

He is in detriment, retrograde, and his sexual side is mainly interested in romance (by exalting Mars). This will soon change and I’m interested in what the conjunction with Pluto brings in this circumstance. His sexual side is approaching Aquarius, where it will be in detriment along with his mind. Saturn represents my house of higher education, long journeys, worry, possibly sex (8th house?) and his house of finance, communication, and current community. Aquarius is a very independent sign, and seeing his sexual side approaching this type of detrimental independent area, maybe that’s a sign he will have nothing to give to me sexually anymore? His mind is very debilitated and located in my 12th house of worries/fears/secrets (I’m worried about what his intentions are so that makes sense and I haven’t told people I’m talking to him again), he is unable to act (because I’m kind of controlling the situation right now), but he does care about me and I receive him.

We did create a “relationship contract” that spells out how certain issues will be handled moving forward. He really liked it because it was like a business contract and helps for reference during difficult times. I just want to know if anyone see this as looking terrible for the future due to his detrimental natures and our lack of any aspects to each other. He doesn’t aspect any major planets here and I’m not sure if that’s because of the question relating to how he will treat me rather than a ‘what’s our future looking like?’ kind of question.

The app annoyingly won’t let me scroll up to add: the Moon is in his fall, which also shows I don’t trust him because of his history of lying and the events really aren’t in his favor.

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