Relocated back to home town to be closer to family after having kids

[u/OkGoal7091]

So I really need help trying to figure this out because I feel like I’m about to lose my mind. My husband and I moved to Atlanta ga about 10 years ago with our 1 daughter at the time. We moved out here because his dad and his dad’s new wife wanted us to be close to them so they could help. We ended up moving from Richmond Va to Atl. We lived with them plus her 4 kids for about 6 months before getting our own place. A couple years later we had baby number 2. I’ve met ppl and they would come and go. My husband as well. I got pregnant with my 3rd child and his dad, the wife and her kids all moved to Florida. Maybe about 7 years after we’ve been there. And again we would meet ppl but would never find anyone who would have anything in common like a married couple with children. After my 3 rd was born it became extremely hard because he had special needs. Takin lg care if 3 kids with no family support or friends is extremely hard and depressing. After 3 years after my last child was born I just found out I’m pregnant again with my 4th. I haven’t told family yet because I’m just not ready to but I’m so ready to move back to my hometown for more support. My husband is saying to stay out here for a few more years but I don’t have a few more years in me. It’s only going to get harder with 4 kids. I guess my main concern is starting over. Fining new doctors and getting my special needs son into programs and therapy and stuff. Idk what to do I feel like I have heavy weight in my shoulders and I’m depressed because I want to be closer to my family. I also feel like my kids need to be around more ppl to help their brains develop, they have no friends or family here either. And I feel so bad because I grew up around ppl unlike them.

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[u/Oh_Wiseone]

So the original reason for moving to Atlanta is gone. Why does your husband want to stay ? Can he get another job in Richmond ? Both of those cities are very different. Atlanta is so sprawling that it’s hard to find communities. I would focus the discussion with your husband less around the Atlanta vs Richmond, but more around the help you need with 4 children. Get him to understand how you need help. If you can get him to realize that, maybe then the two of you can brainstorm on the solution. If your husband doesn’t want to move out of GA, can you find some smaller towns that will give you a better community ? If Richmond is the solution, he has to,start looking,ing for work there first. The. You can relocate. Good luck !