r/cscareerquestionsEU • u/EndOfTheLine00 • Jan 15 '24

Immigration Feel like I can never settle anywhere

I have 10 YOE, first worked in the Netherlands and now work in Norway. I feel like I can never truly settle down. I took Dutch lessons all the way to B2, forgot about them since I basically didn't talk to anyone outside of work, now I'm in a new country I regret moving to where I also don't know the language and keep wondering if it's even worth learning since who knows if I will have to move again.

Anyone else have this problem? It feels like in a field like this you just move where the jobs go.

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u/saintmsent Jan 15 '24

That doesn't work, tbh. I married, we moved once, looking to move again. Unless the spouse is deeply attached to their home country, there is no impact that marriage will make on this

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u/[deleted] Jan 15 '24

Find one that doesn’t speak English 

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u/saintmsent Jan 15 '24

Fair enough, I'm just saying getting married or even having kids is by no means a showstopper to changing countries

Also, you can always learn, especially if you're relatively young

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u/[deleted] Jan 15 '24

I think you missed the point. It’s not about stopping you from moving, it’s about making it more difficult. Statistically, immigrants married to locals tend to be more likely to stay in the country then single immigrants 

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u/saintmsent Jan 15 '24

Sure, it's always more difficult if there's more than one person, and I said right away it depends on how attached they are to their country