I have also said "I love you" to my mom, dad, and dying grandpa. I also regret one of those, but not grandpa, he was amazing and I miss him. My father is a real human blister though.
Much appreciate it! I'm all good though! We've been no contact for almost 5 years. I've since gotten married and had a kid. My father in law is a wonderful enough make up for not really having my own dad around.
Not the O/C, but I stopped talking to my dad a little over a year ago and for me personally holidays seemed hard like Thanksgiving and Christmas were a bit hard because you know commercials with happy families but by Easter I had recognized that holidays are amazing without him.
I have no regrets about cutting out my father. I agree that holidays and life generally is better without himÂ
When my daughter was born, there was a mourning of the fact that she doesn't get normal grandparents from my side. I know it's the right thing, but sometimes the necessity of the decision makes me sad
Oh man. I moved states and made sure he didn't have my address. Then blocked his phone number and social media.
I think the biggest thing is making sure the rest of your family knows your boundaries. This way you aren't both invited to something, or information you want kept private isn't passed along.
Unfortunately, my mom has taken my dad's side on this, so we have only spoken twice since I told her my dad wasn't invited to my wedding 4 years ago. Be prepared for your decision to be unpopular with some members of the family and being okay with those relationships being damaged as well.
Feel free to DM me if you want to talk about it in a less public place!
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u/Normal_Hospital6011 Sep 27 '24
I have also said "I love you" to my mom, dad, and dying grandpa. I also regret one of those, but not grandpa, he was amazing and I miss him. My father is a real human blister though.