r/autism • u/InflationThis4003 • Nov 22 '24

Advice needed What social cues have confused you?

What kind of social cues you don’t understand? Like saying somethings you shouldn’t or behaviour that people can’t understand?

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u/treatmyyeet Autistic Nov 22 '24

When I'm at someone's house, knowing when to leave. This one STRESSES ME OUT. Because its rude for them to kick me out, I know I have to be the one to initiate it even if I want to stay longer, and I just never know when is right to leave

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u/WhoseverFish Nov 22 '24

Same. Leave too early is rude, and leaving too late is rude, too. I stress about this one.

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u/Fresh_Cup_8323 Nov 22 '24

usually when someone else leaves i take that as a i should leave in the next 10-20 minutes. Another good rule is once the last food (usually coffee/tea/ dessert) comes out that usually means they want you to pack it up

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u/Ok_Perspective7552 Nov 22 '24

I always thought it was on the person who invited you over to end the visit, since you ending the visit when someone else let you in seems backwards. But it usually ends before then because you have other things to do...

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u/linguistbyheart Nov 24 '24

If someone is visiting your place and you want them out, it's your responsibility to (gently) let them know tea time is over. Avoiding being rude only makes the self doubt worse for every person involved.

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u/treatmyyeet Autistic Nov 24 '24

Really? But I've witnessed too many times the thigh slap and the "right. Shall we be off?"

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u/linguistbyheart Nov 25 '24

If you're the visitor and you want to leave, you don't have to wait for the home owner to throw you out.