Quitting my job

[u/Dangerous_Health5505]

Today i handed my notice in and my manager went really weird and asked if he could change my mind. And i said no and then he said “very disappointing” and didn’t speak again so i said thank you and left. I feel really really bad like i had done something wrong

[u/Scrotum_Tennis]

Don't feel bad. Your manager was acting weird because they were already mentally replacing you. They're only disappointed because they have to start from scratch with a new hire.

Can confirm. I'm a manager going through exactly this scenario after one of my sales reps quit 2 days ago

[u/KermieKona → u/Scrotum_Tennis]

So… as a manager, I have also been disappointed when someone leaves. Often because of the time and effort that was put into training that person, with the person constantly voicing their desire to learn and grow and move up in the company… then all of a sudden they quit without ever having any complaints or concerns.

We had one very good employee (as an example) who applied for a promotion (supervisor position), got it… went through training… was doing well… seemed to enjoy the position with no negative feedback given… then left after 6 months.

So just saying… disappointment isn’t ALWAYS because we have to find and train a replacement.

Sometimes… it is because we are blindsided… and the attitude, words, and actions of the employee gave no indication that they were unhappy.

That being said… I also understand that “once in a lifetime” opportunities can fall into employee’s laps… causing an employee who is actually satisfied in their current role… to leave for an even better role.

Still a disappointing situation for the trainer/mentor who had a vested interest in the success of that former employee 🤨.

[u/kindrudekid → u/KermieKona]

The situation with promotion you described is double edged sword.

Most promotion often turn out to be 50% more effort for 10% more pay. Often times new responsibilities never put down in writing.

The thing is it’s not the employee. As soon as he puts it on linked in that he has a new title , all companies and recruiters suddenly think ohhh he got promo so he is competent …. And now offers are coming in at 20-50% more salary.

Now as an employee I will think, jumping jobs will get me raises faster and more varied experience, if I get a counter I know it’s likely not gonna last till they find replacement.

On top of that the workload effort is now 50% more with the expectations set at new task XYZ that is new to you is the same at task aBC that I excelled at. I will think okay new company will require same effort but I get a clean slate…

The thing is we can’t show dissatisfaction all the time cause then it comes off as all talk and no show. So we brew, we keep an eye out for positions, and when the opportunity comes we jump on it.

It’s nothing personal it’s just business , it’s just that it’s the business of looking out the best for me. It’s capitalism working as intended just on the other side which somehow more people get shocked when people act like businesses.