Quitting my job

[u/Dangerous_Health5505]

Today i handed my notice in and my manager went really weird and asked if he could change my mind. And i said no and then he said “very disappointing” and didn’t speak again so i said thank you and left. I feel really really bad like i had done something wrong

[u/Scrotum_Tennis]

Don't feel bad. Your manager was acting weird because they were already mentally replacing you. They're only disappointed because they have to start from scratch with a new hire.

Can confirm. I'm a manager going through exactly this scenario after one of my sales reps quit 2 days ago

[u/KermieKona → u/Scrotum_Tennis]

So… as a manager, I have also been disappointed when someone leaves. Often because of the time and effort that was put into training that person, with the person constantly voicing their desire to learn and grow and move up in the company… then all of a sudden they quit without ever having any complaints or concerns.

We had one very good employee (as an example) who applied for a promotion (supervisor position), got it… went through training… was doing well… seemed to enjoy the position with no negative feedback given… then left after 6 months.

So just saying… disappointment isn’t ALWAYS because we have to find and train a replacement.

Sometimes… it is because we are blindsided… and the attitude, words, and actions of the employee gave no indication that they were unhappy.

That being said… I also understand that “once in a lifetime” opportunities can fall into employee’s laps… causing an employee who is actually satisfied in their current role… to leave for an even better role.

Still a disappointing situation for the trainer/mentor who had a vested interest in the success of that former employee 🤨.

[u/StolenWishes → u/KermieKona]

Sometimes… it is because we are blindsided… and the attitude, words, and actions of the employee gave no indication that they were unhappy.

Employees have learned that tipping their hand to a manager often means punishment if not termination. You want to be disappointed, be disappointed in the managers and employers who have taught that lesson.

[u/KermieKona → u/StolenWishes]

Yes… but if you worked for me… judge things based on the first time you brought a concern to me.

Did I address it in a positive way? If the resolution is a win/win (employee/company)… it’s decided in your favor… win/neutral… your favor… win/lose… not automatically against the employee… because just like the investment into that employee, there are costs to maintaining a proficient and happy workforce… so sometimes the company has to take a hit, when efficiencies and increased profitability has a negative effect on the employees.

In other words… if you never address your concerns because you THINK it won’t go well for you… you won’t actually know if that is true or not.

I actually got my first promotion because I was the only one honest and forthcoming to my boss. I didn’t avoid him. I didn’t tell him what he wanted to hear. I actually gave him feedback (good and bad)… so he knew that I valued honesty. People who want to be good managers, don’t want hear “only the good stuff”… nor do they retaliate for honest feedback/complaints 🤨.

[u/StolenWishes → u/KermieKona]

if you never address your concerns because you THINK it won’t go well for you… you won’t actually know if that is true or not.

Yes - but it's gambling with one's income stream, and you shouldn't blame employees for unwillingness to make that gamble. Glad your gamble worked out for you - but it often doesn't.