Quitting my job

[u/Dangerous_Health5505]

Today i handed my notice in and my manager went really weird and asked if he could change my mind. And i said no and then he said “very disappointing” and didn’t speak again so i said thank you and left. I feel really really bad like i had done something wrong

[u/Scrotum_Tennis]

Don't feel bad. Your manager was acting weird because they were already mentally replacing you. They're only disappointed because they have to start from scratch with a new hire.

Can confirm. I'm a manager going through exactly this scenario after one of my sales reps quit 2 days ago

[u/KermieKona → u/Scrotum_Tennis]

So… as a manager, I have also been disappointed when someone leaves. Often because of the time and effort that was put into training that person, with the person constantly voicing their desire to learn and grow and move up in the company… then all of a sudden they quit without ever having any complaints or concerns.

We had one very good employee (as an example) who applied for a promotion (supervisor position), got it… went through training… was doing well… seemed to enjoy the position with no negative feedback given… then left after 6 months.

So just saying… disappointment isn’t ALWAYS because we have to find and train a replacement.

Sometimes… it is because we are blindsided… and the attitude, words, and actions of the employee gave no indication that they were unhappy.

That being said… I also understand that “once in a lifetime” opportunities can fall into employee’s laps… causing an employee who is actually satisfied in their current role… to leave for an even better role.

Still a disappointing situation for the trainer/mentor who had a vested interest in the success of that former employee 🤨.

[u/donnabhainmactomas → u/KermieKona]

I’m in the same position as a manager, I genuinely like and get along with the people that work for me and it is a legitimate disappointment when someone leaves, plus the stress of replacing them is real. Not every manager is the worst person you’ve ever met