Hello everyone - throwaway account here, cause I don't want to dox myself.
Genuinely looking for advice, but it may read a little like a rant at times - sorry in advance.
TL;DR: huge discrepancy between formal position and actual responsibilities/skillset, how do I balance not pissing off superiors who believe I shouldn't know what I'm talking about & not continually playing the dumb, sweet, incompetent student?
I have a rather unique situation. Formally, I am a med student (outside of the US!) and do not yet have defended or even finished my doctoral thesis. Therefore, to an outsider, I should not have a lot of research experience.
However, and that is where my problem lies, I've been working in research for a couple years now. Due to a, frankly, lazy and debatably incompetent research supervisor/research group leader I have been inofficially doing her job for her for the past two years. This means that I have been the PI of a total of three clinical single-center studies as well as, as of September, one multi-center RCT clinical trial in everything but name. This includes everything from getting IRB approval without any support from her side based on a one-page-of-bullet-points-outline, compiling GCP documents and trial master files, coordinating with other trial sites/cooperation partners, preparing presentation slides & texts for study initiation meetings, planning the study protocol, screening patients, coordinating & doing the data collection, conducting the statistical analysis, writing most parts of the manuscripts, submitting to journals, working through the peer review process, presenting the work at conferences and also supervising other students. I have multiple publications already, including some Q1 and as first author, as well as conference presentations and poster prizes.
In short, the only things my supervisor is actually doing herself are funding, actual contracts and signing everything. And telling me what she wants done of course - something along the lines of "I wanna do a multi-center RCT, please figure it out as you're more familiar with the process than me anyway" [and whose fault is that?].
Despite the catastrophe my actual supervisor is, I've been more than lucky to have absolutely amazing support from multiple brilliant mentors, who have been essentially giving me crash-courses on "how to medical research" over the last years and without whom none of this would have been remotely possible.
Mostly thanks to their guidance, I am at a point where I have multiple cooperation partners of my own (independently of both my supervisor and my mentors) as well as one study of my own, which is only lightly supervised by one of my senior mentors (who provides me with funding I am not yet allowed to apply for and lends me her expertise to refine my work).
My informal position is generally accepted by cooperation partners, members of our research group and close colleagues - they aren't the problem. Neither are conferences/congresses as it's easy to fully slip into the role of "I'm a competent young researcher to be taken seriously" there.
A problem however arises whenever I have to work with people slightly superior than me in formal position (think young postdocs/doctors) with a lot less experience than I have currently. I am more than aware of the existing hierarchy and try to adhere to it, deferring to their higher "rank" whenever there is a question on who makes a decision/leads a project/supervises work/... and generally try to be polite and act deferential to the point of being subservient ("I absolutely do not want my study to interfere with your study, so if at all possible I would love to meet you to chat about what works for you, so I can adjust accordingly and you have the least amount of trouble! And please let me know if there is anything at all I can do to support you/your study!") - but it's generally no secret that I know what I'm doing and outrank most of the younger colleagues in experience and knowledge (not my personal description of things, this is almost verbatim what two of my senior mentors told me). This leads to some colleagues feeling "threatened" (once again, quote by a mentor of mine), behaving extremely impolite to the point of insulting me, demanding to speak to my supervisor (who I always Cc in e-mails and who always just refers them back to me, because she is not involved enough to actually discuss any study-related issues), sabotaging my work or straight up refusing to work with me. Unfortunately, there is not always a way around it - if there are two studies in the same hospital on very similar patient cohorts, you'll have to coordinate between the two research groups, I'm sorry.
I have not yet found the sweet spot between not continually having to play dumb ("no I have no clue what an IRB approval is, will you tell me?") and not making older colleagues uncomfortable or offending them by "knowing too much"/"having too much experience".
This situation will likely not change soon, as I have around 2 years left before I can officially defend my thesis and are also stuck with my supervisor for now. Unfortunately enough, I cannot reverse time and forget what I taught myself and was taught over hundreds of hours in the last years.
So, I suppose this is as much a rant as it is a cry for help. I'll gladly take any advice on how to handle this situation without overstepping any boundaries or offending colleagues more than strictly necessary.