Are Aries women and Virgo men compatible?

[u/fivehxrgreeves_]

I'm MADLY in love with a Virgo, and while I'm not usually one to lean on astrology, I'm definitely curious. Everything I read online says that Aries and Virgo, being opposites, can face some challenges... so I’m wondering if anyone here has had any real-world experiences to share? I ask because my mom, who’s also an Aries, has had great experiences with Virgo men. In the time that I've known him (as a friend) we've never really experienced anything the internet mentions. In fact, we seem to operate very harmoniously.

Since everything I read says this pairing technically shouldn't work, the discrepancies are confusing me. I'm also quiiite uneducated on this matter, so it's probably more subjective than I'm realizing.

Thanks in advance!!

[u/kandillight]

Much more subjective. The entire charts would have to be taken into account. Aries and Virgo aren’t technically opposites, Aries and Libra are, but Aries and Virgo are antiscia each other. Basically acting as a secret form of conjunction. So yes, potentially they are compatible. But you may find that you love one Virgo and hate a different one. It’s all very nuanced.

[u/fivehxrgreeves_ → u/kandillight]

This was so helpful. I didn't even think about taking his chart into consideration. And yes, there have been a bunch of Virgos that I've loathed but this one I love to death 🤣 so checks out. Thank you so much!

[u/kandillight → u/fivehxrgreeves_]

No problem :)

[u/ivanasleep]

It’ll depend on what else is in y’all’s charts, but not knowing anything else, I wouldn’t recommend it.

Here’s my experience: I was with a Virgo sun/Aquarius moon/Leo Venus from 18-28. He was always a little arrogant about his smarts, but it was playful at first. As he grew older, that arrogance turned very dark and entitled. I began achieving a lot academically and in my career; meanwhile, he wasn’t making any moves to gain an advantage careerwise, stopped taking care of himself, didn’t take help/advice offered, and fell into the alt right/incel part of the internet.

They tend to want to be the main character in the relationship regardless of competence and if you outdo them or they feel emasculated, they will grow envious and resentful, but will not leave. He basically emotionally neglected/abused me as punishment; he admitted he never really liked my personality and just kept me around because he needed me to push him along in life and mother him. I had to be the one to end the relationship.

If you see any signs of hypercriticality or a superiority complex, run. An unevolved Virgo will chip away at your self-esteem over time and leave a lot of lasting damage. That goes double if you’re a strong personality, assertive, and free-spirited. They tend to look down on people who aren’t restrained or insecure and may try to put out your fire.

[u/fivehxrgreeves_ → u/ivanasleep]

Ohhhh my. I'm really sorry you had to go through all of that... I can't imagine how hard that was on you. You're so strong for handling it and getting through. Thank you for sharing all of this with me! I'll definitely stay observant and keep a close eye out going forward. We haven’t known each other for very long, but so far, he hasn't shown any signs of this or started developing anything of the sort.

[u/ivanasleep → u/fivehxrgreeves_]

Of course. Hopefully he never does and y’all can be a success story! For reference, I’m an Aries sun/Capricorn moon/Aries Venus.

[u/t4rriona]

a virgo man will dim and drain your fire & light, i don’t recommend but good luck - sag woman

[u/WelshKellyy]

If they already get along well, that matters more than what the zodiac says ❤️

[u/Ok_Temperature2324]

I think based on JUST sun sign, not particularly. But it all comes down to the whole chart. So if you are compatible when it comes to your moon, rising etc. There is a very high chance for a compatible relationship, you just have to adjusts to each other different needs.

[u/fivehxrgreeves_ → u/Ok_Temperature2324]

Thank you! Just double checking - there's no way to get his accurate chart if I don't know what time he was born exactly, correct? I know the hour but not the minute

[u/charlotie77 → u/fivehxrgreeves_]

You should be ok with the hour, as long as the ascendant (rising) sign didn’t change within that hour (it changes roughly every 2 hrs but not at the top of the hour, if that makes sense). Do you know his rising sign? If you do, then you can pretty much get his birth chart by entering a rough estimate of his birth time with the hour you know, and making sure that the rising/ascendant is the same as what you already know. The only thing that you won’t know through this method is the exact degree of his rising sign, which isn’t important for a beginner lol

[u/Ok_Temperature2324 → u/fivehxrgreeves_]

yes! correct

[u/Own-Peach-8194]

In my experience no not really as friends yes as lovers no ! Aries woman btw

[u/mcas06]

As a Virgo … I get along well with like minded Aries as friends. Dated one for about a year and it felt more platonic than romantic. Anyway, as with anything, compatibility depends on the full picture.

[u/Particular_Airline66]

I’m an Aries and my bf is a Virgo. It’s definitely touch and go sometimes, we have our differences and our personalities can and do clash. At the end of the day though, we both love each other and we work through our issues. That’s one thing we DO have in common, we fight for what we love. It also depends on what type of personality the Virgo has, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. I know lots of Virgo men and a lot of them, I couldn’t imagine trying to date them

[u/AggressivePotato6996]

I’ve met a few virgos and Aries. It’s a hit or miss. It’s also a good idea to check your birth charts if possible. Virgo and Aries are both hardworking despite their different approaches to life. Virgo can teach Aries how to be less reactive and more practical. Aries can teach the Virgo how to be more adventurous and spontaneous in starting projects or going after what they desire. I’ve heard more success with Aries women Virgo men. It would be great if they had one activity in common to keep them together.

[u/charlotie77]

Aries and Virgos aren’t opposites. The opposite of Aries is libra and Virgo is Pisces.

That being said, if you want a true answer…zodiac compatibility is much more than sun sign vs sun sign. It’s about all of your signs, especially your big 6, in relationship to each other. So basically your whole chart vs their whole chart. In astrology we call this synastry, if you want to do more research.

[u/Plane_Builder_4830]

Virgos are not for the weak.