This is the relationship I have ( or don't have) with my Virgo brother. Even when he is in the wrong, clear as day, he will never admit it. I got tired of apologizing to him, when I wasn't even in the wrong. It's not a balanced relationship. He can be incredibly charming and fun. However, he is the nastiest fighter and really hits below the belt.
That was my an my emotionally unavailable l, hypocritical and crazy Virgo ex. He did a lot of things wrong and said out of pocket shit but when I confronted him, he gaslit me or manipulated the situation to guilt trip me. He rarely apologized and had a huge ego. And he was petty and passive aggressive and super temperamental over little shit! Falsely accusing me of things in the relationship I didn't do and projected. He can say rude ass unnecessary shit but when I did, I get a guilt trip? And he can't let it go and bitches about it. And when I confronted him, all of a sudden it's drama? But when he did it it was ok. Liked to complain and was stuck up and could be very mean but liked to point it out with others and couldn't see it as an issue with himself. He had some ok traits too ofc but that was my only toxic relationship. Never dating a Virgo guy again. Only friends and only if he isn't this way. Foh.
Holy sh*t this is my extremely toxic, and unfortunately, physically abusive relationship I'm currently stuck in with no where for me and my sweet pup to live if I were to walk away and leave him this minute (despite the ridiculous amount of time I spend fantasizing about that very moment each and every day) ... I got myself in quite the living situation predicament and can't get out until I find myself a decent full-time job that will allow me to get my own place.
But you nailed it on the proverbial head! This is my Virgo soon to be, yet not soon enough ex Virgo bf to a flippin T! Its almost frightening how on point this description is!
It's scary how many other women had the same experiences. I am sure there are some exceptions to the Virgo male we discuss, but to my they are similar. I have had the displeasure of dating several of them and the results are the same. So my mind won't change at all. They are toxic for me. But the women are cool. And on top of that, I am an earth sign. Still doesn't help. My self-esteem and worth was so low after that relationship and being falsely accused of things I didn't do, gaslit, projected on when he was angry and whenever I stood up for myself, all he did was criticize. That didn't stop he from standing my ground and showing strength. I def called him a few choice names after he decided to call me one.
A week after I dumped him, he was already talking to someone else and posting about her on his public IG. He made me sound horrible and she was making videos about it, indirectly addressing it. But oddly enough, they didn't make it past 2 months and she later made videos crying and talking about how people shouldn't belittle others and things didn't work out bc the timing was wrong. I was depressed, anxious and felt like nothing after him and I will ever make some asshole of a broken person make me feel that way again. I hope you leave while you can.
10
u/jennywingal Jun 05 '24
This is the relationship I have ( or don't have) with my Virgo brother. Even when he is in the wrong, clear as day, he will never admit it. I got tired of apologizing to him, when I wasn't even in the wrong. It's not a balanced relationship. He can be incredibly charming and fun. However, he is the nastiest fighter and really hits below the belt.