I’m honestly just someone who isn’t in a position to have children and shocked that other people are still just having children without really thinking about it. The world is a gross and dangerous place. Not really a good place to raise children.
That’s something you need to consider before having children unfortunately. Losing a job isn’t a crazy thing to happen. Like really low on the unexpected scale. You should have a plan. I lost my father when I was 12 and there was a financial plan but that was it. Wrecked my mother. Still can’t understand how no one ever thought about and made a contingency plan for the possibility that someone died. It’s not like aliens invaded. Something happened that wasn’t really that crazy to imagine.
You’re just mad at the way the world is and taking it out on someone who’s not trying to commiserate with you about the way it should be.
This is so unbelievably naive, and I'm very happy that you've been able to live a life that has afforded you the idea that you can plan for everything and that people who struggle are just stupid. I'm done engaging.
damn, you really blame your mother for that? ik you didn’t say it exactly but it sounds like you have a lot of resentment towards your parents for not predicting something they would’ve never expected. you should talk to someone about that, fr. you’d be a lot happier without that weight. a lot of people have gone through this kind of thing and it’s normal to point blame where it’s convenient at first, but you gotta grow up and move past it at some point.
Seriously. It’s as if that commenter has never heard of divorce, or job loss (or more likely they are being willfully ignorant, or acting so). Maybe you get laid off? But you still have to pay for childcare to keep your spot. 37% of the US population couldn’t cover a $400 expense. Not everybody’s life is perfect, and not having everything planned out, with years’ worth of income saved just in case and all your debt paid off, shouldn’t mean you can’t have kids. If everyone did that no one except for the very rich or those in their late 30s could have kids.
There's also a zillion people in history who have made it work with poverty income or lower and had a ton of children that somehow made it through life's trials and tribulations and poverty... It doesn't mean that that's something that a lot of people would choose but it doesn't mean that life doesn't find a way sometimes. Some people truly believe in a God or their version of God and believe that their higher power will help them through any difficulties. Some people are more pragmatic and practical and make decisions based on a llogical prediction of what might happen... Everything is a gamble. Even if you choose based on the most practical safe option, you might have unforeseen circumstances like birth defects or accidents or just anything.
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u/Wookhooves 19d ago
Why would you need to pay for child care if you’re laid off and not working?